Does any one have advice on coping with a child with adhd my son has it and every thing is a battle .He is on medication which helps at school but not at home

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Brenda - posted on 01/25/2009

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How old is your son? My son was diagnosed with everything from Adhd, Add, Dif. Op. Disorder, etc. My baby is now 17 and was finally diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. He finally is on the right combo of meds. Just be sure your son has the correct diagnoses.

User - posted on 01/22/2009

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I am a teacher and I was just talking to another teacher about a student with ADHD. We both agree that many things have to be tried before the meds. A change in diet is crucial. Limit processed food. You don't want food with High fructose corn syrup. Red dye number 40 is evil. I know my daughter who in ADHD turns into a little devil when she consumes food with red dye 40. I would research the diet as there are many things that affect behavior. If that doesn't work then I would consider a medication switch. Good luck.

Nikki - posted on 01/21/2009

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I have an 8 year old son that is on mediction for adhd. This is going to sound strange however caffeine has a great effect on kids with adhd. it will calm them down. Also, how old is your son? I have other ideas but it depends on the age. Legos and bionicles and building blocks are great for my son to concentrate on. Finding things that can occupy him for periods of time with stimulation that makes him concentrate and stay busy are great.

Patty - posted on 01/21/2009

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Hi Lynette, my son was diagnosed with ADHD in October. The psychiatrist recommended two books to help us and with discipline. 123 Magic and Love and Logic. The 123 Magic books has been God sent. It took longer to work than the book said it would, but it is perfect for ADHD children. The biggest key and the hardest for both my husband and I were to shut up. Stop trying to explain everything, with ADHD children explaining does not work. The other thing I did for me personally was get back into the gym and workout. Instead of drinking and doing drugs, I have been eating myself to death trying to deal with this child. Working out has also help me deal with the stress better.  I hope this helps! -Patty



 



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3 years ago my son then 8 had a reaction after taking Adderall and Zoloft for two weeks.  Caused him to become self mutilating and he cut himself with a piece of glass 48 times. He has never been violent toward others or hisself in his life.   They took him off the meds and started him back on Concerta.  He was also diagnosed with child hood migraines at 10 yrs old.  4 meds at 10 yrs old - At 11yrs old I decided to take him off everything and he is now on natural supplements and sees a chiropractor once a month.  Has not had a migraine in since. I choose to give him these on my own and he is doing great. Product states 18 and over but they are natural supplements and I give him ½ of the recommended dose.  I am not a Dr and do not recommend trying this unless you have consulted your Dr.  All I know is that my son is no longer taking meds and is doing GREAT in school and home - that's per his teacher.

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Patricia E - posted on 05/07/2014

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My son has ADHD he is 5years old he was kicked out school for not listening and putting hands on other kids he mean to his sister help

Tim - posted on 11/18/2012

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If you have not already, try the XR version of the drug. Once you find out how long it last, usually about 12 hours, use this about 10 hours before bed time. Can not promise anything, but works for me. :)

Becki - posted on 02/02/2009

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hi my son also as adhd and i no what u mean when u say its an on going battle i find letting him play learing games on the pc really helps once my son is on it i cant get him off and i dnt hear a word out of him unless he needs help if not wot about kids computer,s watch what your child eats and drinks keeping there mind thinking, learing , and rewards help 2

Tammy - posted on 02/02/2009

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Hello!

I have been dealing with ADHD for 11 years now. And it's a hard, stressful battle to go threw. I have done almost everything for my son. After school programs, Special education programs at school, Structured environment. Seen many, many doctors.

Seen many theropists. There is alot of repeatition that goes on in everyday life to get things done. I really do not know what advice to give you. For i struggle just like you do. It don't get any easier. Just be strong & consistant. Also takes lots and lots of patience. I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

April - posted on 02/02/2009

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what worked for me is get rid of red food coloring! No more hawain punch!.Also,my doctor said what I buy has sugar in the first five ingredient's,don't buy.Watch processed foods also,they basicly put my daughter on a "migrain diet".I have no problem's,not sure for anyone else.good luck!

Brenda - posted on 01/25/2009

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This post is for Erica, regarding her son w/adhd and asperger's sy. Could you tell me what you soon signs for aspergers were? My son is now 17, hows had everything that could be dig. except aspergers. He currently is dx. with bipolar disorder, but it only helps with part of the problems.

Josie - posted on 01/25/2009

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Patience and consistency!!!! My son is 13 and he's the same way. At home he is so mouthy and disrespectful. At school and in public he's a wonderful kid. The most important thing for me was to put him on meds, but when he was failing 5th grade I new I have to do something. Now he's an outstanding student with wonderful grades.

Tanya - posted on 01/25/2009

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I was going to say the same thing. My almost 8 year old started on Ritalin LA 20mg a year ago and we have since added another 5mg at noon. Keeps him on an even keel all day.

User - posted on 01/25/2009

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i had adhd as a child and still do i am 23 and still struggle i think don't make him feel like he is different but understand that he will always feel different and that he will struggle with things and not understand them give give that extra bit of understanding and do structured activities but not to much cordials fizzy drinks choc all do it to me i don't feel in control and i feel hot and flustered when i have these things its hard but as long as u always take a step back and remember he has it and he needs u to take that extra mile and to understand that he doesn't understand as well as u

Jennifer - posted on 01/25/2009

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There are some diet control things you can try along with adding supplements such as omega 3. Getting him involved in an activity that he enjoys can also help with the agitation and focus issues after all, Michael Phelps has ADHD and look at what he has accomplished! There are some great books out there and websites.

