DO YOU THINK HAVING A NICK NAME FOR YOUR CHILD IS WRONG OR RIGHT?

Joan - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 139 moms have responded )

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ME AND MY HUSBAND HAS NICK NAMES FOR OUR CHILDEREN... OUR SON WE CALL HIM CHUCK CHUCK AND OUR LIL GIRL WE CALL HER LITTLE BIT.... SOME FAMILY MEMBERS THINKS IT'S NOT RIGHT.

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Gale - posted on 02/14/2012

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I'm not against nicknames at all, but it fusterate me when people want to call my son Andy or Drew, those names are real Names and they can be stand on their own. if I wanted my son to be called Andy or Drew those names would have been on his birth citifcate. We call him by his real name all the time, but on line he is called Mousey. I think people should ask parents 1st what to call a child, it so disrespectful when people come up to me and call my son a name I didn't give him. It like me going up to them and call the meanface, really, they don't like it that I call them that,but they want me to like it that they can call my son whatever they want.

Philicia - posted on 05/09/2009

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I don't think that there is nothing wrong with giving your children nicknames, but I do have a problem with not teaching them the difference between a nick name and their birth name. The only reason I say this is that I was employed at a doctors office and it was hard sometimes to find the patient in the system or in the files because they were so conditioned to using only their nicknames that when you asked who they were they identified them as the nick name and not the birth name. In my opinion nick names should only be used around the family or friends and teach the babies the difference between the two.... much love

Jessica - posted on 05/09/2009

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Ok besides the great opinions everyone has given...think about when you have to teach them about strangers and the use of a code word...they won't use the nickname in school or even outside of the family so when you cant be there, a friend of yours need to pick them up--they use the nickname for the code word.safe word.



and for smaller kids you begin to hate hearing yourself say their name over and over and over(strangers will call them by name! big no no) nicknames work wonders in that situation!



goodluck

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Carol - posted on 06/07/2009

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Having nicknames is lovely. I remember being jealous when I was a child of friends who had nicknames.

We shorten Cheryl to Cher, Mitchell to Mitch and Alfie to Alf (boring I know).



my daughter was calling our lo Alfie Boo Boo for a while.



I still sometimes call my eldest son Squirt. It was cute when he was little but now he is built like an american wrestler and 12 yrs old I get some odd looks.

Sarah - posted on 06/07/2009

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i LOVE nicnames! sooo cute! my youngest's nicname is Moley! and Shy-Shy funnily enough! (her name is Shia) my dad still calls me by my childhood nicname sometimes and tho it can be a teeny bit embarrassing sometimes (like at my wedding haha!!) it does make feel kinda special! :)

Christy - posted on 06/07/2009

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There is nothing wrong with nicknames... we have a Nay-Nay, Co-coa, Bubba, KK, and Shy-Shy... they like to feel special

Imelda - posted on 06/06/2009

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I have 6 children and they all have nicknames there nothing wrong with that. They like it but my oldest daughter who is 10 has grown out of hers now,And at the end of the day they are your children,Dont worry about it

Ellen - posted on 06/06/2009

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I dont see anything wrong with it at all, we call my baby munchkin... And at the end of the day, they are your children and you can call them what you want. It has nothing to do with anybody else.

Ellen - posted on 06/06/2009

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I dont see anything wrong with it at all, we call my baby munchkin... And at the end of the day, they are your children and you can call them what you want. It has nothing to do with anybody else.

Ruthie - posted on 06/05/2009

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I think nick names are perfectly fine. like other people said as long as they don`t offend your little one. I don`t think my family would have a preoblem if I called my son by a nickname. they would probably call him by his givin name but I don`t think they would mind....

Jodie - posted on 05/12/2009

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i have three children but for some reason only the middle one has a nick name! We call her jam or jammie i use it so much tht some of the children at her nursery dont realise she's called jasmine ;) i like nick names as long as they are appropriate i think they are sweet an often occur because other siblings can't always pronounce the name, it makes them special.

Stephanie - posted on 05/11/2009

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I think nick names are fine , as long as they dont offend the child. My oldest is now 12 yrs old , so I never use the nick name in public , but around the house he doesnt mind. Good luck !

