does any body have a child with ADHD

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Joan - posted on 09/11/2009

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Yes I do. I have two boys, one with ADD and one with ADHD. In fact I have it as well. My sons are both on the same medicine. The one that is ADD is on Adderall XR and his grades went from F's to A's and B's and he says he can't tell the difference, except he's not hungry all day - which was my biggest concern as he's pretty skinny. My younger son is 12 and is very hyper and consistently is in forward motion. To the point he never shuts a door, a cupboard, has a super hard time remembering more then one direction at a time. He also is on Adderall XR, and I STILL have to do a lot of reminding, and slowing him down. It's scarey though to think you're putting your child on such heavy artillary to excell, but kids who don't have it, tend to get very depressed because they feel like they are stupid, and don't understand why they can't remember, or listen or why they have such a hard time in school and getting along with family and friends. It's a lot of work. If you can do it without medication by structuring your house to a strict routine and working with your childs teachers, then it's definately worth it. But, if you find that all you do is get frustrated with your child, or that your child is struggling to make friends, or get his work done and you find his self esteem is going to the dogs, medication can really help and there are lots of alternatives.

Kimberley - posted on 09/13/2009

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Our son was diagnosed 5 months ago and he is only 5 1/2. He is starting Kindergarten this year and we are holding our breath. Our first try last year was not a happy one. We had to put him back into Pre-K for another year but luckily we had a teacher who was willing to help us and have patience with Keith where the first teacher absolutely was NOT helpful and frankly didn't want to be bothered. We did take him through all the evaluations to see if there may have been something else underlying that we were not aware of and are still taking him in for "check ups" but so far so good. We started him on a low dose medication and it has helped tremendously. We were both very leery of giving him meds at such a young age but the more I spoke with other people the common thread was that it was even more detrimental to the child to not do anything at all. There are other alternative treatments for ADHD but the professional advice we received said that it really did not help as much (if at all) as the medication. We saw the difference it made within a week and has really made a difference for our son.

Mary - posted on 09/12/2009

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Hi Kate, I have a son who is 13 now who has had adhd symptoms. I never put him on medication though. I used the Feingold diet (ADHDdiet.com), it's taking out dyes (red40, yellow 5 and/or 6, blue 1). There are also fruits and vegetables that makes the symptoms worse as well: grapes, raisins, apples, cucumbers,peppers and others but these are the biggies! I'll be honest, it doesn't work on everyone, just like everything out there but if it does it's worth a shot to try it out. It's changing a way of life, I did it for about 7 years until his father decided it didn't work and now my son has to choose if he wants to do it or not. If he doesn't follow it now he is susceptible to tics (like a tourettes) but nothing major, and he can control if he wants to get rid of them. good luck and if you want more information, send me a message =) Mary

Kasey - posted on 09/10/2009

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Hey Kate,

I have twins that are 11 and in 6th grade. Both girls have been diag. w/.ADHD. I like you was very confused as to give or not to give. My husband and I decided that when it affected there school work we would take the next step. For one of my daughters it was affecting school and social skills greatly. We put her on Concerta. It saved the whole family. She was on it for about 2 years and now goes without. She has learned to deal with it a little better and grades are not suffering. My other daughter never went on the meds and is in the gifted program. She learned to deal with it earlier and grades never suffered. My whole point is every child is different even if raised the same, so ultimately you have to make the choice that is best for your family not what you think everyone wants you to do! I think the hardest part is others telling you that your child just needs a good spanking. If only I had a dollar for every time someone said that. Good Luck and I have seen lots of good ides on here to help also. Visual helps alot!!! We still use a dry erase board that I use to help them keep up with the little things, like pick up your socks and put away backpack. That way the kids can see it and you are not pulling out your hair repeating yourself. When they ask to do some thing like go out and play, all I have to say is "is the board done?' Not a whole list of things. The girls like it better too because I am not nagging them. Hope this helps.

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All three of my kids were also diagnosed with ADHD....they were at the time living with my Ex-Husband and his wife and her three kids.....not my choice but they wanted to live with him.....and the environment was so go go go do do do with -0- structure what so ever.....they started living with me where I am very structured, organized and always telling kids up front what would be happening that day whether it be a Dr. Appt. or with whatever change that may upset the daily routine and all of them have turned out to be great with NO medications......I really think it was the unsettled household they lived in......I hope this helps anyone who may want to try this.....a lot of work for parents to stay on schedule but worth it to have calm children......oh and another thing.....I cook healthy meals and make their lunches for school.....a lot of work for you Mom's/Dad's out there but the payoff for them when they move out in the big world and have jobs to support themselves.....it is all worth it.....I have now given two of my children their pink slips to life and they are doing fantastic.....no ADHD in sight!!

