do you prefer breast or formula?

Brooke - posted on 09/08/2011 ( 39 moms have responded )

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I love breast feeding but I understand formula as being the next best thing. My daughter was formula fed from 6 weeks (now 2 1/2) and I exclusively breast feed my son who is 11 weeks.

The joys of facebook... A young woman was sharing how her son sleeps through the night at only around 6 weeks or so. Another woman commented saying thats why we are so lucky we bottle feed, we have babies who sleep all night and are settled all day.

I commented saying I have experienced both and would much prefer to BF. My son is settled he sleeps through most nights, the added bonus is it's free, I don't have to wash bottles, sterilise and prepare them to take when I want to go out. (not in exact words) But I have done both and that is just from my experience.

What do you prefer? and why?

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And it's people like Tracy that cause a rift between FF mothers and BF mothers. Why do people insist on pitting mothers against eachother for their different decisions?

Ashley - posted on 09/10/2011

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I"m sorry Tracy but formula doesnt necessarily make a baby sleep longer. My oldest was formula fed and woke up sometimes every 2 hours because he would only drink an ounce at a time. My youngest just so happened to be a bigger baby and bigger eater so he'd drink 8 ounces and sleep for 5 hours. I know i was told my three different doctors that if the baby is sleeping you let them sleep. They will let you know when their hungry. Some babies just sleep better than others and i'm actually glad i had a baby that slept 5 hours at a time instead of 1

Ez - posted on 09/10/2011

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I had to do both due to major supply issues. BFing wins hands down for me. I loved it. My daughter loved it. I had a bit of thrush, but never any latch problems.

There is no judgement in saying that 'breast is best'. It's just fact. People try and justify their decision to FF by claiming it is just as good. It's not. I had to feed my daughter formula and am well aware it was not the ideal source of nutrition for her. Not that I'm saying it's poison either. It's just not the best.

Tracy - posted on 09/09/2011

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Formula is so not the next best thing, Nothing compares to breastmilk, breastmilk IS elite,Young babies are not meant to sleep for long periods of time, their tummies are tiny and a baby is meant to feed every couple of hours, My daughter at one point was feeding hourly, Why is this world so obsessed with silencing our kids and MAKING them sleep when they dont want to?????

Kate CP - posted on 09/09/2011

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Sleeping through the night has nothing to do with what a baby is fed. It has to do with the individual baby. My daughter was breastfed exclusively and slept 8 hours a night at 8 weeks old. My son still wakes to nurse every 4 hours or so. Every baby is different and some will sleep through early on and some won't. *shrug*

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Rebekah - posted on 09/12/2011

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I prefer breast feeding its a great bonding between mom and baby its way easier than bottles its cheaper its better for baby and it has benefits for moms too it tastes way better too. I never had trouble with my kids sleeping for the first few weeks they would get up every couple hours and eat, after that they slept all night. Not all women can BF or want to so to each their own.

Katie - posted on 09/10/2011

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@Tracy, I don't mean to be rude, and I mean absolutely no disrespect but you can't make a baby sleep if they don't want to as you imply. If a baby is awake they are awake and there's little you can do about it but wait it out. But most newborns DO want to sleep most of the time. And there is nothing wrong with wanting babies to sleep for more than an hour at a time. If mom can't get some rest then no one is happy. I formula fed exclusively from day 1 because I didn't have a choice but I probably would have made the same decision if I'd had the option. I looked into milk banks so my daughter could still have breast milk even if it wasn't mine but I wasn't eligible so formula WAS the next best, and only choice I had.

Konni - posted on 09/10/2011

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Formula....& yes I am aware Breast is best! I tried breast feeding my first, hated it & went straight to bottles. My second was straight on formula. If I have anymore I'll go with formula also. I found it easier and more convinient.

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i prefer bottle feeding. even when i was pregnant i didn't want to breastfeed cuz it just seemed weird to do (i know it's perfectly natural, i just didn't feel comfortable about it) but it was important to my husband so i tried for the first 2 months ( i had to bottle feed him at the same time cuz i didn't make enough milk and he lost too much weight in the beginning). at 2 months i stopped bf completely because i still didn't like it and felt uncomfortable doing it. it's just not for me. my son is healthy and very smart so i figure i didn't do him any disservice my bottle feeding him

Stifler's - posted on 09/09/2011

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I tried to breastfeed and wasn't very successful so I prefer formula as my husband can get up and feed the kids one night a week so I don't have to.