Emma - posted on 05/11/2009

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having nick names is great both my boys have nick names and really i think its your choice and not the other family members choices really i think it is quite healthy and normal everyone has nick names and always will have nick names

Sarah R - posted on 05/11/2009

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I think it is really hard to say....of course it depends on the nickname as well. My husband grew up with the nickname "Critta" since birth (given by his mom), whom everyone knew him as and/or knows him by & carried it all through his toddler yrs, school yrs, as a teenager, in school, etc. He has told people now, today, that it really confused him growing up. He felt like he didn't know himself. Maybe it was used too much & his birth name wasn't used enough.... I'm not here to judge. But I do know that nicknames are a touchy subject for some people. I just wouldn't want my children to grow up confused & insecure about who they really are. Don't get me wrong, I think nicknames are cute too but I think there is a time & a place for everything. Too much of an extreme of anything in life is not healthy for child or parent.

Sarah R - posted on 05/11/2009

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I think it is really hard to say....of course it depends on the nickname as well. My husband grew up with the nickname "Critta" since birth (given by his mom), whom everyone knew him as and/or knows him by & carried it all through his toddler yrs, school yrs, as a teenager, in school, etc. He has told people now, today, that it really confused him growing up. He felt like he didn't know himself. Maybe it was used too much & his birth name wasn't used enough.... I'm not here to judge. But I do know that nicknames are a touchy subject for some people. I just wouldn't want my children to grow up confused & insecure about who they really are. Don't get me wrong, I think nicknames are cute too but I think there is a time & a place for everything. Too much of an extreme of anything in life is not healthy for child or parent.

Peta - posted on 05/11/2009

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its great!! generally the reason behind the nick name is a great story.. or meaning.Something specail. My boys both have nick names bugs and hynees...

as long as they are not rude or degrading to the child. i would ask them why they feel that way? and explain why you call them their nick names.. it may help?! hope so!

Brenda - posted on 05/11/2009

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i think nick names are fine,i have them for my kids.my son,the only boy of 3 sisters,lol, i've called him little man as a baby and then started calling him bubby and still do.

Charlene - posted on 05/11/2009

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i think giving children nicknames is ok, my son is 9 month nd hes called ashton my hole family has different names for him, just shorter rele like ash, ashy. ashy woo, ash bash my mam calls him prince he answers to them all.

Jessica - posted on 05/11/2009

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i call my son Angel Cakes. its just a way for me to express my love for him! my partner calls him Sasquatch cos his feet are so big! he is 6 months old and wears size 2 shoes lol my dad calls him prentice cos he is going to teach him man things an whenever he picks him up he says cum to grandad for man talk ye? there is nothing wrong with it as long as its not hurtful or malignant!

Jodi - posted on 05/11/2009

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To each owns opinion on nicknames, but I think it sets a child apart from a sibling to know that mom, dad, grandpa, grandma, aunt, or uncle have decided to give them their own special name. All 4 of my children have nicknames and would much rather prefer their nicknames over their real names. Case in point, feel free to go with what you and your children are comfortable with.

Yvonne - posted on 05/11/2009

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i think its ok to call them by nickname occasionally as i knew someone that called their kids by nicknames and when they enrolled them in school they had to explain to the kids that the name they had been calling them wasnt thier real name, so poor kids had to get used to their real names. my son is damien and i use it 90% of the time but occasionally i call him dj for a nickname, i think its fine as long as he knows his real name and anwers to it

Rhonda - posted on 05/11/2009

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i think nicknames are great....alot of my family have nicknames....my daughters nickname is mia short for tamia, my nephews name is caiden i gave him the nickname caidenbear and everyone in the family calls him that, my aunty who has since passed gave me the nickname boo when i was born my family still call me that even though im 26 lol, but my mum calls me booboo bell, depending on the nickname i dont see anything wrong with it

Tiffany - posted on 05/10/2009

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i don't think there's anything wrong with it. everyone has nicknames...they are cute and they set them apart from everyone else!

