does any i else belive in routine ?

Gemma - posted on 06/22/2009 ( 101 moms have responded )

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hi i was just woundering if any 1 else belived in a routine my little girl is 19months and goed to bed at half 6 and sleeps till about 8 ish and then has a bottle of milk then we both have breakfast then do whatever we doing that day then lunch at about 12ish then dinner at about half4 then bath if its bath night and would like to no if any1 else has 1 coz even tho im a young mum i still think its good to have a routine ??

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Nancy - posted on 06/26/2009

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Keeping a routine in place now will save you loads of trouble later! Especially when it comes to bedtime. It also helps you to plan when you are going on an outing. Don't put off or skip meals because you are out and about - once a child gets hungry and fussy it takes hours to get back to normal. Establishing a good routine now will make life easier.

Kelly - posted on 06/22/2009

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Yes.....we have a routine at our house too.....they say it is really good for children to have and know there routine.....i am a young mom as well and some people just don't think that we can do it....but most of us can.....i would say that your doing great...and she is adorable...

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Seirra - posted on 02/02/2012

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oh wow everyone has a routine!! i need one oh so bad!!my youngest (3 mnths) stays up alllll night literally. her bed time is 8 am and she wakes up at about 1 pm and i have to get up with my oldest (2 yrs) at 9 and then im soo exhausted all day and im too tired to do anything can some one help?

Elsa - posted on 07/03/2009

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I started a routine at the 2 month mark and my little Audrey now knows what to expect. She is now 4 months old and is an absolute dream! She wakes between 6 and 7 everyday, feeds and then has bouncer time while I eat and clean bottles. We then do exercises and music (really mommy's exercises with interaction-lots of singing and bouncing), she feeds again, then takes a morning nap (about 1 hr). She wakes up hungry, is fed, and then it's bath time and massage, and then a walk or a trip out to the mall or grocery store. Between 2 and 8 pm she feeds and always has an activity after, whether it's reading, jungle gym time, dancing with mommy, taking a walk in the yard, etc. Between 8 and 8:30 it's jammy time where we clean her face and hands, change diapers, and clothes. We have our last feed to lullabies and then she usually goes down for the night between 9 and 9:30 pm. I've been in education for 13 yrs now and have found that without a routine, you never know when you're coming or going!

Amy - posted on 06/28/2009

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Great job!! We have a routine at our house too. I have 2 sons and we do baths every night during the summer and every other in the winter. Bedtime is firmly 830pm they sleep til about 8ish. Breakfast at about 830, freetime, lunch about noon, play at the park or do art projects, Supper is about 530 then if its bath night, bath about 730 and off to bed at 830. This is working very well for my sons because I am involved with them and they do not push me much because its all they have known for most of their lives. It is hard when they stay at grandmas or something tho...she spoils them rotten!! Keep up the great work...your a great mom!!

Angelique - posted on 06/28/2009

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I live by a routine. My husband fights me on it, but it totally works for me. My daughter looks forward to her daily routine!!! If u try to do something different or leave anything out she gets upset. She'll be 2 on the 16th

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Sure, having a routine is important. It gives the children a feeling of comfort. However, be flexible. That way, if something comes up, your little one won't fly off the handle just because things are different.

Pennie - posted on 06/28/2009

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I am a mother of three and a grandmother of two and I think it is good to have a schedule for children. As they get older you can adjust it as needed. But if you think about it they need scheduling because as they get into schooland other parts of their life they will have all finds of schedules.

Jackie - posted on 06/28/2009

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Hello, I am a mother of three and from my first child I've always had a routine. It's important for the kids and moms bc you can manage your life better! BUT most importantly is that when your child starts daycare she will adapt much more easier to the school routine bc you have already introduced her to the same thing. Also important to add in reading time, play time, snack time in the routine just like a school.

Hannah - posted on 06/28/2009

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im a young mum too and my 2 and half year old takes to her routine great. we dont really have set times but it is between 6 and 7.30 but every night it is bath, milk, story, cuddles then bed. if i try to miss 1 out then she will tel me! Kids need routines from very early age so they know what comes next and to keep boundries!