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Carrie - posted on 06/09/2011

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I have 2 boys who have recently been diagnosed with ADHD. The youngest also has ODD. They both take Concerta, no side effects yet, still trying to find the right dosage for my youngest though and he starts counseling this Friday. I think trying meds is better than having them out of control.

Carrie - posted on 06/09/2011

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I have 2 boys who have recently been diagnosed with ADHD. The youngest also has ODD. They both take Concerta, no side effects yet, still trying to find the right dosage for my youngest though and he starts counseling this Friday. I think trying meds is better than having them out of control.

User - posted on 09/18/2009

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My middle child was diagnosed adhd at a young age, After alot of drugs and many headaches now they say it is BiPolar or did for the last 6 years and now it is well... we think she is pchitzo but wont give her that diagnosis till the age of 18. Now having said all that I believe she is going to be ok and I am die hard on if lithium will work which is does for alot ! Use it, it is not a drug it is actually a salt which is always a plus ! Just my opinion

Sandi - posted on 09/18/2009

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My son Michael has had ADHD for 2 years,he is in residental care.It was a 6 month treatment program,we have 6 more weeks to go. This is a very anxious time for both of us.Michael has at least 5 disorders,so far.He is only 7. I`m 47 and really tired,being a single mom.It really helps to share and know there are more families like ours.

Jandy - posted on 09/16/2009

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My son has suffered from ADDHD since he was 5, he has been on so many different medications that made him complete zombie, he's know 15 and he takes a patch Daytrana only as needed, he doesn't take it everyday only on test days when he needs to concentrate. So far it's been working out, he'll put the patch on in the morning and remove it 7 to 8 hours later, medicine leaves only last 9hrs then it's completely out of his system with in an hour. The older he's getting his ADDHD seems to be getting better. In my opinion when they become teenager they start trying other things to control they're ups and downs!

Lynoa - posted on 09/13/2009

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Post a reply! My son is 15 yrs. old and he is autistic and he has been dignosed with ADHD every since he was 5yrs. old. He has been on numerous medications but now i I think I found the right one with lithium. Along with other medications to get him through the day Adderall XR, Zoloft, Abilfy 15mg and 5mg , and of course the lithium. He gets very violent does alot of hitting,tantrums, and throwing sometimes he gets very destructive.

Chris - posted on 09/13/2009

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my son been tested for adhd and the hospital are saying that he has not got wonding how i get them to relize he has

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thank you all so much for sharing your experience here. I am raising 3 grandchildren the 10 year old has fetal alcohol syndrome and i will find out September 23 if the 6 yr old has ADHD or bi-polar or both. You have given a lot of information to ask the doctor and I am very grateful.

Jenna - posted on 09/13/2009

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At first my older son was diganosed with it then came the younger.My older son is off all the medicine , while the younger is in hospital for his anger.Should be coming home today.

Jennifer - posted on 09/12/2009

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My nine year old Daughter has ADHD with anxiety disorder - which can be hard when she is making friends. She is on a very small dose of Ralitin and she can finally learn better at school but she is only on the tablet for school - not the weekends or the hoildays. Her behaviour is pretty good - she has her good days and her bad days but she is a wonderful loving young lady.........

Lisa - posted on 09/12/2009

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My son hates homework as well, but now that I am the only parent working and my husband is Mr mom that has all changed.

Lisa - posted on 09/12/2009

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Thank you so much, I really need to hear stories like that,I know there are alot of people out there in the same boat as me but to actually hear stories from other people is a little reassuring.My son is 9 so I still have a long way to go and it even makes it harder because I have a 7 year old daughter who is bright and does great in school,so when I am telling her great job because she did something good in school and my son is looking at me like what about me, he says to me sometimes ( Mom why am I stupid, why do I have to go in a special day class), it's very dishartning.So when he gets a good report or grade I make the biggest deal out of it.

