Judy - posted on 11/03/2015 ( 15 moms have responded )
My boys are now 14 and 16 and for the last 10 years they were with their dad only every other weekend. He never paid my child support and I never went after him because I could not prove his income.
Two months ago he took me to court asking for the boys 50/50. I agreed because he was now in a 'stable' relationship and the boys would have a room in their home. We agreed money would not be an issue and that from here on out neither would owe each other anything.
Just found out that he is taking me back to court and asking for $600 spousal support to 2005 (when we separated), half of my 401k, and also child support since he only has an unemployment check. My attorney advised me to ask my boys about their dad's work status. The boys told me that he 1) works 4-5 days a week making $300 daily, 2) gets unemployment, and the worst part 3) sells drugs and exposes them to it. My attorney says I need proof. I don't want my kids to have to testify or be questioned this would be very emotional for them. I also have limited funds to hire a PI.
Its not fair that for so many years I was the only one responsible and I NEVER went after him for nothing... I cant believe his is such scum to go after me for money PLUS put my teenage boys thru this.
The court order right now states that he is to be with them 50/50 until we go back to court and I can fight all his ridiculous demands. I DO NOT want them with their dad. I would be wiling to allow them to be with him back to how it was only every other weekend as long as he is being a good father.