Do I give up on potty training after working at it for 4 months?

Valerie - posted on 03/07/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I started potty training my daughter when she was 22 months old. I watched a couple of my friends use the 3 day potty training guide with great results, so we decided to use that too. We were not so lucky. We are now going on 4 months of trying to get her to tell us when she has to go and frustration is really starting to sink in. She will pee on the potty as long as I take her, but if she has to go she will just go in her panties. And she will poop on the potty a little bit but save most of it for when she is supposed to be napping (I take her just before her nap as I know that that is her usual time). It has become a huge power struggle and I hate being frustrated with her. So far we have kept it a happy experience but I am on the verge of a meltdown. I am thinking of just taking a break and that with me not bugging her about it she might just do it herself. But on the other hand I am scared it will ruin all of the progress we have made!! Help!!

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/07/2013

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It doesn't sound like she is ready to do it on her own. So either continue taking her to the potty on a regular basis, and don't expect her to tell you when she needs it, or just take a break from it for a bit. Potty training is harder when the child is not ready. They have control over this, you don't.

Sally - posted on 03/11/2013

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Potty training can be fast and easy IF you wait until the child is ready. No two children are going to be ready at the same time or in the same way. Getting into a power struggle with her will only make it take longer. Little kids are all about control and this is one of the very few things in her life that you cannot control. Pushing too hard can make her do some really unhealthy things to "show you who's boss". It's not worth it.

Dove - posted on 03/07/2013

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Potty training should not be a stressful, frustrating experience for either of you. I'd let her take the lead here and put her back in diapers until she is showing more initiative at taking herself to the potty.

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2013

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She's not ready... Take a break... Slooooow down... She's still very young... Don't worry... She will go to the bathroom in the potty when she is ready...

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Valerie - posted on 03/11/2013

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Thank you so much ladies. You gals are all right, I was just feeling guilty about stopping after 4 months! We have decided to take a break! And I already notice a big difference in her attitude. She is so much happier and relaxed. Way less tantrums. I should have done this a long time ago. She is a very headstrong, stubborn and independent child. She will do it on her own time for sure. Now I know better for the next one too!! Thanks again, I feel much better hearing it from other moms.

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