Lisa - posted on 09/12/2009

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It just seems like all teachers and doctors want to do is medicate kids these days especially boys.At first I was totally against any meds for my son for ADHD but I researched all the different meds they have for HDHD and found a couple that seem harmless so we tryed Concerta, it seemed to work pretty well.Now he is on Stattera and is doing great.He is not a zombie and he does so much better with a low dose of Stattera.I mean as a parent are we suppose to medicate, don't medicate, listen to doctors,don't listen to doctors, so as parents we are doing what we feel is best for our son.Doctors don't know everything and only you as a parent know your child best.All kids are different.

Nichola - posted on 09/12/2009

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Hi I have read some replys regarding ADHD. My son is 18yrs old. I had a fight getting the therapy for him. when he was about 9 or 10 I was given a name of the manager of CAMS. Which is the department looking after kids in the NHS. I phoned and got an appointment. I was at the end of my tether. During the time we saw her, a few years we learnt ways that would help my son. It turned out I needed help to and we even had a family session. My girls found it hard aswell. I spoke to his school nearly every day. I ended up in meetings with the school and educational therapist for various conditions. There was a report drawn up on how tthe teachers should handle ADHD kids. I chose the smallest school and all boys as these are better choices than mixed and large schools. less distraction more help from teachers, even though I had words with some ove the years and expressing my disapointment in some of them. In England only 2% is taught to new teachers about ADHD & other conditions but conduct disorder is 0%. I and the education therapist got this report given to all my sons teachers so they could handle him with better results. I found out on a parent evening that most had not read it.Not a good time. I also was very diplimatic when talking to the head about events in school They new i meant business. I wrote my sons view down I wrote all my questions down and luckily on one occasin there was a trustee in the meeting and heard all the things I had been told that the school was going to do and they didn't. My reason in telling you this is because. By letting my son know i heard what he said and I believed him i also took on the other side of the story, then came to a conclusion. By having faith in my son, love, respect, being there even though he would hit the wall, his sisters, loads of shouting breaking things, i always held him once he calmed down. We have had a time when he would say he was going to kill himself and had emergency doctor appointments because of it. I have been told by our therapis i am my sons world. It is important your child knows he has someone even if you are the one he lays in to verbally. I have been ill with stress. but i know the good side of him. Most kids with ADHD get into trouble with the law but because I was there he didn't.

after a time worrying about what he is going to do all his life. He found what he wanted to do now and i got him a job with a friend who had a business and he is doing well. i know this is long but there is so much to say. He was on ritalin then a couple years after it changed to Concerta. It helped him to calm down a bit, definately helped. He chose to stop when he was 16. It is very hard and emotionly draining. remember you gave birth to him or her,they are your children, give them some support, know they can come and talk to you.on there terms. speak calmly, shouting will make it much worce for all. I have 2 girls older and younger than him and I divided my time for each of them that way your other kids get a look in with you. lots more to say. I think i'll stop. hope this helps. Just one thing more, when your child comes in from school and he lands his stuff on the floor, say nothing until he has had something to eat and or calmed down from school, then ask him calmly to pick his bag up and put it into his bedroom. Once he has done that do the same with his coat and so on. as soon as you can see he or her is going to blow walk away. do not make a situation that really can wait. Having a routeen is very important. I was very strick but found waiting a little longer for something to be done was more friutfull for all the family. Bending the rules to get what you want from your child is ok to do.

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I have an 11 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 4. He has been on medication since then and the medication does help him. He has been on Concerta pretty much since he could swallow medication whole.(in applesauce). He has also been under the care of a psychologist until just recently. His main problem with the medication is the side effect of not being hungry until the medication wears off at the end of the day when he tends to "hoard" his food including getting up at night and sneaking food. Recently, it hasn't been as big of a problem, but we do have to watch what he eats especially at night to help control his weight problem. I agree that a good psychiatrist/psychologist specializing in pediatric ADHD is a great thing for your child whether you decide to use medication or not!

Victoria - posted on 09/12/2009

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I have a 14 year old son with ADHD and ODD. I didnt put my son on meds until he was in grade 3. He had a huge inablility to focus on anything. I told the pediatrition that he showed a huge difference in school, and i only had them for school not at home. He is in high school now and he is getting A's and B's. I couldn't be any prouder of him than i am now. The best thing about him is that he is so willing to help those who are like him or even a little different. He is turning into an awesome young man. And i do thank God for the patience to be able to hang in there with him, as im sure there a few days he would have loved to trade me in for a new mom. lol.