Jennifer - posted on 06/27/2009

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When kids are very young, it's especially good to have a routine because it helps to build their sense of security. They are learning about the world around them and helps to build not only the security that they feel with family, friends, and caregivers, but it also builds bonds of trust. Also, a routine helps set boundaries and cements an early foundation of good, healthy discipline! Keep up the good work mom!

Mary - posted on 06/26/2009

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Routine?????? What is that??? Just kidding, Routine is good as long as you can make it work. Things like meal times extra are important to try and keep consistant, but always leave room for some unplanned things to. Life happens, don't let it pass you by because of routine.

Caroline - posted on 06/26/2009

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it is good to have a routine i wish i could get in to 1 myself with my children but haven 5 its a bit hard so any help would be grate any way the only routine i have is bedtime at 8 so if uve got ur little girl into 1 good on u

Bridget - posted on 06/26/2009

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Absolutly!!!! Children thrive with routine...not to mention you can actually get things done...They know what to expect!!! It really helps when they begin with school and have to wake at a particular time, do homework and even study. My children both are up by 7 am lunch at 12pm then nap/quiet time , with dinner a 5pm then bath at 715-730 then bed at 8pm. It works like clock work without any arguements on staying up late! Every once in a while throw in something different just for fun. They will appreciate that too.

Rachael - posted on 06/26/2009

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My little girl is about 7 1/2 months old now, and she sticks to her routine more than we do sometimes. It makes bedtime, naptime, and feeding a lot easier if you anticipate it.

Kim - posted on 06/26/2009

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I great to have a routine....I had 4 children under the age of 5 when I was 22 and therefore had to have a routine or would have lost my mind. It makes it so much easier when they start going to school to already be used to the structure of a routine!!

Wendy - posted on 06/26/2009

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Children don't know what to expect when there is no routine. If you watch all of the Nanny shows on TV, routine is key. With routine, there is no room for argument later when your child gets older on what is expected of them. Routines are definitely key with children! Good for you for starting early!

Debbie - posted on 06/26/2009

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Yeah I think rountine is gr8. I have had a rountine for my wee one, who is 4 now, since he was a baby. It changes as they get older. He now has his tea at 4.30 has his last drink at 5pm then goes to bed at 7.30, evan at the wkend's! During the summers hols he'll prob go to bed at 8.30. She looks so cute. All the best for the future x

Andrea - posted on 06/26/2009

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i think it is very good to have a routine, it gives the child sercurity, when they get older they will need that

Christina - posted on 06/25/2009

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A routine is essential for your child to feel safe and secure, it also lets them know what to expect, instead of living in pure chaos. But I think it's also important to listen to your child on when they are hungry and tired, they're usually pretty good on setting a routine for themselves. It also helps to keep your sanity if there is a routine. Just leave room for a little flexiblity.

Kathy - posted on 06/25/2009

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I am a teacher.. and all I can say is the more routine there is in a day for a child, the better! When children are used to routines, it helps them to understand what comes next (I'm taking my bath... this means it's almost bedtime) and so on. Plus, this is also really good for the transition to school later in life. Keep it up!

Katie - posted on 06/25/2009

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Yes I started my daughter on a routine from day 1 and its changed some now since she is almost 2. It helped her sleep through the night earlier as well. :)

Rebekka - posted on 06/25/2009

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Yes, routine is good for the whole family! ( I routinely change our routine to fit our circumstances too...ha ha) sometimes it is good to relax and get out of the routine for a night or a day, but smaller children need the sense of security that routine brings. My older two often read till late or change the order of things during the day (because I home school our 4 children), but things like meals, feeding the pets and time to pick up the house remain largely the same, give or take half an hour. Bath time is a wonderful ritual in our house and can take up a whole evening at times. I like to make it a fun thing, and my children have never had a issue with bath time. It also settles them for bed (although in winter I try to have them bathed or showered by 5 the latest) Although we have a loose routine and don't let it become a stressful thing, It has always been the one thing that helps me keep it together when things go wrong (family issues, illness or things like death or housebreaking) I am also very fortunate to have my mom live with us, and when I cannot keep to schedule, she would cook for me or get the laundry done, or whatever.

You are lucky your babe sleeps such long hours - we are a family of night owls, and none of my children have ever slept more than a 10 hour stretch at once - and even that is unusual for them!