Charlie - posted on 09/09/2011

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I did both breastfeeding was BY FAR easier for us , we slept well , the second time it was an amazing experience (first time was hard with PND ) ....honestly the bonding we experienced was something special ( not saying you cannot bond any other way ) while I did get to bond while feeding with a bottle too it was nothing like when I brestfed.

I also pumped so I could go to the gym and their Daddy could feed them so it was never an inconvenience either.

Katie - posted on 09/09/2011

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I breastfed my oldest until 15 months. We would have gone longer but I was 5 months pregnant and had serious complications. I had to leave my family to be closer to the NICU and that is how Otto was weaned. Not ideal, but didn't have much of a choice. My youngest is 2 months now and doing great on the breast. Born a month early and he's made it all the way to 10 lbs already. I breastfed through thrush, PPD, 2 tongue tied babies, severe colic (my youngest) and although it hasn't been all great times, I am thankful that I have been able to do it. Formula is obviously useful (I was formula fed as a baby) but would not have been an option for *ME* unless there had been physically no possibility of breastfeeding. To each their own though, no judgements, just opinion.

Sherri - posted on 09/09/2011

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Did both and bottles are a thousand times easier and more convenient.



Pregnant now and will breastfeed but will switch off from breast to bottle (pumped breastmilk). So if I do need to leave him he can stay with his dad and be fed. I will completely switch over to the bottle by 6mo's.

Melissa - posted on 09/09/2011

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i love nursing. we just moved my 8 month old dd out of our room because she was still wanting to nurse in the middle of the night. it's nice that she's now sleeping through the night every night but i do miss her being in the room with us!

Jenni - posted on 09/09/2011

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I did both. I would have loved to breastfeed until at least 2 years. But it was not in the cards for us. I dried up with both my children at around 7-8 months. It got to the point I had no choice but to switch to formula.



But considering we struggled so hard and long with breastfeeding it was a bit of a relief switching to formula.

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I breastfed twins for 15 months. They were cup fed small amounts of formula in the hospital until they stopped losing weight and supplemented maybe a dozen bottles total between the two of them.

I breastfed my son for 3.25 years. ;)

Formula is an awesome invention for when it is needed, but I'm not much of a fan.

Katie - posted on 09/09/2011

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I can't BF but I have to say that even if I could I probably still would have chosen formula. It wasn't a hassle for me at all. I only used powdered formula and room temp water so I never had to warm them and when leaving the house I could just fill the bottles with water and put the formula pre-measured into a dispenser. Washing bottles wasn't fun but if you get them rinsed right after a feeding they aren't difficult and if you have enough to get through the day you can put them in the dishwasher to sterilize and not worry about it.

I liked not having to worry about trying to cover my boob in public and that anyone could feed my daughter. And I liked knowing exactly how much she was getting and as she needed more, I controlled that too. Plus, she only ate every 4 hours rather than every 2. My husband worked nights so on the weekends before dd started sleeping through, he could get her if she woke up since he was up anyway and let me sleep. I liked that he could bond with her and my parents, in-laws, and my sister loved being able to feed her when they saw her. It's absolutely a choice (for most, not me haha) but I would have chosen the same either way.

I think in general, people are more accepting of formula/bottle feeding now. I never noticed strange looks from people that didn't know my story and saw me bottle feeding.

I know that kids get some immunity from breast milk but they also get lots from the womb. My daughter is not a sick kid. She never had more than sniffles until after she was a year old.

Cynthia - posted on 09/09/2011

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I breastfed all four of my children. My eldest (my boy!) only fed for nine months before he decided to only take a bottle. My girls each fed for varying lengths of time (my eldest daughter was almost three before I finally took off on a grown-up weekend to ween her!). My youngest daughter is now 5 years old and was about 42 months before she gave up even a lingering feeding at night to put her to sleep. I will always cherish the time I spent nursing my children and having that sense of closeness and using my breasts for what they were designed for! None of my daughters (3 of them!) actually took bottles at all and, in fact, my middle daughter skipped straight from nursing to drinking from a sipping cup at 18 months. I know it is a personal preference, but I loved every moment of nursing and had remarkably healthy babies due to my nursing them.