Jennifer - posted on 09/12/2009

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yes, my son Bailey age 10 has adhd and odd. It has been very hard on the entire family. He goes after my 17 year old daughter with knives. It takes every bit of energy that i have to keep up with him. He started Concerta adn he is much much better. Lets hope it stays that way

Flory - posted on 09/11/2009

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Do not medicate.....these are powerful drugs, kids die from them! You can do so much with good wholesome foods, no additives, no sugar.....just fresh veggies, nuts, whole grains, raw milk....things like that....fish oil....

and lots of love an patience. Also check out what damage vaccines have done! Go to a homeopath, they can help alot.

Good luck, Flory

Janie - posted on 09/11/2009

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My son is 11 now and has been ADHD for about 6 years now. He is doing great with Concerta only he has developed this noise with clearing his throat. We are not sure if it is a side affect or if it is allergies. He will be starting a new mg tomorrow. Going from 54 to 72mg. Hopefully we can get homework out of him. As of right now we can't get him to do his homework.

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Yes, I have an now adult son with ADHD. It has been a very long struggle for him and for us. Please be careful and monitor him closely during adolescence. If public school doesn't help him, put him in a private setting if possible. My son is 28 and still ADD but cannot take medications so he struggles daily. He can be a success but it will take hard work on both parts. He could possibly get better with age as my other son did. I wish you the best and let me know if you need help with getting him in special ed programs and any advice. God bless!

Pam - posted on 09/11/2009

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They are treating my 9 yr old son with ADHD meds I do not agree; he is not with me , but I do voice what researched. A long time ago there was d ouble blind study in Israel- some children were given fish oil ; others a placebo. Well the group on fish oil did extraordinarily well ! I have told my mother this , also that ADHD meds have been given a warning from the APA and DEA, about current medications that are known to cause heart attacks in normal healthy school aged children . I really prayed on that one. American Psychiatric Association ( APA) actually is seeing the real affects of these drugs. I do know diet plays a big part - in every diagnosis for that matter- and do not beat your self up if behavior modifications have not started to work yet- your child like mine is very young , blessings to you Pam

Joyce - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hi Kate,

My heart aches for you and your little one. My friend Celese also went the medication route with her son who was diagnosed with severe ADHD. He also threatened to take his life and his parents' with a knife. After a while, the medicine started to have a negative effect on his liver. They immediately took him off the meds. She then found a powerful nutritional program that is healthy and making a huge difference. He no longer needs the meds and his liver is healthy again. She tells me that with the nutrition he is 90% symptom free. She will never go back to the meds. She loves to share what she's found... if you're interested, I'd be happy to help connect you. Hugs!

-joyce yee, mom of three

Kelly - posted on 09/11/2009

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Yes, my son will be 12 in February and has been on Concerta since he was in 7. I agree with Karen - you do have to be very careful. The only reason I went with medication is because he had such a hard time in school and since he had no learning disabilities they would not give him any extra attention to get him thru the day. The concerta has worked well for him and he is now in 6th grade and just about a straight A student. Behavior modification goes a long way but take time and support so if you have that, that's great. Both me and my husband both work full time and have 2 other children so it was very difficult for my mother (who takes care of the kids while we are not home) to deal with him so for us, medication was the way to go but not all medications are treated equally. Some work better than others and they work differently on different kids. There is a chance kids outgrow it, but usually not until after the teenage years which I have heard is the most difficult time because the hormones kick in. I have found that working closely with the teachers and giving them helpful hints about your child and what works and what doesn't to get them to do what you need them to do is very beneficial and having the right teacher helps. There are teachers who are more willing than others to take the time to help in the areas that are necessary. Get your child tested at school for core evaluation and they will narrow down any learning disabilities. If they decide there are issues, then a special plan can be put in place for extra help. My son's school has programs in school like lunch bunch or safari where kids with similar issues get together for lunch once or twice a week with a guidance counselor and do activities and discuss things like friends and how to have them and play with and interact or feelings, why they are angry or sad, etc. It's been very helpful for us.



Whatever you decide, just give your child the space they need. I sat my son down when he started the medication so that he would understand why he had to take it and why he may have difficulty in school or at home. This doesn't make him a bad kid but someone that needs a little extra help. I told him that some people need medication for their hearts or for other things, but that he needed medication for his brain to help him sit still, pay attention and get his school work done. At night when the medication wears off, the hyperactivity does kick in so he paces and talks a lot while pacing and my husband and mother can't stand it and give him a hard time, but I just allow him to pace and talk and I do my best to listen and encourage him. It's not their fault they have this and we have to give them the tools to work on controlling it whether it's meds or behavior or just plain room to breathe!



