Do I continue to breastfeed?

Megan - posted on 04/08/2011 ( 21 moms have responded )

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My 8 Month old daughter has been super grouchy lately. She has developed this absolutly horrible cry/scream! Sometimes when I am trying to feed her, she absolutly looses it! She wont even take her suckie, which is very odd, as she ALWAYS wants it!
My breasts dont feel as full anymore. Last time my supply went down I took Fenugreek. It upped my suply within days! I actually had to stop after taking it for 4 days because I was too full.
I've been taking it for about a week now, and dont seem to see a change.
Every time I try to nurse She just cries and cries. I gave her 2 oz of formula i mixed to see if she would take it, and she just gulped and gulped it. I think she is starving, and my breastmilk isnt cutting it for her anymore :(
Have any of you had any experiances with this? or any advice on what I should do? Should I just start giving her Formula?

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Dorte - posted on 04/10/2011

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If your daughter sleeps though the night regularly your production will adjust and your breasts will never feel full. That is normal, and not a sign that you don't have enough milk. Pumping can also be a very unreliable indicator of production. If your daugther was content nursing before you started the Fenugreek I think you can assume that you were making enough milk for her, and you can safely try to cut out the Fenugreek.

Does she have a cold or is she perhaps recovering from one? The fact that she wont even take her paci hints that the problem has more to do with the sucking than your milk. Not sure why she would take a bottle though, but if you are using a fast flow nipple it may not take much to get the milk out of the bottle.

On a personal notes, I have been unable to pump any milk at all since my daughter was about 10 months or so, but she is still happily nursing and gaining most of her liquids when I am with her from the breastmilk. The same thing happened with my first child. I think it is normal that it gets hard to pump as the baby starts eating more solids.

Jenni - posted on 04/09/2011

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I struggled to nurse my daughter from the age of 2 months-8 months she was doing exactly as you described. Screaming and refusing the breast. I laid in bed all day and night nursing, pumping after every feed. 3/4 of my day was spent feeing her and doing something related to feeding her... and she was still starving all the time! Her 6th and 7th month she only gained half the weight she was suppose to and I had also introduced solids. I was so depressed, frustrated and overwhelmed. I tried everything under the sun to get her to feed. So I know the agony and disappointment you must be experiencing. :(

It is a very personal decision to make but I feel if it is doing you and your baby more harm than good then don't feel guilty about having to make the switch. When I *finally* did (I'm stubborn and was so dead set on making it to 2 years) the depression and frustration immediately lifted and I was able to enjoy my baby girl again. We were both happy with my decision. You have no idea how good it felt the first time I gave her a bottle of formula and for the first time she was satisfied after a feed. She lay there so full and fat and contented. It was heaven.

I continued to pump as much as I could and added it to her bottles of formula until that was no longer worth the effort. (I was only pumping 1/2 ounce per 30 min session).

One thing I would rule out first however, is teething. It takes much less effort to drink from a bottle than the breast. And nursing babies struggle more with discomfort associated with feeding. You could try giving her a cold cloth to chew on before a feed. You could suppliment while pumping to keep up your supply in case you change your mind or it passes. I would also recommend nursing her at night more often. This was the only time my daughter would nurse successfully and probably accounted for her not losing weight.

Aleks - posted on 04/09/2011

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Would it be possible that you MAY be pregnant? Babies can react to the change in breastmilk even in very early pregnancy. That is why I ask. That change is what may be causing her to protest and call a "nursing strike".
Its the only thing I can think of that would cause such a reaction.
Either that, or you have had some change in your diet and whatever it is that you have inclueded has some bad effects on her, ie suffers some kind of allergic reaction or food intollerance.
:-) I hope my 5cents helps some...

Keera - posted on 04/08/2011

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My son only went through about 5 months because he started refusing it. I was pumping but when I was away I would always have to go get him early because he was drinking all the pumped milk. So I introduced formula with cereal & other bottles of breast milk (this was around 2-3months). By 5 months he was completely refusing the breast milk even in a bottle.

If you pump you could maybe try giving her infant cereal with breast milk in it & then feeding her. Or if you are ok with her going on formula it will be fine too. Congrats on giving her breast milk this long =]

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Megan - posted on 04/13/2011

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Thank-You everyone for all your help! Looks like we are back on track! Been successfully breastfeeding without trouble since yesterday afternoon! Dr. Prescribed me Domperidone. I knew it was my supply! I just didnt feel full anymore! :) SOO Glad I stuck it out and didnt resort to formula!

Juanita - posted on 04/12/2011

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Hi Ashley I am pretty sure it is ok for you to stop breast feeding I have three children 1 stopped at 5 months 1 at 1 year and 6 months and 1 at age 3 and they all turned out to be healthy adults breast feeding all depends on the time you have and the first 4 months is the best time after that you start introducing formulas and cereals and soften food

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I would keep nursing but give her table food too. My oldest went thru phases where he didn't seem like he was satisfied doesn't mean anything is wrong. Since you have been nursing for 8 months feeling empty is normal. I was unable to pump a drop and felt empty yet my son nursed until his 1st birthday. Your body just knows the exact amount to make and not a drop more. She could also be teething I know that sucking hurt my son when he had new teeth coming in even though he really wanted to nurse. Nursing involves more work than drinking from a bottle so if her mouth is sore that could be part of it. Hope this helps!

