Do Step Mom's have any parental rights to non-custodial children?

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Gwen - posted on 09/25/2012

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Just provide your lawyer all the documentation you have about when, where and how often he visits the kids. If he is gone most of the time, I don't see that you would really have a problem keeping custody of the kids. While it is very helpful and kind of their stepmom to help care for them, she doesn't have any legal rights where they are concerned.

Valerie Ann - posted on 09/24/2012

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In our court stipulation because of his occupation he is to see our children whenever he is able to. So therefore, there's no set visitation. Beings that our children are at more of an impressionable age, when they do see him he's the typical Disney Dad...buys them whatever they want and it's all about fun. Which is fine to a point. But this I believe teaches them that love and spending quality time together is more about what they receive as gifts. This is a big reason why they want to move there. Because they have whatever their hearts desire at his house. It seems as if sometimes they get brainwashed. I truly agree that all children's voices should be heard when it comes to what parent they wish to live with but it's just not realistic that they live with their Father only because of his occupation.

Valerie Ann - posted on 09/24/2012

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I don't have any issues for her to spend time with my children. My issue is, their Father is gone for months at a time. He is a commercial fisherman and fishes all along the Oregon and Washington coast as well as Alaska. He sees our children maybe 15-20 times every year. So with him being gone as much as he is, it wouldn't make any sense for my children to move to their Dad's.

Denikka - posted on 09/24/2012

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If you have sole custody, then this shouldn't be an issue.

If it went through the courts, your ex would most likely get visitation or joint custody and, unless it's put into writing, it would be up the children's father as to who is actually taking care of them while the kids were in his care.

Around this age though, the children's opinions start to carry more weight when physical custody is being determined by the courts.

I really don't think you have anything to worry about. Your ex would have to be the one going through the courts for custody, not her. She can't make any promises to your kids, in regards to living arrangements anyways. She has zero legal standing when it comes to your kids.

Lacye - posted on 09/24/2012

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I don't see a big deal about her wanting to be around the children more but no. She has no parental rights towards the kids. That would be between you and your ex.

Valerie Ann - posted on 09/24/2012

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My ex and I have two children, whom I have raised since the day they were born. We separated when they were 3 and 4. They are now 12 and 11. I have sole custody through the courts. His occupation requires him to be gone year round. His soon to be wife has offered to our children to stay at home to help raise them while their Dad is gone working. I don't see this being realistic if it were to go to court. Thoughts anyone?

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