Good luck!

LaTonya - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hi! My daughter has had symptoms of ADHD since she was little, but Dr.'s never really knew for sure of the diagnoses only by trying out different medicines. Some people have had success, but in our case we did not. Our daughter was put on different ones. 1st on rittlin then changed to Adderall. Both made her space out in class. She just had hardly any emotion. She was on a lower dose than other kids her age also. Next we tried Straterra thinking it has got to be safer since it's not a controlled substance, but it actually was the scariest one we tried. 2 weeks after taking it, she was horribly depressed talking about dying. At the time, she was only 9 years old. That is definitely not normal for a 9 yr. old to be thinking about. She comes from a very happy well balanced loving family. Anyway I took her off of it right away and her depression and feelings of dying changed immediately, which I was so relieved, It scared me so much! I decided, there is not a Dr. out there that can know everything about every medicine and from that point forward, I thought I would help her anyway I could, like eating well, and also you can go to herb shops and ask them to recommend something to help.

Gail - posted on 09/11/2009

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Please get this kid OFF the meds! The meds CAN make him MORE angry! Please PLEASE look into natural cures, DIET. Please do sme research on the natural side , maybe find a holistic Doc. and ask them PLEASE! Theose meds will take your kids away in so many ways! Just check in out for your sons AND yours sake!

Rhonda - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have a 14 year daughter who was diagnosed at the age of 6. She was first put on ritilin (methylphenedate) and then was put on concerta because it lasts all day. For a brief period in second grade we tried Straterra because we thought it might be safer. However, Straterra did not give her the self-control she needed. It also made her sleepy and it caused her to have severe stomach cramps. We switched her back to concerta and she's been on it since. She does well on this. Do you have a specific question? I am a teacher of special education students. I have had alot of experience with students who are on medication and several who might would benefit from it but aren't. I may be able to answer your questions.

Rhonda - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have a 14 year daughter who was diagnosed at the age of 6. She was first put on ritilin (methylphenedate) and then was put on concerta because it lasts all day. For a brief period in second grade we tried Straterra because we thought it might be safer. However, Straterra did not give her the self-control she needed. It also made her sleepy and it caused her to have severe stomach cramps. We switched her back to concerta and she's been on it since. She does well on this. Do you have a specific question? I am a teacher of special education students. I have had alot of experience with students who are on medication and several who might would benefit from it but aren't. I may be able to answer your questions.

Suzanne - posted on 09/11/2009

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no not adhd but aspurges wich i believe is all linked.he does sometimes get aggressive then other times he is lovely.so i no what ya going through.He take pills 4 epilepsy too has this is also linked.Take care and regards suzanne

Suzanne - posted on 09/11/2009

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no not adhd but aspurges wich i believe is all linked.he does sometimes get aggressive then other times he is lovely.so i no what ya going through.He take pills 4 epilepsy too has this is also linked.Take care and regards suzanne

Rachel - posted on 09/11/2009

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With medications it is always a cycle that you can watch happen right in front of your eyes. First they give them something that speeds up their system so that they can in turn slow down, then the medications makes them anxious after some time so they prescribe something to keep them calm, then after a longer while the child is now on two medications that are no longer helping and then the child suffers from depression. I have seen this happen and coming off of all the medications is even a long haul. To any parents looking into medications just look at the alternatives first. There is a lot of therapy that can also help children that have ADD or ADHD or just hyperactive children in general.

Heather - posted on 09/11/2009

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I agree that ever child is different, but for lots of kids with ADHD the medication is a life saver!! I have a 9year old boy in the forth grade who has been medicated since first grade. I knew before that, but that is when it started affecting his learning so that is when we started medicating him. He takes Focalin XR and he is a straight A student. His teachers sometime have a hard time believing me that he needs the medication - that is because it works so well for him. (and he is not a Zombie on it!) I would like to video tape him in the morning before the meds kick in so that they would know what I am talking about!! It is difficult sometimes to get homework done - and sometimes he has a lot since he doesn't work to fast in class. I spend a lot of time working on things with him. He is medicated 365 days a year - consistency is key!! The meds have to be on time all the time! I do worry about the side affects of the meds too (I am a RN) but I think it is critical that he do well in school. Why should he have to struggle every day? They know so much more about ADHD these days than they did 25years ago. You need to find the right doctor who will listen to you and work with you to get the meds "tweeked" just right. You have to be in constant contact with your Doctor and your teachers for everything to run smoothly! My son would never make it through school without the medication - it has been a life saver!