Sharon - posted on 09/09/2011

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I have attempted to feed both my sons, and it ended terribly both times. When #3 comes along I will go straight to the bottle. It works best for us, plus I love knowing exactly how much they are having and also that hubby gets his alone time with the boys at the late night feed.

Claire - posted on 09/09/2011

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I had to bottle feed - I had a very bad emergency c-section that got infected, and I couldn't have baby anywhere near my tummy ... even to the side ... for the first few weeks while I recovered and had the infection treated. Then on top of that, my son suffered severely with gastrointestinal reflux (baby heartburn) ... which meant that I had to mix some medication in his bottle and also use baby rice powder to thicken his formula enough that he didn't spit up. It would have been very hard to medicate him if he was only taking breast milk.

I am not knocking breast feeding at all ... apparently it is better for the baby, and is always on tap at the right temperature ... but equally, with bottle feeding, my husband helped a lot to feed when I was recovering from the birth. I didn't have to watch what I ate, as not breast feeding, so milk not affected by my diet or medication that I needed to take. Also, with formula, you can measure exactly how much your baby is taking, rather than with breast feeding where you have no idea if they are taking one oz of milk, or six oz's. And yes ... baby sleeps a lot lot better on formula than on breast milk ... my sister's babies had to be fed every two hours on the breast ... mine would feed every four hours. I wouldn't have said that her two kids are any healthier than mine now even though mine were formula fed and hers breast fed. In fact ... I think if I had breast fed, my babies would have been a bit unhealthier ... not sure that Burgerking does much for breast milk .... lol ....

It is an individual choice and you have to go with whatever you are happier with. Don't feel swayed by anyone to go with breast or formula ... you have to do what works best for you !!!

Ashley - posted on 09/09/2011

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Both my babies were formula fed from their first bottle. I didnt feel comfortable with breastfeeding. I didnt want to. I got a lot of lectures from my ex MIL because she breastfed and said her son was never sick. Well i was formula fed as an infant and i was never sick. Aside from my oldest having meningitis neither of my children are sickly kids. With my oldest being in the hospital for two months i was very happy i didnt breastfeed. Other family members were able to stay the night with him to give me a break. It's all a personal choice. I got some slack for not breastfeeding but i honestly didnt care what others thought. This is my body and my baby. What makes me happy makes my baby happy. I didnt mind washing bottles and making up formula. I actually kinda enjoyed doing it. For mothers who do it thats great. But no matter what you choose is best for YOU and your baby thats noone else's business. Some people enjoy it others like myself didnt even want to try it. All of my nurses and my doctor were all very understanding about my decision and didnt try to push it on me which i really appreciated. My oldest never slept through the night (and half the time still doesnt) while my youngest at 2 days old would drink 8 ounces and was out for 5 hours inbetween bottles. If i were to have a 3rd it would be formula feeding for us!!

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This is always a loaded question. People like me often get attacked for being horrendous mothers, however I always answer because I'm not ashamed of my decision.

I did not breastfeed either of my kids. Not because I couldn't, because I chose not to. Both my kids had formula from their first bottle. I never struggled with thrush, poor latch, or reflux due to something I ate or drank. I always knew exactly how much they were getting and never had to worry about whether or not they were gaining weight fast enough (which I know doesn't happen with everyone who BF's, but I have witnessed MANY mother struggle with it). Some say I took the "easy" route, but I say no, I just took the route that was right for us. Both my kids are happy, healthy and very loved.

That being said, I don't deny that breast milk is an amazing gift of nature. If you want to and are able, do it.

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I did both and my son thrived more on formula. I had other issues as well with almost no supply, post partum depression, baby losing weight, and so on. So much was relieved when I stopped nursing. Happy baby=Happy mommy. I'm not having any more kids-1 and done. But if there was an ooops baby, I am more than likely to use formula as a prinary choice to feed. I'd still attempt to nurse again, but won't beat myself down.

Brooke - posted on 09/08/2011

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whilst my son is exclusivelt breastfed now he wasn't to start with as my milk didn't come in and he had to be put on formula.. but with work and medication my supply is up so now he is fully breastfed and I hate the thought of having to formula feed.. not because it is bad for babies! but because it is a goal to feed him for the first year.

