Do you "tap," your childs mouth for lying?

Kyleigh - posted on 06/17/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




i have seen previously one of my friends simply tap their child on the mouth for lying to them. How do you feel about this. would love to seek advice and give it out to one of my friends as well. other "techniques,"


Sara - posted on 06/18/2011




No way. How you react depends on the age of the child. My almost 8 year old just lied to me for the first time (that I know of). We had a long talk about consequences for lying versus just admitting she had been chewing gum (which is not allowed). She had to sit on her bed for a while. Then I went up and asked her why I had sent her to her bed. She said "For chewing gum?" I said nope. If you had just admitted to that I would have just said spit it out. She said "For lying." I said absolutely. And we talked about trust. Then I had her write "in her very best handwriting" I will not lie to Mommy 20 times. There are so many better ways than smacking. That will just teach them to be a better liar. I want my girls to learn that even if they do something wrong the consequences are smaller if they admit to it rather than lie.


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Jenni - posted on 06/18/2011




I certainly wouldn't want someone to tap me on the mouth everytime I lied.

Nikki - posted on 06/18/2011




Umm no, that's child abuse where I live. I think it depends on the age of the child as to what kind of strategies I would use for discipline.

Katherine - posted on 06/17/2011




NO! I don't believe in negative consequences like that. I believe in natural consequences. If my child lies to me something is taken away. I would make her write I will not lie again a 100 times. Either or, but not both. I don't believe in double consequences. After thst it's over and done with. No more talking about it, no more making the child feel badly.

It also depends on how old this child is. If they are young, sometimes they embellish and that's a normal part of growing up. 4-5 year olds love to fantasize. It's developmental. Plus they are affected by peers at school too. Anyways I don't even know how old this child is. That would be helpful :)

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