Do you ever feel like a bad mom?

Amber - posted on 03/20/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am 9 months pregnant with our third child, so I'm not sure if it's the hormones or what.... But lately I get these guilty feelings that I'm being a bad mom. Mostly to my 8 year old girl. It's nothing terrible but anytime we get into a disagreement I feel like I am just as stubborn as her. Lol we really butt heads sometimes. Any advice or anyone in a similar boat?


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Louise - posted on 03/20/2012




I think you do have more arguements with the eldest no matter what sex they are. My eldest son took alot of flack from me when he was growing up. I think it was because he was the first born so he met all the milestones first. He had to pathe the way for his brother. Setting bed times, kurfews, homework and so on. He had to fight the battles first if you know what I mean. When my second son was born bedtimes were already established so there was no fight to have. Now after a 15 year age gap I have a daughter and it has been so long since I had to barter with a child to do things, that we butt heads and I can see that I am going to have lots of fun when she is a teenager.Don't beat yourself up it is totally normal.

My son is now nearly 21 and we are very close. He did not remember all the spats we had when he was growing up and he is a very loving son.

Crystal - posted on 03/20/2012




Unfortunately I don't really have any good advise. I just wanted to comment on your post about feeling like a bad mom. I am there with you. I am going through some issues with my 9 year old son. He is not engaging in school so therefore he doesn't care about doing his homework, doesn't care about doing his class work, doesn't care about the grades he gets and is being just a bit difficult at home, but at the same times wants to be able to play the xbox, go outside with his friends, just basically do what he wants and gets mad when his father and I do not let him. There has been a lot of screaming and yelling and a lot of repeating my self over and over again about the same things when it comes to his school and behavior and I'm at this point just at a loss. So I guess both you and I are seeking the same advise on what to do or whether or not we are being bad mothers. In your Case I don't think you are a bad mother for getting frustrated or aggravated quickly. I do believe your hormons play a major factor on the type of moods you are in. When you feel like you are taking it a little to far with the disagreement, just breath and step out of the situation for a moment and then go back a calmly explain your point of view. That is what I have been trying to do with my son and so far so good. I wish you all the best and I hope you get the answers you are looking for and congrats on the pregnancy.

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