If you are a working mom (been there too) then routine is the most important thing for you. It will be the one thing that makes ALL the difference, and it is very uplifting for you and your child to have a routine quality moment EVERY day - even if it a small thing, so long as it is something that belongs to just the two of you...



best of luck.

Rachel - posted on 06/25/2009

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Children are much nicer if they have routine. They know what is happening and when so are less grumpy, and mum will find it easier to plan time to drink a hot coffee with out "mum can I ...."

Louise - posted on 06/25/2009

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100 % its all about a routine u need it unless you want ur kidsa to go off the rails

Keeley - posted on 06/25/2009

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yes... you should have a routine at an early start in your childs life as that way they will grow up in a routine and it will be good for them as they will lead a good life, im a young mum and have a routine fo rmy little girl chloe paige... i think its better in life to have routines and u are doing fantastic to have one...

Julie - posted on 06/25/2009

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yes i had a routine with both mine and still do my eldest is 7 and he loves being in a routine if that routine changes in anyway he hates it and puts him off for the whole day i think its good to have a routine at least u and the child knw what is cming nxt

Stacy - posted on 06/24/2009

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Quoting Paige:

Routine is the way to go for you and your kids! A life without routine can be havoc on everyone and leave you children feeling insecure or rambunctious. Once in a while, like in the summer, a day trip might throw routine off but that's perfectly healthy! I'm raising my husband's son because his mother is unreliable and was more interested in her friends, drugs and men to be concerned with her little boy. He lacks general social skills that a parent (a good parent) generally instills in their kids early on. When he was 4 when I first met him, he communicated by hitting and screaming and acted out because his mother often responded solely to the negative attention. Now after having him living with us and giving him routine, he is thriving. Still has trouble listening and following rules outside of the home but we are doing everything possible to make sure he learns the basic skills he first missed out on. Without routine, children won't thrive. They won't stand a chance fitting into society and the general routine of the workplace. My step son needs to keep a schedule of day to day activities, chores, even class schedule just so he can be prepared. When he lived with his mom, he was left in front of the TV while she was in the other room (openly attached) smoking, drinking and getting high with her friends. She never corrected his "bad" behavior and when he hit or hurt someone, he showed no remorse. He was even killing animals for attention. She would even sleep in until noon while he was up at 7 or 8 am all by himself. His dad (my husband) came to pick him up one day and found him playing outside in the snow in his thing pajamas. When he asked where "mommy" was, he replied "sleeping". Her excuse was she was tired from the night before, not to mention had a guy in the house around her child who she didn't know and was high as a kite. Sorry for ranting on, but my point is, without routines and schedules and general structure, children don't stand a proper chance to succeed in life. Likeliness is they will become addicted to drugs, not work, be involved in law breaking activities and God forbid, have children and continue the horrible cycle. Being a parent is NOT an easy job! Matter of fact, it is the most crucial, stressful and rewarding job on the planet. Some people assume that being a parent means having a child...WRONG! Being a parent means having rules and structure and boundaries and rewards, lots and lots of missed sleep, making sure your child will be successful when you aren't around and let them off into the world alone! I am pregnant with my first child. I am 22 and can't wait to give my baby the best fresh start to life. Even though my step son was not as lucky to have such a great start, we are giving him the best of everything (counseling, good school, structure, balance) so he will succeed and be an amazing big brother.



Whoa, slow down there Paige.. IF a child doe not have a routine it DOES NOT mean they will be addicted to drugs or 'bad' adults later on.. don't scare Gemma by saying things like this. Yes routines are great, but they are not the have all and be all.. some children never conform to a routine no matter how hard a parent tries - does this mean from birth they are destined to be failures?? Absolutely not!  I am sorry that the situation with your step-son was so bad (to begin with) but it seems as if you and your husband are helping him greatly.

Stacy - posted on 06/24/2009

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Yes! I can't say enough good things about having your child on a routine. I let my son's routine lapse and was sorry I did since it's harder to get them used to it again after having 'freedom'. My brother has his 2 kids on a strict routine and let me tell you, when it was time for bed (9pm on a Sat. they are almost 7 & 5) they gave me no arguments, went straight up, brushed their teeth, got changed and jumped into their beds. Not only is a routine easier on YOU, it is easier on whoever may watch them also. Routines will change as they get older, but it is the same as structure and discipline. Children need it and are better for it - this I totally believe.