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I love nicknames! I call my son turkey pie and other food type names, and my husband calls him buddy bear (I call my hubby Honey Bear). I always wished I had a nickname growing up. We had a neighbor once who's dog was named Heather. Well, I have a sister Heather and we would call her Heather the dog because of this. She hated it and we eventually stopped. And my FIL always calles my husband Jerome. His name is Darron, why he calles him that only he knows! But it is endearing and a very special bond between the two of them.

Fathmath - posted on 05/10/2009

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I think its good to have nicknames..I myself grew up in a family of nicknames..im a good one at it:)

I gave my son a nickname (Mauve) from the day I knew I was pregnant...I talked to him when he was growin in my womb and he loves the name...even responds well when i use Mauve:) and there are loads more now that he's here:)

User - posted on 05/10/2009

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Our kids' regular names are nicknames. We have Jack (for John William) and Steve (for Steven James). Since my husband and I are Pam and Phil (also nicknames), it's not weird to us.



We've had private nicknames for our boys and for each other that are just for us and not for the rest of the world to use. They are what I would call a "lovey" name -- the endearing sweetie type names that we use with love. I wouldn't call my sons by their lovey names in front of their friends, LOL!



We did have some family members object. Our attitude is, it's not your child and it's not your house. It prepared us well for homeschooling, LOL! We do not invite anyone to call our children by their lovey names and if anyone did they would be gently corrected.



We even had people say, "How can you call a baby Jack? How can you call a baby Steve?" They wanted "Jackie" or "Stevie". Ugh. My response was that they'd be babies for about ten minutes and boys/guys/men forever. They needed forever names.

Jessica - posted on 05/10/2009

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I think it's acceptable as long as they aren't hurtful nicknames. We call our son Troyboy or bud

LaRhonda - posted on 05/10/2009

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I have 6 boys and one girl, all grown now. I made sure that they all knew there given names and the meanings. But they all had nicknames we still call them today. they are all our own family specials. I am form a family of 8 and we all still call each other nicknames and I am 50yrs.

Tammy - posted on 05/10/2009

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I am not at all against nicknames. To each his own. I understand why people do it. But my husband and I tried purposely to name our son a name that could not be construded into a nickname. We don't see the point in giving a child their name and then calling them something else. You give them a name; and THAT makes them special. Like my goddaughter/niece's name is Kassandra and her mom calls her Cassie. I refuse. Why didn't she just name her Cassie then?

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I think it is Ok. All 10 nof mine have nick-names. Hailey is "Squirrel: or "Bug", David is Daze(big sis couldn't pronounce his name and it stuck)Eden is "Edie my sweety", Thomas is "Dude",Mathew is "Shorty", Daniel is "Spaniels", Samuel is Sam-Sam ,Claudia is "Lolly", Mariam is "Mini",short for Minium, which is what Sam called her when she came home from the hospital and Joshua is "Sauce", which is what Mariam called him when he came home from the hospital.

Catherine - posted on 05/10/2009

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My Granddaughter, age 15 months is named Beatrice. Baby Bea, thus BB. That is what she calls herself. We do try to use her full name whenever possible. But the nickname is fun and very much part of my culture.

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my daughter loves it when we call her by her favorite nicknames, Beans and B.B. Beans is the one that is commonly used by the family and B.B. is only used by me. it's like our little secret and she smiles really big when i call her it. i don't see anything wrong with it as long as the child likes it. i never liked nicknames as a child but my daughter loves them. she and my siblings also have their own nicknames for each other that she made me learn (lol she is Ice Cream).

Tricia - posted on 05/10/2009

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We are luck our kids know their actual names, lol We call our son whoes name is really Jacob- Peko, Chiquito, bananas, cheko peko and who knows what else. Our daughter Rachael is Peachie, Peach Fuzz, Fuzzy Bear, Da Fuzz and whatever else. Me and all my sisers grew up with nicknames and I hardly think it scarred any of us. If someone does not approve, then who cares, it is none of their business!

Natalie - posted on 05/10/2009

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i think nicknames are lovely, and sometimes they have a lovely little story behind them too, what do your family object to in particular about the nicknames ?