Kyoko - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have 4 sons with ADHD. Two are also BiPloar, one is ODD, and one is OCD. Somehow we keep them all together with meds and behavior modifications. They know there are consequences for their behavior and even though they may not completely accept them they don't give me too much hassle.

Make sure his consequences are understood by him and make sure you stick with them. Time-out does not work for kids like this. Taking away stuff works really good but you have to be strong enough to follow through not matter how bad it gets.

My boys are now 17, 15, 13, & 10 and they are for the most part really good but when i do need to discipline them it goes a lot smoother.

Lisa - posted on 09/11/2009

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My son is 14 now and was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 11. He had been having anger outbursts and crying episodes often at that time and also had a reading disability where his reading level was below grade level. He was started on Focalin XR with good results of dose adjustments with increasing weight. With the transition into high school now, and some increase in attention deficit, his psychologist decided to put him on a low dose of Zoloft in addition to the Focalin rather than increase the Focalin. He is doing wonderful. Much more cooperative, less argumentative, and an all around happier young man who is truely putting forth the effort to do good in school.

Robyn - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have a son with ADDHD he was diagnoised when he was in 1 to part of 2 grade school from his doctors and his teachers we took a test from the doctors thats how we found out

Yolande - posted on 09/11/2009

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Good Day Everyone. My daughter (6years) was diagnosed as Autistic about 2 months ago!! It was a real shock to me at first. We are dealing with it now without any medication at this stage. Be strong! God will see us through.

Heather - posted on 09/11/2009

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Our 12 year old son was diagnosed with ADD with borderline HD when he was in 1st grade. It was first recognized in Kindergarten, but because most kids are a bit hyper in Kindergarten, the teacher suggessted we wait until the following year to diagnose. We worked VERY closely with his pediatrician, teachers, and school psychologist before we made a decision to medicate him. The only med that really works the best for him is Concerta. He takes it once a day, it takes about 20 minutes to kick in and lasts for 12 hours. He is getting straight A's in school now because he can concentrate on what he's doing. I would recommend Concerta to anyone else!

Laquinsia - posted on 09/11/2009

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I have twin boys who were diagnosed at the age of 5. You have to be very careful in what decisions you make. It can be a challenge but mom has to be very patient. They always want to put them on medications which has very bad side effects and causing problems with the children. You will need a lot of support. Do as much research to see what will be best for your child. The behavior modifications is you just have to come up with a plan or even just talk with your child. Sometimes it is best to let them have space with they are going through their moment please do not pressure them. I wish you the best but you can make it through this.

Mareza - posted on 09/11/2009

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My son is 8years old and has ADHD he is on no medication only on Bio-Strath and is doing great yes we have ou up and down days but still he copes very well.He is in a private school with only eleven kids in the class and I think it helps a lot.Good luck to everyone I know I need it somedays!

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I really believe that consistency in behavior modification works it did for us.

Redirecting there attention, and not giving full attention to bad behavior such as pick 1 place (never the bedroom) for time outs never go over how old they are in minutes, there minutes start over when they don't stay, always be eye level to them when speaking to them also helps.

I'm sure many think pills are the Way to go but for me it's a easy way out of dealing with the problem, diet is also very important.

I'm trying to find the web site that gave me great advice unfortunately It has been 20 years if I find it I will post it for you.

Raising kids is the most difficult job a person will ever have someone with a child that has ADDH is even more strained but my child was worth the extra effort he's a happy well adjusted young man today.

Shannon - posted on 09/10/2009

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Been there done that. My son was also diagnoised with ADHD @ a young age. We did agree to put him on medication, which turned out to be the worst thing i've ever done to him. We decided to take him off and deal with it. Giving a kid something to do and keeping him busy works very well. The Doctors think ever avtive kid is ADHD. When we were kids it was just called being busy. But we get all caught up in the B.S, with the teachers and doctors telling us they won't go far, they can't be in regular school if we don't medicate them. And all it does is mess them up. Thank god we took him off the medication. And that was a chore in itself. WHEWWW!!! My son is now married with a child and he's a member of the USAF!!! Doing very well.

Don't do it.... Don't medicate your kid to please the school's, they just want it easy for them.