Juanita - posted on 04/12/2011

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At 8 months it's ok if she is on a nursing strike she should be having meals from the family pot at this age so don't worry about it too much. Give her mashed potatoes, cereals blended fruits ect.good luck

Dorte - posted on 04/10/2011

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That sounds wonderful! You are very right that there is a lot of information that seems aimed at getting people to worry, worry, worry. My personal opinion is that a lot of breastfeeding issues are due to mothers worrying too much. My guess is that you are just fine, but obviously talk to the pediatrician.

I wish you all the best of luck!

Megan - posted on 04/10/2011

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I just thought she wasn't getting enough, as she has only gained 4 oz in over a month.
I am going to quit the Fenugreek all together.
I actually just got done nursing her!! She fell, asleep but I kept her latched and she still sucked away. Hopefully she was getting milk, and not just sucking.
*fingers crossed* that she starts to continue to keep on nursing.
Maybe she isnt gaining alot because she is soo active.
I guess we will see if the Dr. has concerns, or if he thinks everything is still going good.
Public Health sometimes throws everything out of porportion and makes you worrie and worrie, when its nothing. I should be listening to the Dr and not Public Health Nurses i guess.

Megan - posted on 04/10/2011

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Before, she even started her "strike" my breasts just werent full anymore. When she used to sleep through the night, I'd get soo engourged by morning, and she even slept through the night a few nights ago, and it still felt like i hadly had any milk. I have been pumping, and i got 1 once between the two last night and tried this morning, since she wouldnt nurse, and i didnt even get enough to even cover the bottom of the bottle.

Dorte - posted on 04/10/2011

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What I am wondering how you knew that your supply dropped? The reason I am asking is that it may be related to your daughters nursing strike.

Megan - posted on 04/10/2011

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I started taking fenugreek, as my supply had dropeed alot. I took it before and worked WONDERS! I actually had to stop it within 4 days, as I had TOO MUCH milk. It doesnt seem to have made a difference in the 2 weeks, Ive been taking it.

Dorte - posted on 04/10/2011

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Usually when babies this age have "nursing strikes" it is a temporary thing. If you want to wean you can use it, but if you are not done yet there is no reason to stop. Often mothers never find out what caused it, but if you keep offering she is likely to get back to it.

First, I would definitely try to stop the fenugreek to see if that is the culprit. I am wondering though why you started taking it in the first place, you must have had a reason to believe it was necessary?

Changes in taste could be a reason. The Fenugreek can do it, if you are pregnant or if you have your period back that may be it too.

I would make sure to get her ears checked. It can hurt a lot to suck with an ear infection, and sometimes there aren't really other symptoms.

Good luck with it!

Megan - posted on 04/10/2011

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I have another question.. I have been taking Fenugreek for the last week, to increase my supply. She has gotten extreamly crabby the last few days. Could she be having side effects from it?

Annette - posted on 04/09/2011

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at this point is a personal choice.. my son refused the breast at 6 weeks old.. i was devistated.. but, life goes on.. when i spoke to his pedi. he said to go ahead and mix some cereal in a bowl and spoon feed him.. make is watery like formula.. he will turn his head when he didnt want anymore.. but , he said never put cereal in the bottle because babies suckle for comfort.. and putting the cereal in the bottle will be like force feeding..
if you choose to keep trying to nurse then you can always try pumping inbetween feedings to encourage more milk.. as you know already it is supply and demand ... i hope this helps...

Jennifer - posted on 04/09/2011

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Is your baby taking some solids, like pablum? You could try feeding a bit of that before feeding to take the edge off for her.
My breastfed babies tended to gain most of their weight in the first 6 months, and then only a few pounds from 6-12 months, and that is a normal pattern for breastfed babies.
I agree with the post about teething, and that could be combined with a growth spurt too. It is hard to relax and have a good letdown when you and your baby are stressed out by recent negative nursing experiences. I hope you are able to push past this bump in the road, because it will probably get better after a little time. Just remember that if you supplement with formula too much you could negatively affect your milk supply.
Kudos for sticking with it so far, and best of luck with which ever way you choose.

Megan - posted on 04/09/2011

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Thank-You ladies :)
My daughter nursed awesome this morning twice. then this afternoon, not so well, I finally gave in after trying about 5 times and gave her a bottle and she guzzled it, when my hubby took it away, she absolutly lost it on him!
I will keep trying to breast feed, I really hope I can continue. I was in absolute tears last night, as I really really wanted to nurse until she was a year for sure!
But your right, I do have to do what is best for her. She has only gained 4 Oz since February 22nd, and that really worries me.
I go see our Dr. on Monday, so I guess we will see what he says...
Thank-You ladies for all your wonderful support and GREAT advice. It has helped ALOT!

Bonnie - posted on 04/09/2011

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You know your baby best and what you are most comfortable with. You gotta do what is best for both you and your baby and that is for both of you to be happy.

Tina - posted on 04/08/2011

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You've done really well to have breast fed this long and given her a really good start. If what she really wants now is formula there is no harm in giving it too her.

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