do u think teenage girls can be good mothers?

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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do u think teenage girls can be good mothers?

definately no no no 11% (193 votes)

not really 14% (238 votes)

somtimes 40% (671 votes)

for the most part, yes 13% (228 votes)

definately 22% (365 votes)

1,695 Total Votes

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Charla - posted on 06/27/2010

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There are bad mothers in all age groups, young and old, just like there are good mothers. I was a teen mother, pregnant at 16 and 19. I had the mentality of an adult at 15. Certain things can happen to you in life that cause you to grow up and obtain that mentality.



What gives another person the right to judge somone? Im always hearing about "teen moms this" and "teen moms that", never aything positive. I personally think they're just jealous. Jealous of the fact that when they get older they wont be able to go outside and run around with their kids because they dont want to break a hip, jealous because they are too old to relate to their kids so they will constantly bump heads. They'll have to hire tutors because you cant teach an old dog new tricks, and their kids will need help with advanced homework that they are too old to wrap their head around.



Im still with my kids father, drive, work, saving for a house (I have my own apartment. NOT IN THE PROJECTS), and I only have a year left in college. I have never put my children off on anyone.



I was a teen mother of 2. My children are well taken care of and want for nothing. My 3year old is in preschool and is a smart little thing, she has more sense than some adults.



LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE



IT'S 2010 GET IT TOGETHER PEOPLE AND STOP LIVING IN THE 1900s!

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Amanda - posted on 11/30/2010

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I was 26 when my son was so I wasn't a teenage mum but my best friend was. She fell pregnant at 18 and had her daughter at 19 and she has done everything she can to provide for her daughter who is now 11. I am so proud of the way she has brought her up, and yes she did it on her own (and I mean literally on her own) but she has the most beautiful, well manner polite young lady who she wouldn't be without.

Heather - posted on 06/08/2010

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I just noticed that every single person on here has said yes teenagers can be good mothers, and every single person has had a child in their teen years. Coincidence? I had my child at 21. I know several girls in high school who had kids. Only about 25% of them were actually good mothers who took full responsability for their child(this means not dumping them at your parents house for them to care for cause you want to go to the mall). If its your only option, your already pregnant, fine you'll be a good mother if you put in the effort. But seriously people if this poll is to encourage more KIDS in highschool to get pregnant the answer is No!



I think that girls no matter how "mature" need to take the time to do teen things. learn to drive. get a house. be responsable for runnig a household before you go and raise a child in your parents house. Find yourself and reach your "adult mentality" before you go having a child.



I have seen way to many girls in my highschool having children and being bad mothers by yelling at thier child when what really needs to happen is for them to sit down and tell their child what they are doing wrong. Or they think they can go out and party whenever they want and leave their child with someone.



And for the record a teenager to me is ages 13-17 (still in early Highschool).



Now for the mothers who made it work you are out there too. Making sure your child has a roof over their head, clothes on their body, and food in their belly no matter the cost. Congratulations you are a good mother.

Stephanie - posted on 04/23/2010

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WHOEVER VOTED THAT TEENAGE MUMS CANNOT BE GOOD MOTHERS GET A GRIP THATS IS A LIE WHO GIVES YOU THE RIGHT TO SAY THAT!!
i am 19 and have an 18 month old daughter. i am still with her father and we are still very much in love. we have our own place and my daughter is spoiled rotten. she has never went without and as far as im concerned i have been MORE than a GREAT mother. people think that teenage mums cant cope and are bad parents!
i had a completley natural birth no drugs no nothing and i breastfed. what is the difference from a 30 year old doing that and a 17 year old???
just because i was young does not mean i cannot cope.. look after .. or provide for my daughter!!

Holly - posted on 03/12/2010

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yes because i am one. i had my son 6 months after i turned 18 and i think ive done a pretty good job so far even though the dad is not involved.

Ashlie - posted on 02/20/2010

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i had my son when i was 18 and in my opinion im a great mother. if im not at work im with my son laughing and playing. i have been here and takin care of him since the day he was born. i got a job and gave up my teenage ways to take care of my son because i put him as my main priority the day i found out i was pregnant. On the other hand i have friends that throw their child off on their parents so they can go to partys and on dates.

Naralle - posted on 02/19/2010

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Of course! Can adult mothers be bad parents..YES... people of all ages can make mistakes and it's not fair to single out young mums!

Kimberley - posted on 02/11/2010

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Age aint nothing but a number, i was 17 when i had my son and i know some other girls that were also around my age. Yes some young mums make mistakes but older women make the same mistakes aswell.

Mel - posted on 02/03/2010

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age has nothing to do with it! im 22 and have a 3 and a half year old girl who i had just after turning 19, i also have a 1 and half year old girl who i had 8 weeks before turning 21 and now have a 9 week old boy, i love being a mum and they love me ! life couldnt be better and i reckon good on the younger mums out there sticking up for themselves againt discriminative society, i have a friend who had a baby at 15 and shes a dam better mother than half of the 30 year old mums i know! GO YOUNG MUMS!!!

Samantha - posted on 01/30/2010

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i agree with all these comments i have a boy when i was 17 im now 20 and pregnant with my second (boy).. i dont thinkyour age matters is maturity. people look down at us young mums but we all no we do our best so dont matter what they think!! x

Kimberley - posted on 01/24/2010

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i agree im 20 but gave birth at 19 and have an 8month old, i think it has to do with what type of person u are and nothing to do with your age, and it is offensive when people look down on you or make you feel like your not able to be a good mother because of your age.

Anna - posted on 01/08/2010

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I agree with these ladies comments about maturaty 100% I'm 18 now and have a beautiful 16month old daughter. Everyone says what a great job i do with her and i do! i put the time and effort into her everyday. You can be a fantastic Mum if you want too!!
For all the people who posted definately no no no.... you should meet me and my happy little bundle of joy. Then you would change your mind. The dirty looks young Mums like myself get from people who don't think we can do it affect us more than you think!! Back in the day people used to get married at 16/17 and have children and familys in there teens.

Trisha-Ann - posted on 12/14/2009

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I got pregnant at 19, and i have 2 friends who had children at 18. i know that we are good mothers, however, i know girls that have multiple children in there teenyears and let them lay on the couch crying while they shot up, or go and get drunk. then they are older women who do that exact same thing. I think being a good mother has nothing to do with age- its all about muturaty and that mothers abiltity to care for others.

Kristen - posted on 12/01/2009

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Being a good mother doesnt have anything to do with age, it's the maturaty level of the mother.

Kristen - posted on 12/01/2009

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Being a good mother doesnt have anything to do with age, it's the maturaty level of the mother.

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