Autumn - posted on 12/29/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )
Hey, I was just wondering how many mothers, young, old, rich and poor, wish they had waited longer for children?. I am 18, married, own our home, cars paid off and have plenty of family time. I am personally glad I had my son when I did. I was 16 at the time. I turned 17 shortly before having my son.
I meant my husband on my 15 birthday and not long after that we where engaged. I have always been ahead of my time you could say. I grew up fast, because I had to with my home life. I was a very mature young woman at the time of meeting my now husband. I was already taking care of my little brother and sister, while my mother worked. I had all the same responsibly now, that I did then, so its no different for me.
I will go with my husband and son to all the places mothers hang out and the one thing I hear most is "I wish I had waited to have my son/daughter. I didn't get to do this or that." I just don't understand it. A lot of people tell me, I was to young to marry or to young to have a child and I will regret it one day. That one day I will wish I had waited and I look at those people and laugh. I am from a poor family, and growing up the way I was I did not care for school or doing anything with my life. I just wanted to pack up and leave my family behind. I was not going to be able to go to collage or travel the world. I did not have the money and never would. I did not have the want to. When I meant my husband that changed in me. We started to make plains for a life together and all the things we wanted for our lives. A steady home, and children were at the top of our list. We have both of those things now and we are both so insanely happy. We are able to do things now, that I would have never dreamed of. I see old friends that I had not seen in years because they moved away from me when I was younger and I had know way to get a hold of them. I have all the things I could have ever wanted for my life, and so much more, and I have most of those things thanks to my son and my husband. If I had not had my son, Daniel I am sure that I would not have had the will in me to make it work so much with my husband. He is a wonderful guy, helps me in every way and even goes out of his way to help me.
Alright so enough about me and my reasons. The question as I asked before.
How many of you, mothers wish you had waited to have your children, and why do you wish you had waited? How many of you are married, single, I guess just tell me your story.