Do teenager daughters start to take their mothers lightly if dealt with softly?

Rocknroll - posted on 05/22/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I love my daughter and of course she has a cheerful persona. What's happening is that she has started to take everything very lightly . I don't want her to stop buying stuff but i want her to take care of stuff that she buys . At least use the things she buys and know what she already has in her collection. Yesterday, I lost my temper and yelled at her until she started to cry. Seeing her cry made me mellow down and we talked a lot . Somehow I am feeling right in losing my temper . I know she got scared and cried but ultimately its for her own good and future life. Am I right to think that sometimes parents have to be strict for their kids own welfare?

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Rocknroll - posted on 05/24/2015

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Thats true. I want her to monitor her spending and organizing things accordingly . Agreed . She needs to make her decisions on her own within set limits . Thanks for sharing wisdom.

Ledia - posted on 05/22/2015

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You have to set limits, but worrying about what she is buying and how she is treating her own possessions seems a little too strict to me.
With financial lessons, the best method for teaching is trial and error. If she is a teen, she should be using her own money to purchase everything other than the bare essentials. If she spends too much on something, or has to replace something because she lost it or tore it up, or makes a mistake and buys something she already has, she will realize she has less money for other things she wants, and over time, she will learn to monitor her spending.
You should still give her guidance--teach her how to look at her wardrobe and build upon it, and such, but let her make her own decisions and learn from them.

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