Do i have the right to make the decision to let the father see his son?

Carolina - posted on 04/12/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I just got out of a relationship and now the father wants to see his son but i dont want to because the father went to far by abusing me in front of his 4 months and then i tried to leave and he gave his son to his mom but in a way it was like he threw him to her. He is saying that i cant make a decision to say no to him. I want him to change and to suffer on what he could lose. Can i tell him no when he wants to see his son?


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Dove - posted on 04/13/2012




If you have documented proof of the abuse... go to court and seek supervised visitations. As much as I can understand you wanting to see him suffer (I would too and I hope he does), using your son against him is not the way to do it. Your son does need to be kept safe if your ex is a danger to him, but they still have a right to see and know each other.

Liz - posted on 04/13/2012




As your son's father, your ex has a right to see his child. If you believe that your son is at risk with him, due to the abuse that you suffered, you need to file a custody claim and present this in court, so that your ex would be judged able only to have supervised visits etc.

Don't just tell him that he has no rights to see your son, as this will go poorly with you when you do eventually take it to court.

Michelle - posted on 04/13/2012




I agree with Medic. Don't use your child to get back at your ex. He is the father and yes, he has a right to see his child.

Medic - posted on 04/12/2012




You could tell him no but it will make you look like an ass if ya'll go to court. Children are not pawns to use against the other parent.

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