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009

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to the person who said their child was cured.....YOU CANT CURE ADHD. It is a nuerological problem that will be with them forever.... It can be maintained though....

Michelle - posted on 09/10/2009

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My son is now 11. I had him medicated with Ritalin at the age of 5 so "he could cope with school". As i look back now it was always the teachers that needed the help not him. At the age of 10 i decided that this lil man who could not put on weight ( he was always under 24 kilos) had to come off medication because i knew this was just no good as our paediatrician wanted to put him on Concerta 56....so took all medication away. Maybe i'm just lucky as within 6months he put on over 10 kilos and is excelling in sports and school....



I know medication is a private decision made only by the parents but my point is dont be bullied to use medication because society asks us to "control" our children so they fit mainstream..... Its not fair to them nor to us....



Hope life treats you all well with any decision you decide...

Chris - posted on 09/10/2009

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My grandson, 8 years old has ADHD and has taken Methylphenidate (rittlin) during the school year.. His dose is very small and he didn't take it during the summer off. It has made such a difference with all his subjects grade 2 improved after taking Methylphenidate (rittlin). It allows him to focus at school, sit still, follow instructions and get along with other students. There was another boy in the other grade 2 class and he was a zombie so the dose has to be regulated by you and your doctor. Question the teacher as much as possible because they see more and get to know more of what happens at school. He just started his grade 3 year and is back on a small dose approx. 1/2 hour before school begins every morning. It wears off by 2:30 p.m. and doesn't take another dose unless he has baseball or bowling in the evening.

Rosette - posted on 09/10/2009

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Quoting KATE :

does any body have a child with ADHD




Hi my son is no longer a cild, 24 this year but was diagnosed at 11 years, he was put on ritalin but im not sure now that was the right thing to do. He started smoking cannabis and unfortunately is now a paranoid schitzophrenic.

Deanna - posted on 09/10/2009

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Both of my boys have ADHD and have been on meds. My oldest was Dx at age 4 and put on meds and today he is 14 and has overcome the hyperactivity, but still needs the meds to help with focusing in school, he doesn't take it on the week-ends. My other son was Dx in kindergarden at age 6 and put on meds and I'm waiting for him to out grow the hyperactivity. The doctor had always told they would out grow it, but I didn't believe him til my son did out grow it.



I did do my homework one because I wanted to educate myself so that I could help my son the best way I could. I work in a doctors office now and I see alot of moms who have their kids on meds just for school and during the summer they don't take it, but for my kids because they were so hyper I had to leave them on it.



Good Luck with whatever you decide to do.

Wanda - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have two. My 15 yr old has been on medication since 3rd grade and I have to tell you it has done a world of good for him. We are now working on weening him off and he is doing quite well with it. Growing out of alot fo the issues. He was mild anyway. But my 6 yr old is another story. We are still trying to find that happy medium for her. She was just diagnosed (although I have known for a while) about 6 months ago. Two things for sure with ADHD kids, diet makes a huge difference and firm but loving care.

Nancy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have two boys with ADHD and the thing about medication is it is chose you make so that it is made easier. I was offered ritalin and we said no way to that. We started with Dexadrin and have slowly moved up through out the drug world. That sounds awful but yeah i have 14 year old that doesn't live with us on a full time basis and he is on Concerta and that goes up dosage wise with weight. My son has Aspergers and ADHD and he is on Strattera right now and Rispadol and he is fine and he is 13 and diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6 and Aspergers when he was like 10 or so. And yes his dad is also has the ADHD and ASpergers only undiagnosed also. Do what is in your heart because you know as a parent how much you can handle.

Crystal - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have two childern with Bi-Polar/ADHD.. The most important thing you need to do is find a doctor that you REALLY trust and go along with their sugestions. Read all the imformation that you can find on the med ask questions about the side effects and weigh the pros against the cons and make an informed decission. Every child responds differently on different meds according to their level. My kids couldn't go over the summer without meds (they weren't capable of self controll) but a diet change, sports and careful monitoring of the meds have allowed us all to learn to deal with it. My oldest now 18 is not longer taking meds (his choice) and he is now having to learn to deal with the consenquences of his actions (even the uncontrolled ones, when he accidentally gets out of controll) This is a decision only you and your family can make. Be aware, be informed, and do yourself this one favor get a doctor that you trust to do the best for your child not "what everyone else dose". And take all the classes for your family that are offered about helping children with "mental health issues" They help even if it is someone to listen when life gets tough!

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