Do u think 21 is too young 2 get married?

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Shawni - posted on 03/06/2011

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no its not the age its the maturity that matters and whether youre in love or not! im getting married next year i'll be 21, my mum got married at 21 and my dad was only 19 and 22 years later theyre still together! do what feels right for you! :)

Tracy - posted on 02/21/2010

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Depends on the people and situation. I got married at 19, had 3 kids and I'm still married almost 23 years later. It wasn't always easy, but were still going strong.

Melissa - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was 21 when I got married! We were dating for 3 years and have been married for almost 5 now.

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Rosie - posted on 02/21/2010

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it's not young. my husband and i were married 4 days after he turned 21, would've gotten married sooner, but he wanted to legally drink at his wedding!! sure, statistics say that the younger you are the more chances of divorce, but i think people shouldn't all be put in a group like that. if you are emotionally mature, and truly know what you want, there is no reason to think you are too young to get married.

Sarah Helaine - posted on 02/21/2010

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Not at all, if it feels right for you, then go for it. Wish you every happiness.

Melanie - posted on 02/21/2010

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we got married one month before my husbands 21st birthday. I think if you've found that special person to commit to for the rest of your life then age shouldn't matter as long as your happy. xx

Ashley - posted on 02/21/2010

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No, or at least in my opinion. If you feel like you r mature enough to be able to handle the responsiblity of being a wife as long as being a mother, I don't think age should matter at all.

Jan - posted on 02/21/2010

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Depends how you feel about each other. I got married at 21 for all the wrong reasons, so it didn't work for me, I was definitely too young. It works for some people though, if you are really in-love and you are compatible. Now compatibility is not something you think about either when you are in-love. I highly recommend you go and see your local vicar or pastor, or the church you are possibly thinking of getting married in, and see if they have a pre-marriage counselling session. It will help you find out if you really are compatible and not just in-love. You will know then if you are ready or not. :)

Sarah - posted on 02/21/2010

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Like others have said, I think it just depends on the individual person. My husband and I were 22 when we got married & now we are 25, and still happily married with a 5 month old son. Even though I know my parents supported us getting married, I'm sure they thought we were too young. They never actually voiced it, but they made comments every now and then. You just have to do what you feel is right & if you are ready, then go for it! Good luck!

Paula - posted on 02/21/2010

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We got married when I was 20 and have been married for 16 years now. You will know in your heart whether or not it is the right step to take for you at this time. I personally knew he was the one and that we would be together forever. Marriage is all about give and take and being completely unselfish. You work hard to help your partner in life and show your strong support and admitting when you are wrong and on occassions backing down even when you know you're right.. (and being a woman I always am! ). You are eachothers best friend, councellor, support system and achor. Yes he gets on my nerves at times (like now when baby has just been put down for bed and he's immediately engrossed in online gameplay "Uncharted territory" game on the ps3) but hey, give and take. Good luck with whatever you decide and being the eternal old fashioned romantic that I am I hope it's to marry the love of your life like I did and that you'll have many happy years ahead :)

Shakira - posted on 02/21/2010

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Definitely not, i got married 5 days after my 21st. Now we have 2 kids and are nearly 10 years on. when it is right u just know it!!

Tiffany - posted on 02/21/2010

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I think it depends on the person. I did get married when I was 19. I regretted it. I was to young but didnt understand that untill I got older. Needless to say the marriage didnt last. My parents got married around the same age and theirs didnt last either. But that doesnt mean that it wont work for you.

Lacy - posted on 02/21/2010

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as long as you take marriage seriously and you truly know you are ready go for it!

Jennifer - posted on 02/21/2010

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no it depends what is right for you! I got married at 20 years old and I am now 23 and still very happily married!

Crystal - posted on 02/21/2010

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Its not too young as long as you understand the metal stress that will come with it, you will have money problems and then problems with friends, also after you get married the couples usually tend to become jealous. I am 26 i have been married since i was 23, marriage is a wonderful blessing as long as you are sure you can handle the stress that will be thrown your way, make sure you are both committed and willing to overcome together and all will be right in your worls

Francine - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was only 24 when I got married. For many people, they have not matured by 21. However, if someone truly believes they are with the right person, then that should be fine. As long as they are mature enough to realise that life is not always roses.

Most people in my parents generation were married by 21, we are designed to be married by our early 20's and have our babies then as well. We have moved to marriage and babies later, but people forget that only 30 years ago that was the norm.

I would, however, recommend pre-wedding counselling. It helps because it usually brings up things you have not previously thought of.

Candace - posted on 02/21/2010

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No, I don't thingk 21 is too young to get married. I was 20 when I go married.

Becky - posted on 02/21/2010

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I think it depends on the 21 year old. Some 21 year olds are still too immature to make a marriage work. Others are ready to make that committment and do whatever it takes to make it work. Only you know which one you are! (if you're talking about yourself.) Marriage is a lot of work, at any age, and I do think it can be harder when you're very young, but that doesn't mean that young people shouldn't get married. I know a lot of couples who have been happily married for 30-40 years who got married in their late teens or early twenties.

I think that no matter what your age, going to premarital counselling is always a good idea. It's a good idea to go into marriage prepared for some of the realities of it!

Theresa - posted on 02/21/2010

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I was 21 when I got married, we've been married 14 years and have 3 beautiful kids and #4 is due in 3 weeks. If you're sure, you're sure. It helps if at least one of you have a full time job to support you both. Marriage is not easy, it takes work. The more issues you have to deal with right away the more difficult it will be. Money is always an issue in a marriage, so make sure you won't be struggling too much to make ends meet.

Danielle - posted on 02/21/2010

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No, I definitely think 21 is a fine age to get married. That's how old my mom was when she got married and my parents are still happily married and in love 25 years later. I'm getting married next summer, I'll be 24.

Christina - posted on 02/21/2010

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For most people yes. I think there is exceptions but rarely. People change in their early 20's and you want to make sure this change happens and doesn't pull the couple apart.

Lisamarie - posted on 02/21/2010

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Not at all, I got married 3 months and 2 days after my 18th birthday! We were together for 3 yrs before and have been married for 3 yrs!

I do think it depends on your maturity and your partners maturity. I'm the oldest in the family and have always been more mature and always knew I wanted to be a housewife!

It all depends on what you want. If it is, why question it? People may not agree, my dad didn't want me to get married (he married my mum at the same age and they divorced a yr and a half later) but he came round and came to my wedding. Do what makes you happy! :)

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