Amber - posted on 06/24/2009

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I totally agree in having a routine. My daughter just turned one today and our routine is wake up have breakfast. Then we do our daily activities, then around noon we have lunch. About 2ish we go down for a nap, then about 5 or 5:30 we have dinner. We play some with our toys, clean up. Then we have a glass of milk and get a fresh fanny and go to bed. On days we have a bath(every other morning) we do that after breakfast. Glad to know other moms do the same thing. Thanks for the encouragement!!

Amanda - posted on 06/24/2009

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I totally agree, i don't know how things would go at my house without having some sort of schedule. Children like consistency, and it helps them grasp what time of day it is, whether it be bath time or bedtime etc. Sounds like you're doing a good job to me!

Carla - posted on 06/24/2009

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yes is very good to have a routine, my son 8 months old has one since he born, and sleep well all night long xxxx keep it your routine

Robyn - posted on 06/24/2009

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I agree! My kids are older now, 14, 11, and 7, but I always used routines with them. It gives kids a sense of security and a rythm to their lives. We still use the bedtime and morning routines, especially the 7 year old. He goes to bed at 9, 11 yr old dtr goes at 9:30, and well, the 14 year old and I negotiate alot LOL! Good luck stay strong and have faith always! God Bless

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I never believed in a routine before my son was born but i soon firgured out that it was the only way i was going to keep my sanity and get some sleep! He thrives on routine even know (20 months) and its wonderful to be able to know how long he will sleep and not have any problems getting him down which was my struggle for the first 8 weeks after birth. I have had many people say that a baby should fit into your life and not the other way around and i think to myself clearly you have'nt had a baby that can scream for hours because they are over tired or its past feed time and you were at the shops and wanted to wait till u got home. Every baby is different ofcourse but for me its what saved me from going insane.

Mariana - posted on 06/24/2009

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hi yes i believe in routine.my mum taught me this and she had 12 children.i am 26 years old and have three children.i still do the routine thing.its alot easier for mum and child.you are doing a great job.

User - posted on 06/24/2009

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absolutely. me and my son have a routine too. he just turned one, and he definately knows when its time to each a meal, nap time, bed time and all of that. its weird that he like knows when its time for naps.but it definately helps because that way anything else you have to do should be planned around it because they come first. she's adorablee ! :)

Becky - posted on 06/24/2009

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We have a routine but not a specific time routine. My 16 month old wake up sometime between 7am and 8am.. we play and hang out till About an hour after he wakes up he has breakfast. Then we do what ever we are going to do for the day... about 5 hours after he wakes up he has lunch and after lunch is nap time. we lay him down and he goes right out. Then he sleeps anywhere from 1.5 - 3 hours depending on his day :) After nap we have a snack then do what ever we are going to do for the evening around 6-6:30 we have dinner after dinner is bath time.. then cuddled reading and then off to bed sometime between 7:30 and 8 and again we lay him down and he goes right out. Oviousley he has his nights or days.. but all in all this is how it goes We make exceptions for things like parties or cool play dates... I think he likes it cause he knows what to expect :) I like it cause he is happy and i think it helps him be happy

Shannon - posted on 06/24/2009

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any routine that works for you and your child is great!. I used to call it the 3 B's when my children were babies. We would start every night at 8pm. First they would get the BATH. A nice comfortable soothing bath to make them all clean and not sticky. Then came the BREAST (or Bottle). They would be fed and tummies full. Then came BED. They started to learn that after the Bath & Breast (food) it was time for sleep. I would put on a soft lullaby tape (CD's now) and put them down awake. They learned how to fall asleep on their own with out having to go in the bed already asleep. It worked for all 4 of my children. Without a routine, i would have gone crazy.

Shireen - posted on 06/24/2009

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Hi, kids thrive on routine. My daughter is only 10 months old and she had a rountine since the day that she was born. It makes planning my day easier as well!!!

Angela - posted on 06/24/2009

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Definitely, kids do much better with a set routine. Expecially as babies and toddlers, as they get older it can vary a little but if they are use to it they will let you know. My two kids have been on a schedule since day one and they are great kids. I was 25 when I had my first but I don't think it really matter about age if you've never had kids we are all green the first time aroud.

