Do other moms feel this way?

Ferris - posted on 09/04/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I often hear other moms say "it goes fast, cherish it". I also often hear, "they're growing too fast. I miss when they were babies." I have NEVER felt like this. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my kids, but I always feel like it isn't going fast enough. My husband feels the same. I have 3 kids, 7, 2.5 and 9 months. I don't miss my oldest being a baby, and she was a great baby. I can't wait for all of them to be older, much older. So they can cook, clean, do their own laundry, and care for their basic needs. I am a stay at home mom and I'm not domestic or crafty and I don't actually like being home, unless I'm home alone. I like being a mom, but I do not like parenting. Do other moms feel this way?

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Pfft! Some days I wish I wasn't a parent, but I do love my kids and would move heaven and earth for them. As time goes on, the bad times and bad feelings get forgotten so we do ending up looking back through rose-coloured glasses. And that isn't to say that some Mums don't enjoy parenting babies because I know women who keep having babies because they love it so much. But we aren't all like that, and as I read through my old diaries I am reminded of what a hard time I had with it all and so I know that the little "pangs" I feel for my babies is really just melancholy. A bit like remembering our school days as the best days of our lives when in fact they were scary and we were confused about where we fit into the world and what we would do with our lives.

I love my kids, they make me laugh and we have some good times together, but parenting is hard work and sometimes it just does my head in!

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Ferris - posted on 09/06/2012

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Yes, it's very hectic. My husband works a lot, so I don't really have time to myself. I would like to say I enjoy this or that stage. I enjoy a moment here or there, but mostly I daydream of going on an extended vacation.

Ashley - posted on 09/04/2012

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I miss my kids being babies but I also enjoy their developments at each new stage. I'm excited for them to grow older, but I'm in no rush. However I don't think how you feel is uncommon. I only have 2 kids (ages 3 and 4) so I'm sure after having 3 kids (one of which is a baby) you especially don't get enough "you" time, and its super crazy hectic, right? With 2 kids it can be overwhelming to me, so I can imagine 3 is harder to handle!

Ferris - posted on 09/04/2012

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Thanks. I just rarely hear women say they wish they were older or that they don't like parenting. I mostly hear how wonderful it is and what a blessing.

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I think you feel this way because you still have a baby in the house, when my youngest was still a baby I just couldn't wait for the kids to both be in school and for me to get my life back. But now that my youngest is almost six I do find myself looking at babies and feeling a little "pang" of missing my kids as babies. Of course I don't miss it enough to ever (EVER) have another baby and I am glad we are now at this stage in our lives because I do have a bit of a life now and my kids can do so much more for themselves which leaves time for me to be ME. Your feelings are normal.

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