Do I have ground to stand on??

Jac - posted on 08/15/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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My boyfriend wants to take our daughter that we share to an amusement park with his ex girlfriend and their two children that they share. They will be riding in the same car. I wasn't invited. He claims that he is doing it for the kids. Should I be mad?

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Sherri - posted on 08/15/2012

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Ya I would be pretty darn pissed off. It would be everyone including you or no one would be going.

Dove - posted on 08/15/2012

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Um.... he wants to take the daughter that you share together off on an adventure with his EX and their kids and you aren't invited.... correct? Hell no! If he's doing it FOR the kids then either both mother's would be invited (yeah... awkward) or he would take all the kids with his CURRENT girlfriend (you). They aren't 'family' anymore and if it's really for the KIDS as he claims.... why wouldn't the mother of one of the kids be included?

I smell a rat.

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Jodi - posted on 08/15/2012

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"I don't see an issue with him spending the day with all his kids. My issue would be that he's spending the day with his ex as well....."

Yes, I can understand that. Maybe he is just wanting to show his other kids that mum and dad are getting along fine. I don't know what the relationship is, but MAYBE the ex wouldn't let him take the kids without her and your boyfriend is caught in a difficult situation and this is the only way he can see them. I'm just saying that there are reasons that could very well be legitimate.

Denikka - posted on 08/15/2012

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Maybe you weren't invited BECAUSE he's going with the ex.
If they have children together, there's no reason they shouldn't spend a day together every once in a while as a family, just them. Maybe the plan was originally with just them, and then he decided that your daughter may enjoy it too and they decided to take all of the kids.
It could be extremely awkward to have both you and the ex along.
Based on JUST what you wrote here, I wouldn't be overly concerned. I may be upset, and feel slightly left out, but I wouldn't be jumping to any conclusions. Perhaps suggest doing something with just the 3 of you at a later point.

Dove - posted on 08/15/2012

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I don't see an issue with him spending the day with all his kids. My issue would be that he's spending the day with his ex as well.....

Jodi - posted on 08/15/2012

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I can see why you may be mad, but actually, you really don't have any right to put a stop to it. She is his daughter. He could have chosen not to tell you he was also taking the others.

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