Do we just give up?

Alicia - posted on 11/27/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Hi my sisters, I just joined the group today searching for prayers for marriage. I have been with my husband for over 20 years and we have been married 7. I recently found out that he had did some great cheating for the 1st 10 years of us being together. (found this out 3 yrs ago). I really don't want this marriage but I am doing my best to live as a christian and trying to honor my wedding vows, but the truth is I dont want the marriage there really is no trust and or love either to tell the truth, I know God can do all things and that my husband is not a horrible man. I feel so bad alot because i go back and forward with this, i have vivid dreams of him with woman, we dont communicate much i cant get him to share, there has been so much hurt on both sides. I dont know know to go on. we have one 10 yr old, a 18 yr old and a 21 yr old. he is the only income provider in the home and to be honest that is the main reason i just dont leave. i need you guys to prya with me this is not right for him or me. I know God is not pleased with this either i no longer want to live like this. my husband says he want to stay and work it out but i dont and he dont try what do i do?

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Holly - posted on 11/27/2012

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he left the marriage years ago when he decided to cheat, many Pastors will tell you the same, in the bible, if you were cheated on, it is not a sin to get a divorce

Alicia - posted on 11/27/2012

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thank you Love being a momma (i love that name) i know the reason and i am honest with me and him i want out i dont love him and its not fair to do that also he took away my choice to make, i asked many times was there someone even ask names and he said no for many years he made me out to be the bad guy while he was having his affairs,

Love Being A - posted on 11/27/2012

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Find a pastor or Christian counselor. Either alone or as couple. Praying diligently for your spouse and for yourself and for your marriage.

You also need to be real about why you want out. This can be painful, emotionally speaking. Ask God to reveal some truths in your life. Be ready to deal with anger, resentment and bitterness, set up a safe zone with your counselor/pastor so you will feel free to honestly look your situation.

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