Does any one else do foster care or have adopted a child thru foster care?
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Dea - posted on 11/23/2008
This is so awesome. There are so many people that have such big hearts. I agree that it is not about us but about the kids. We have really enjoyed working with the parents and trying to help them out as much as possible and then staying in touch with them after the kids go home. We have also been lucky enough to help choose the adoptive parents of the kids that end up going that route and have stayed in touch with most of our kids. We have had around 35-40 children staying with us anywhere from 6 months to 3 1/2 years and have had around 40 different children for respite for 1 -10 days. We take the children from 0-18 and try to take large sibling groups so they can stay together. We also do a day respite for kids that they do not have a placement so they do not have to sit in a child lounge at the office all day but can spend the day in a home setting. I have really enjoyed getting to know these kids also. Mostly teenagers with a lot of behaviours. One of my sisters also does foster care and one of my other sisters did do foster care until she filled her house up. She had 5 kids, adopted one of her foster kids, adopted 2 of my foster kids and then had another baby, so she now has 8. I do know that one of my friends has done fostering with the hope to adopt all of her foster kids and she has had her heart broken many times and did just have to quit doing it. But she did get to adopt 4. So I know it can work both ways. We went into this not really wanting to adopt but have adopted one. She will be 8 this month. We got her as a baby and just couldn't say no. We also don't want to be too old for the kids when they go to high school and beyond so probably will not adopt anymore. But I have learned to never say never!
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Shannon - posted on 02/07/2012
My husband and I have been waiting on an adoption match for 2 1/2 years when the "normal" time is 9-18 months. Our agency is now trying to make a contract with CPS. My husband and I are not opposed to foster to adopt but the problem is finding the training classes on weekends. We have a 12 year old and I don't want to leave her alone at night. We live in Houston, Texas. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Donna - posted on 11/24/2008
I've had three foster kids. One I thought I was going to get to adopt after having him for almost two and a half years but on the last day to terminate the birth mother's parental rights, we got a new judge who gave mom another chance... he ended up with his grandmother. Was really hard but I got to see him a couple of years later and he was doing well... so I'm happy to have given him a healthy happy home to get him where he needed to be at the time.
Heather - posted on 11/23/2008
Hi Dea...yes yes yes!! I have fostered over 33 foster kiddos and have seven adopted children through the child welfare system. I also house foster kids in group homes all across the US. What a life changing experience it is! Many people say they could never foster a child because they could never give them up. But once they realize that it is NOT about them, but about the child....and someone has to do it...might as well be someone who is doing it for the right reasons. It is so much better for that child to be in your home where they are loved, adored, and being properly taken care of then in a state operated shelter. So anyone interested in changing some lives by taking a child into your home...through the foster/Bridge program let me know and I will gently guide you. Blessings!
Patti - posted on 11/22/2008
My husband and I adopted a child through the foster to adopt program. Be aware, it can be very lovely but is incredibly heartbreaking, as well. Hardest thing I have ever done was letting one of the two babies we fostered go live with someone else. It changes you so be careful. P
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