Do any of you ever feel like your kids deserve better?

Esther - posted on 05/11/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I think I do a decent job as a mother. My son is loved to pieces and is very happy, confident and secure. He's also developing on or ahead of schedule in every way and wants for nothing. My husband and I are happily married, have been together for a long time, are both completely plugged in with our son, both have jobs, make a slightly above average income (although for our area definitely below average) etc. However, sometimes I look at my son and am just in awe of him and I just want him to have it ALL. My husband and I have regular jobs, nothing prestigious, we both dropped out of college (BIG BIG mistake, no question) and we live in a small condo without a yard. I know that kids need love more than material things. I don't believe in over indulging. I definitely don't want him to turn into a spoiled brat and I know that he has it better than many kids out there. But sometimes I still can't help but feel almost sad that we can't offer him everything. Do any of you ever feel like that?

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Samantha - posted on 01/11/2014

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I'm blessed to have my son. He's going on two monthsfeel as though he deserves better. Like I should give him up. I love him to pieces I'd give him the world if I could. His father beat me and I got the courage to leave before he was born. I feel like not having the farther around makes him not have that figure and not have all the love and support he needs. I would give my son my life so he can survive. He has all his necessities and has plenty of toys. He's well fed, he's perfect in everyway. I just feel like he deserves a more "complete" family.

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Mary - posted on 09/20/2010

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I feel God could have picked someone with better patience for my kids. I don't think anyone would love them the way I do though. They are the air I breath and I could not live without them, I don't feel sorry for me because they have special needs, but I worry if I'll make the right choices and take the best care of them. We don't have a lot of money right now but I'm in college and I work full time so that someday I can give them more.

Jayne - posted on 05/11/2009

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Of course! For me, I just come back to what is really important to me--being a good person and a steward of the earth are my top priorities so I try to gear my kids' activities around those two goals and try not to let myself get too worried about the rest. Well raised children will make good choices. Good luck!

Mary - posted on 05/11/2009

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I feel that way sometimes too. We have a home with a yard and all but We do have money troubles sometimes. I am on maternity leave (that will be ending soon) and Jamie (the dad) has a full time job but we just get by. When my leave is up I would like to stay home but I know we couldn't due with the one pay cheque....but then again child care is so expensive and I must admit being a first time mom I don't want to leave him at a daycare, lol.



My son Jayden is 9 months old and he is a happy boy but we don't get to go places to often because we don't have a car. It bothers me that I can't take him places so that he can see new things. I want to take him to the mall so he can see all the people....I want to take him to the park so he can play with other kids but the parks are to far away to walk there. I just feel like I have him shut in.



So I totaly understand what you are saying! You want to be able to take them all over and give them everything you might not have had...without spoiling them, lol...but The most important thing is the love and attention we give everyday and that's what is important!

Eva - posted on 05/11/2009

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Time with your child is very precious. Time builds a bond that no one can break! Yes I feel that way too sometimes but i try to push it out of my mind because I know mychildren have a good home. I pray that God reveals to me that I am a good parent and that through him I can overcome all of life's hurdles. Just always remember no person can raise your child better than you can cause that is your gift from God!

Esther - posted on 05/11/2009

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Thanks Erinn! So are your kids. The picture of Noah holding Ava is just precious.

Erinn - posted on 05/11/2009

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I know exactly what your talking about, I feel the same way about my children! I want the best for them that life has to offer!! BTW...... your son is VERY adorable!!!

Esther - posted on 05/11/2009

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Right. And it's not just the "stuff" side of it. Sometimes I just feel like we are such plain people and I think he's so remarkable (don't worry, I'm not one of those parents who thinks their kids are "gifted") and I'm so proud of him and love him so much that I don't want a "plain" life for him. I want the best of the best of the best.

Erinn - posted on 05/11/2009

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I sometimes feel like that.... like you said... LOVE is more important than material possessions, but it can be tough not being able to go on little family vacations with the fam. Both my hubby and I are currently unemployed (which sucks), we live off his unemployment checks and seem to squeeze by, but it would be nice to have some extra money to be able to do fun stuff with! Our children are both young.... 3year old son and 6 month old daughter, but it makes me feel soooo good to know how much love and attention they get!

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