Sarah - posted on 06/24/2009

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Routine is good, in my opinion. It kind of gives the child stability. I do still mix some things up, like certain things we do during the day, or sometimes I'll put them down for naps at a later time if they don't seem too tired, (my 2 year old fights it anyways no matter what time i put him down, he'll sit in there and talk and sing lol). But I definetely stay on some sort of schedule at night. There's dinner time, outside playtime (im in FL so evenings arent as hot as afternoons), then bath time, clean their room, watch cartoons together, and then read (or look through) books before we put them in bed. Once they get a little bit older, we plan to choose one night a week to go out to eat, or even just for ice cream. That way, we form our own little family tradition.

Laura - posted on 06/24/2009

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absolutly it is best to have a routine! Kids thrive on routine, and it is great you have one started now. Little ones have so many things they are still learning and it can be overloading for them if there is too much in their life that they can't expect. It is like a relief for them to have bounderies and rules. Not that they won't try to push the limits as they try to become independent. Good job.

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I had a routine with both of my babies. My 2.5 year old has the best routine his Daddy and I can give him, but it's not the best. My 9.5 month old daughter is easier to keep on a schedule and keep to a routine. Both of our children have a certain time frame when they eat and bathe, but napping is something I find that only our daughter partakes in.



I think routines and schedules are key, but aside from eating, bathing and napping or going to bed, most of the rest of the day is up in the air. My Husband and I love to keep busy and keep the kids busy, so we go down to the beach a lot, to the parks around here, walk around the malls and let them play in the little kiddie playgrounds around the Food Courts at the different malls.



Do your best at keeping your baby on a schedule, but don't get too down on yourself if you don't always stick to it. :)

Gemma - posted on 06/24/2009

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Quoting Leslie:

Especially at the age of 19 months, my son is 17 months, kids need routine. They depend on routine. The love to know what is going on and what is to bet, expected. We have a routine as well. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks in between are evenly spaced and he goes to bed at 8 or 8:30 every night. Also, you may be reading to her, I'm not sure, but reading to her at bedtime and even during the day is a great routine to get into. It will really help with language development.


  hi leslie yes we do read to her she has loads of books and loves it and i do to coz it means i get cuddles at the same time how old was you ??

Gemma - posted on 06/24/2009

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thanks every1 i never used to belive in routine but it was my little girl that started it she was the 1 who put us in the routine by doing every thing in set time and that and its worked really well so we have stuck to it and made life so much easyer for us coz it means me and my partner still have time to spend with each other in the evening lol

Tiffany - posted on 06/24/2009

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yes its def good to have a routine! it makes life so much easier especially for young children. like leslie nolan said they like to know whats going on.

User - posted on 06/24/2009

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Especially at the age of 19 months, my son is 17 months, kids need routine. They depend on routine. The love to know what is going on and what is to bet, expected. We have a routine as well. Breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks in between are evenly spaced and he goes to bed at 8 or 8:30 every night. Also, you may be reading to her, I'm not sure, but reading to her at bedtime and even during the day is a great routine to get into. It will really help with language development.

Jennifer - posted on 06/24/2009

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YES!!! You have to have a routine....no matter the age of child it is a good thing to start early! I would be lost without one lol!

Tanya - posted on 06/24/2009

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If she does good with a routine then its great! I never liked rountines but thats just me. A lot of kids do very well with one. Just remember if the routine gets pushed a side for some reason once in a while its Ok and dont stress on it. The older they get the more relaxed ur routine will probably get but with a little one routine can be very helpful.

Hayley - posted on 06/24/2009

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I absolutley agree, my daughter has pretty much the same routine as you do, she has a bottle when she wakes followed by breakfast about 8, she has a sleep in the morning around 10.30 then lunch at 12 ish, dinner is about 4 -4.30 then a bath and bed by 6.30. She has been in this rountine since she was only a few months old. It makes life so much easier.

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Quoting Gemma:

does any i else belive in routine ?

hi i was just woundering if any 1 else belived in a routine my little girl is 19months and goed to bed at half 6 and sleeps till about 8 ish and then has a bottle of milk then we both have breakfast then do whatever we doing that day then lunch at about 12ish then dinner at about half4 then bath if its bath night and would like to no if any1 else has 1 coz even tho im a young mum i still think its good to have a routine ??


 

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