Do I report him to CPS?

Judy - posted on 11/03/2015 ( 15 moms have responded )

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My boys are now 14 and 16 and for the last 10 years they were with their dad only every other weekend. He never paid my child support and I never went after him because I could not prove his income.

Two months ago he took me to court asking for the boys 50/50. I agreed because he was now in a 'stable' relationship and the boys would have a room in their home. We agreed money would not be an issue and that from here on out neither would owe each other anything.

Just found out that he is taking me back to court and asking for $600 spousal support to 2005 (when we separated), half of my 401k, and also child support since he only has an unemployment check. My attorney advised me to ask my boys about their dad's work status. The boys told me that he 1) works 4-5 days a week making $300 daily, 2) gets unemployment, and the worst part 3) sells drugs and exposes them to it. My attorney says I need proof. I don't want my kids to have to testify or be questioned this would be very emotional for them. I also have limited funds to hire a PI.

Its not fair that for so many years I was the only one responsible and I NEVER went after him for nothing... I cant believe his is such scum to go after me for money PLUS put my teenage boys thru this.

The court order right now states that he is to be with them 50/50 until we go back to court and I can fight all his ridiculous demands. I DO NOT want them with their dad. I would be wiling to allow them to be with him back to how it was only every other weekend as long as he is being a good father.

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Jodi - posted on 11/04/2015

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Actually, you can call CPS based on a disclosure by a child. If the children have disclosed to you that he sells drugs when they are there, you should absolutely call them. This, however, will not impact on the custody/visitation requirements unless you have absolute evidence. When you contact them, you simply let them know what your children told you.

Rachael Meghan - posted on 11/03/2015

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I don't believe in spells because I think that there evil and worshipping the devil no thanks.

Rachael Meghan - posted on 11/03/2015

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You mean that you have had a job before right? And asked nothing from him if so just do that again.

Judy - posted on 11/03/2015

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I have a job and been supporting them all their life asking for nothing from him.

Rachael Meghan - posted on 11/03/2015

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No don't get turn him into CPS get a job instead if you can it's a smarter choice for your children financially.

Judy - posted on 11/03/2015

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Yes that is what my attorney said. Proof! Thanks everyone it is clear what I need to do for their safety.

Rachael Meghan - posted on 11/03/2015

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I think that you should not report him to the CPS because Iv heard it's possible that the father of your children could get custody instead for some messed up reason or they could take your children I know that's possible and I would get of disability if I was you I would get off child support and get a job if all possible and move away from your man if you can.

Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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You still need proof of his dealing though such as arrest records or convictions or other documentation. You could call it in now and see what happens.

Judy - posted on 11/03/2015

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I just found about the drugs. Or else I would not have allowed 50/50. I have only a few days until they have to go back to their dad.

Ev - posted on 11/03/2015

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{{Just found out that he is taking me back to court and asking for $600 spousal support to 2005 (when we separated), half of my 401k, and also child support since he only has an unemployment check.}} He does have a right to ask for 50-50 custody. As for the spousal support and so on I can not advise on that as it is a separate issue to the custody, visitation and child support with the kids.
{{ My attorney advised me to ask my boys about their dad's work status. The boys told me that he 1) works 4-5 days a week making $300 daily, 2) gets unemployment, and the worst part 3) sells drugs and exposes them to it}} Your lawyer was wrong to ask you to involve the kids in this in asking their dad's work status. THis has nothing to do with the boys. Your attorney should be having things checked out by asking for that information himself. He can ask for the records of unemployment, his work, and other things where your ex has income coming in. That to me is a red flag where that attorney is concerned.
{{My attorney says I need proof. I don't want my kids to have to testify or be questioned this would be very emotional for them. I also have limited funds to hire a PI.}} Your attorney was right on having to have proof and the thing is HE can get that for you. That is part of his job. As for dragging the kids into the mess, if they know anything and given their ages they could be called to the witness stand on the drugs and stuff if they have actually been seeing it.

{{Its not fair that for so many years I was the only one responsible and I NEVER went after him for nothing... I cant believe his is such scum to go after me for money PLUS put my teenage boys thru this. }} I am sorry this is happening to you but its the way it is sometimes.
{{The court order right now states that he is to be with them 50/50 until we go back to court and I can fight all his ridiculous demands. I DO NOT want them with their dad. I would be wiling to allow them to be with him back to how it was only every other weekend as long as he is being a good father.}} If there is an order for joint custody, you can not back down on it. If you do you will be in contempt of court.

As for the title of your post about turning him into CPS, if you had suspected that dad was a real danger to the kids that should have been done a long time ago. He would have to have abused them, neglected them, or done other horrid things for that to have happened and in this case it would be considered false accusations because they have not been treated in those fashions according to what is in your post.

Rachael Meghan - posted on 11/03/2015

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Alright maybe your all right but Iv know him for 4 years know and he almost married me and told me loves me and has been working hard to get me here at this house.Would I really be selfish if I leaved him because he's been through two very rough divorces when his ex-wife's cheated on him a thousands of times I think it would be.

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