Ashley - posted on 05/10/2009

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i dont think there is anything wrong with them. my son has so many. his name is jackson so he gets jackie (my brothers do it because i hated it lol), jackamo, monkey because he's a huge climber, peanut, i could go on but i wont...lol. i think most parents come up with some sort of nick name for their child and there's nothing wrong with it

Ashley - posted on 05/10/2009

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i dont think there is anything wrong with them. my son has so many. his name is jackson so he gets jackie (my brothers do it because i hated it lol), jackamo, monkey because he's a huge climber, peanut, i could go on but i wont...lol. i think most parents come up with some sort of nick name for their child and there's nothing wrong with it

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I think nicknames are cute and special! My husband calls our daughter( 6 yrs old) baybay and when he calls her Julia she corrects him and says daddy I like it when u call me baybay!

Joanne - posted on 05/10/2009

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I can't believe anyone would have a problem with it! Unless it was something offensive! We've always called our daughter Milky, because of how much she loved it when she was tiny - she doesn't really drink it anymore as she is now nearly 2 (except before bed) but we still call it her! You stick with it! xx

Joanne - posted on 05/10/2009

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I can't believe anyone would have a problem with it! Unless it was something offensive! We've always called our daughter Milky, because of how much she loved it when she was tiny - she doesn't really drink it anymore as she is now nearly 2 (except before bed) but we still call it her! You stick with it! xx

Sara - posted on 05/10/2009

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i think nick names are good, its special to each child. i call my baby munch or munchy and when i say it she gets sooo excited.

Noel - posted on 05/10/2009

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Yea I think nicknames are great for kids.. I hate mine now that I'm an adult but I deal with it because only my big brother and dad use it. I have nicknames for all 4 of my kids... Tristan is T.J. now that he's older (use to be Trisabee) Meghan is LuLu, Morghan is Morgie Pie (they called her squash blossom in the NICU ) and MaKenna is Kenna Bug. It makes them smile and I think feel special cuz they have their own lil nickname from mommy.

Marcy - posted on 05/10/2009

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I think it's great! I had nicknames growing up from different family members and they still call me those names and I'm 37! My kids have lots of different nicknames that they associate with very special people in their lives. It is perfectly normal. Even our pediatrician has special nicknames for our kids and calls them by those names everytime we see her!!!!

Kelsy - posted on 05/10/2009

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My kids are nicknamed Taters, Seige, MrE (pronounced mystery), Kadiddles, Teagles and Squidget.

Kathryn - posted on 05/10/2009

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My 2 year-old came up with her own nickname because she had difficulty with the letter 'L' - she calls herself KK instead of Kaylee. When she does say her name it comes out as Kaywee.

Mia - posted on 05/10/2009

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it's perfectly fine to have nicknames for your children, my daughter is called princess, cj and bubba and my son is called lix, twix or bubbalubba x

Fae - posted on 05/10/2009

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Oh yea, also when you talk with family members, I think you should call them by their nicknames, too... And if they don't have any, well that may be why they don't get how cool nicknames are.

Fae - posted on 05/10/2009

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I agree- nicknames make kids feel special... they get reminded that you are close with them. I work with kids and have my own daughter... I use different names to sometimes help indicate how Anna's doing... Sometimes when she's being goofy, I'll call her Anna Banana... if she's about to do something she shouldn't, I use her full name... You know- everyone's probably been called by their full name by their parents before! I know I have :)

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i call my son monkey, even though i do get some funny looks from people wondering why im calling my son a racist name, but he is my lil monkey, so i dont care and he laughs every time i say it lol

Georgie - posted on 05/10/2009

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My husband and I raised seven sons and each had a nick name. The important thing is that the name is not embarrassing to the child as they grow up. Sometime within the teen years they will ask you to stop using it, but you still refer to them with the nickname in your heart :)

Kerry - posted on 05/10/2009

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I don't think there is anything wrong with nicknames! My son has had a host of them since he was born from Mr. Cheeks to Meat head ( thankks to my brother in law lol.). Currently he is our little monkey !

User - posted on 05/10/2009

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I had nicknames for my kids...They're family has different ones..They do feel special! Besides..don't we call our spouses "Honey" or "Dear" ? Nicknames! ;)

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