DO ANY MOMS HAVE SPOILED BABIES? HOW DO YOU HANDLE?
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No problem, Qiana. Also, every kid is different. My girls (twins) only had seperation issues a handful of times at random (first time at 18 months, then a couple different occasions between 3-5 years). My son, on the other hand, started around 6 months and hasn't really stopped yet... and he's two. Different personalities play a BIG part in a child's level of seperation anxiety.
Lissa - posted on 06/06/2010
Agree with everyone, separation anxiety, it is very scary for a baby to realise they aren't part of you and you can just leave them behind. Lots of reassurance is needed at this time, it will pass as the baby gets older and realises you may go but you always come back. I used to give something of mine like a soft sweater to hug that smells like mum when I had to go out.
Amber - posted on 06/05/2010
Totally separation anxiety, NOT spoiling. My son has gone through at least 3 stages of this... one at about the same age as your son, then again at 18 months and sometimes does it now at 3. It breaks my heart but it is completely normal, you are his favorite people, he is most comfortable with you so ut us to be expected. Just bare with it, it will pass :)
Melany - posted on 06/05/2010
I'm still from the thought that you can't spoil a baby. Separation anxiety is real. It peaks at about 15-18 months, so you are in it for the long haul . . . Babies need to feel security and know they are loved. Again, reassure them. It's tough, but in order to take a shower, I used to put mine in a exersaucer and put in a Baby Einstein DVD.
Nikki - posted on 06/05/2010
8-10 months is prime age for seperation anxiety, its a phase , almost all babies go through just be patient and understanding around other people. My son was the friendliest lil boy until the world until 8 months hit and if it wasnt mommy or daddy holding him he would cry his little eyes out. Your baby is coming to terms with the fact that you are not part of them and can be seperated at thats a scary feeling for them so they want to avoid that by keeping you close. The phase will pass, my sons almost one now and its been a couple months since he was like that. he still wants his mommy and daddy but loves attention from anyone else. Just comfort your child if you need to get things done in another room talk to them and say mommy will be right back and so on........... I really dont think you can spoil a baby because you are letting them feel safe and secure.
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Rachel - posted on 03/06/2012
i know my baby is spoiled but when her dad comes home she is fine. sometimes when she is tired and she wants me to put her to sleep i just put her in the crip and turn her night light toy thing on i dont want her to get into the habit of me putting her to sleep.
Tanya - posted on 06/09/2010
I believe every child is spoild in his or her own way..I have month old and she is spoiled, but she is showered so much attention by everyone not just myself and my husband because i don't want her attached to certain people..you just need to know when enough is enough so it soesn't get out of control as the child gets older...
Tracy - posted on 06/08/2010
thank you this helped me as well bcos i am a working mom and we would have a fight with my hubby about how i am spoiling him by always attending to him even when he cries for no reason at all. i feel much better after reading all the comments.
Sherry - posted on 06/05/2010
sounds like a clingy phase.. they go through this a couple of times as they grow up... You can't really spoil a baby and actually the more attention you give the babe now the more likely they'll be secure in their decisions and quite independent later
my son is the same way right now.. always wants to be at mom's feet or held or cuddled or just THERE... so we try and let him.. when he's calm he can play by himself just fine... but mom's his security blanket.. and you know what... I wouldn't have it any other way.. things will change soon enough.. I'm not about to help that particular aspect along
Jodi - posted on 06/05/2010
As Teresa said, that sounds pretty normal. It's not spoiled. At that age, they are becoming more aware of the world around them and don't like to be separated from their primary carers, so can get a little clingy. With my kids, I used to either put them in a sling and carry them around with me while I got things done, or put them in a bouncer, and have the bouncer next to me, or in the same room. That way, I could keep them close and make them feel safe, but still get things done.
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