Do I have to provide everything for the kids father when he picks them up just because he pays child support ?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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Well, that is his own damn fault...just because he can't keep his dick to himself that means you need to suffer?!? Send the kids with bare minimum and let he know that is how it will be. If he cannot supply essentials for the kids, he will be losing his custody.....and probably paying MORE child support.

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I'd trade the child support if it would make him disappear, but it, obviously, won't. So instead.... I just get to worry like crazy about their safety and well being 2-3 times/year.

6 more days and they are HOME.... for at least 5 months. ;)

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Katherine - posted on 07/22/2011

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No. He should be providing the diapers, formula, food and sometimes clothing. Because what happens is you won't likely get them back. I am going through this with my ex. He never gives their clothes back!
As far as the other things, it doesn't matter that he pays child support! He still needs to provide the other necessary things.

Jodi - posted on 07/22/2011

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In answer to the OP, it probably also depends on where you live. Here in Australia, child support is also calculated based on the amount of time a child spends with dad. So a father who has a child every other weekend will actually have his child support reduced by almost HALF because it is considered that he pays some of the costs of raising the child (ie. clothes at his house, bedroom for them, costs to feed them, etc), which I think is bullshit because I was never able to enforce my ex to keep clothes at his house for my son. Instead, I supply everything, but anyway, that's a different story........

I would suggest checking if there is anything in your agreement.

And don't feel bad Dezaray, if these men are man enough to get a woman pregnant, they are man enough to pay to raise the baby. Honestly, I can't understand men who cry about having to pay child support, someone should sterilise them.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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WOWZA! Well, now you cannot say you haven't received a penny from him for the kids! LOL, sorry bad joke.

Well, at least they are having fun. Soon they will be safe and sound at home.

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Well.... bad sunburns, riding a 'rocket bike' w/ no helmet, missing meals on occasion, my son swallowed a penny. I think that about sums it up. They ARE having a good time and love their baby brother... and stepfamily, so that's all good, but I'm obviously very worried about their safety and well being and I miss them like CRAZY!!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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Oh, that is right, they are meeting the new baby. I thought they were home by now. How have your kids been doing?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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I get really upset about child support. My mom was on her own for many years rasing 3 girls and working 3 jobs. It was horrible. She never even tried to get a penny. She wanted him out of our lives, and the less she asked from him, the less likely he would want to be involved. He is no longer alive, and I have never met him.

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Not really. I think the child support payment that got made (state gets it all until I'm off cash assistance) in April was from their tax return from thier 'shave ice shop'.... which they NOW no longer have. That is speculation on my part though.

I have no doubt that CSEA and the state WILL catch up w/ him, but it's just a matter of how many years it takes. The mom of a friend of mine said a couple of years ago that a guy she knows just went to jail for nonpayment of child support... and the 'kid' he wasn't paying for is an adult already.

It annoys me, but isn't worth stressing over when I've got enough on my mind already. ;)

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If he can't afford to support the kids he already HAS... he has no business making another one. That's his own stupidity.

Said by the woman who's ex owes over $25,000 in child support and his new son was just born last month.....

Dezaray - posted on 07/22/2011

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I tried telling him that but I think it's because he has a third one on the way with his girlfriend so that's 3 kids within 3 years and he tries to make me feel bad for putting him on child support because he says I'm taking all his money I shouldn't have to feel bad right !!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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You should not have to send him with a bunch of ANYTHING...he is a grown man who can drive to the store and buy what he needs.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 07/22/2011

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I would check with your lawyer on that one. His child support does not mean he does not have to provide things for the kids when he is with them. What, does he expect you to send them with 3 meals per day also? Geesh....I suppose just packing the diaper bag is always an essential....but he should also have diapers and wipes and of course food and cloths at his place.

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It depends on the situation. Since you have shared custody.... he's w/ them a significant enough amount of time that he SHOULD have clothes and stuff for them at his place. FOOD (formula) is entirely his responsibility when he has the kids.

Sherri - posted on 07/22/2011

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That is correct Dezaray his child support, supports his daughter when he isn't around not for when she is with him. You do not have too. I would give him a bunch of clothes to keep at his house and tell him he has to supply any other supplies on his own while she is in his care.

Dezaray - posted on 07/22/2011

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We have shared custody and every time he picks them up he tells me to make sure I pack diapers wipes new clothes and formula because he pays child support but that money goes to the kids things that I use not extra for him ?!

Sherri - posted on 07/22/2011

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Depends on your agreement. Usually each parent has everything they need at their house for said child and no you yourself should only supply the things in your home.

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