It is nice to see this conversation not get out of hand so thank you to all who have replyed so far :-)

At the end of the day we are all mummies doing what is best for us and our children

Johnny - posted on 09/08/2011

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I did both due to supply issues. I used bottles to supplement until she was 5 months and nursed her until she was 2. I think formula has a role to play in infant feeding, but the breastfeeding is the biological norm and thus the clearly healthiest choice. I hope to do it exclusively next time (especially because I found it so much more convenient), but if I need formula, I will use it and not be too concerned.

Minnie - posted on 09/08/2011

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Still nursing my three year old. Guess. :)



I simply cannot imagine formula feeding. Honestly. It's a total disconnect for *ME*. It clearly works for others just fine but it just isn't in my own frame of reference.

Lauren - posted on 09/08/2011

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i would just be careful not to introduce a bottle to soon cuz of nipple confusion and latching on issues, thats why I couldnt start nursing my son and had to pump but its an excellent idea and im glad your choosing to bf :)

Carmina - posted on 09/08/2011

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i didnt get to bf my son he had bad tongue tie it was painful! he actually had his surgery today to cut it (hes almost 2). but i am due in 8 weeks time and would love to give bf a shot. i want to do both breast milk in bottle and on the boob so that way my partner can feel like hes joining in, and its great incase i need someone to mind bub for a few hours! i loved formula with my son because theres no strings your free to have a drink or eat anything, but ofcourse breast is best as they say :)

Lauren - posted on 09/08/2011

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Well I def prefer to bf. I actually had to pump until my son was 3wks and even then having to get up in the middle of the night(several times) to heat a bottle and pump, then having to clean the bottles, and having to lug around all the bottles while keeping them cold and trying to find somewhere to heat them up. UGH!!! Im so glad to be bf now!!!!

Lady Heather - posted on 09/08/2011

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I ended up having to formula feed and I'm certainly going to do everything I can not to this time. Hate cleaning bottles, hate paying for food that I already have in my boobs, hate having to remember to take it when we go places, hate having to pack cans for plane rides and road trips, hate the looks of judgment from the people who think I'm poisoning my kid. There isn't really much to like.

Kate CP - posted on 09/08/2011

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Boob juice rocks! It's free, it's best for baby, and I love snuggling with my son like that. :)

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I've only ever breastfed, so I may be biased. But I wouldn't do it any other way, barring some unforeseen event in which I am physically unable to breastfeed. But I do have two cousins that are currently lactating. If something were to happen to me, my baby would have access to breastmilk. :)

The way I see it, God/nature (whatever you believe) created breastmilk for babies. What could be better?

I totally understand that there are reasons that people can't or choose not to breastfeed.

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BF is most definitely best. Its natural and it even says on all the formula packages. "we know breastfeeding is best, but this is the next best thing"

Amy - posted on 09/08/2011

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Oh and my daughter who is breastfed is a way better sleeper then my older one who primarily got formula. All kids are different and to sat it's because of formula or bf'ing there is no true way to know!

Amy - posted on 09/08/2011

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I've done both with my son I only breastfed till about 5 months and had been supplementing with formula all along since I worked full-time. My daughter who is 17 moaths and still breastfeeds about 2 or 3 times a day. We sometimes used formula with her too but I was able to pump at work to keep up my supply. I would breastfeed over formula any day not only is it healthier but it's a lot cheaper then formula. I have to say I was never comfortable bf'ing in public so I always had formula packets for when we were on the go.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 09/08/2011

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Well, I just stopped BFing my 17 month old about 1 1/2 months ago. I tried earlier, but wouldn't take a bottle. When my son was BFing, I started him on formula aslo, and BF and formula fed him until he was 7 months. I did this I think around 2-3 months old. He was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks, and he was still strictly BF. He only got formula 2x per week when I was at work. Gotta call bullshit on the "only kids that formula feed sleep through the night"

Krista - posted on 09/08/2011

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I did a bit of BFing, but mostly relied on formula, due to supply issues. And I agree with you. There is nothing shameful or wrong about formula, but breast milk IS healthier, it's free, and you don't have to lug around all those bottles. Prepping bottles is a royal pain in the ass, and I really hope I can exclusively breastfeed with my next child, and avoid the bottles.

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