Kathe - posted on 01/25/2009

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My 10 year old son has severe ADHD, and I know what you mean about a battle.  I the meds aren't helping at home because they're wearing off, ask his doctor about a kicker dose in the afternoon.  My son takes an extended release drug in the morning, but it doesn't last the 12 hours it's supposed to, so the doctor wrote a script for a non-extended release version of the neds, and he takes it at 4:00 to get us through homework, dinner, etc.  It's out of his system by 8, so he still gets to bed with no problems. 



If you're choosing not to medicate him at home, we have tried to make life easier by always giving him a heads up when change is coming (in ten minutes, you'll need to come down for dinner, etc.).  We also made picture charts of everything he has to do in the morning before school, and everything he has to do at night before bed.  We laminated them and hung them on his bedroom door and our kitchen door.  This way, he followed the chart (on a good day) and I didn't have to constantly nag him.



Every kid is different.  I hope you find what works for you soon. 

Samantha - posted on 01/25/2009

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My 15yr old has ADHD and also my 4yr old, i found that it was best not to get angry or punish them as it makes them worse. I know its not much help but plenty of patience goes a long way, just try and keep a pleasant nature with them and continue till they do as you ask and they should eventually come round to your way of thinking. Very hard i know. Good luck.

Alison - posted on 01/25/2009

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you need lots of patience and a structured routine! I no its that dreaded word but it does work. You always need to have tight boundaries and a good code of whats right and wrong and be lethal!!! I also do alot of activities sometimes in and out the house that way you can focuse it around there interests, eg my son likes reading the news paper so we sit down for a while discussing and reading issues!

Leesa - posted on 01/25/2009

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My son has the same....We do homework right when he comes home from school...since he still has about an hour left in him..(seems hardly fair the teacher gets him at his best,huh? lol)......We tried Stratera in the evening but the Insomnia was bad...He was waking up in the middle of the night watching TV and eating. We had to stop that one... The BEST meds we used were the Daytrana patch...it works 4 hours after you take it off, which was a god sent!! But we had to stop that one to b/c he developed an eye tick.
Google has great articles about certain foods to avoid, from suckers to dyes to look for in food...even colored gold fish crackers!

Rhonda - posted on 01/25/2009

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The minute my son came home from school I had a cup of strong tea with cream or a Mountain Dew for him to drink with his snack.  The caffiene got us through the evening just fine.  Occasionally I would have to repeat this mid evening.  He was able to concentrate on his homework and was his impulsive behavior would calm down!  Good luck!

Rhonda - posted on 01/25/2009

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The minute my son came home from school I had a cup of strong tea with cream or a Mountain Dew for him to drink with his snack.  The caffiene got us through the evening just fine.  Occasionally I would have to repeat this mid evening.  He was able to concentrate on his homework and was his impulsive behavior would calm down!  Good luck!

Jen - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi, believe me I've been through a rollercoaster ride with my 10 yr old. Tried several different meds. and some just weren't good for him every kid reacts to these types of med. differently but they do have extended release med that last all day you would have to ask your Dr. about these. They even have a patch I don't know how good it is but I'm sure your peditrician can inform you best. I know what your going through and we try to keep my son off the meds on the weekend and summer time but it is very difficult sometimes.It is like night and day,When he is off his meds he acts like half his age. My husband and I are pulling our hair out  when he doesn't take his meds.sometimes.

Sylvia - posted on 01/25/2009

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i know exactly what you are going through as my son is the same all you can do is be very stronge willed make sure they know you mean what you say, my son is 9 and sometimes i wanna pull my hair out but i walk away so as not to lose it with him, its hard but you will get through it

Sharon - posted on 01/25/2009

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Both my son's have A D H D what med,s is he on as there are a few . my youngest is on CONCERTA and he's been gr8 on it. If you see a specalist you can ask to put him on it as its a slow control drug so it will be in his system for 12 hours and stops the ups and downs of RITALIN . the only thing i can say is it wil get better as my sons 16 now and he go's to greenacre collage at barnsley and its been gr8 for him contact me if you need any help eyesonly37@hotmail.com xx

Laura - posted on 01/24/2009

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It is all about the diet! No fake junk food! No fatty fried foods, no more soda pops, feed him healthy foods, vitamins every day and lots of exercise in the outdoor air would be a good start! I know it may sound crazy but we do it with our girls and they are not on any meds at all whatso ever...it just takes patience. That crippling problem could be his strength one day!

Karen - posted on 01/24/2009

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my stepson has been on everything you could think of ..finally the doctor put him on the patch....there has been a big change in him..behavior, etc,,,it has truly helped ..ask your doctor about the patch if you haven't already tried it...i hope you find something that helps...best of luck..

Nicole - posted on 01/24/2009

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Both my sons,husband and myself have ADD and two of us have the hyperactivity componet.What has worked for us most of the time is structure and consequences no matter what!Both boys are very active and my older one plays two instruments so I try to make them do their homework on the weekend so during the week they just have to come home and do their small chores eat and shower and lay down with a good book until its lights out and when they fight or throw tantrums I separate them and won't talk to them until they have calmed down.Diet and meds are important but for us consistancy has been a huge factor in our after school home life. The book Driven to Distraction has also given me tremendous insight.Good Luck with all the replys hope you find something that works!!!!!!!

Andrea - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter is on Focalin 15 mg xr rapid release. She does really well with this at school but at home it is a constant battle. We have had to up her meds and it makes her mean. I am glad someone talked about Concerta that is what they recommended recently but I was not sure about that drug. She is BiPolar as well, at 11 that is not easy to deal with. She is very strong willed and headstrong. I feel your pain as well. Does anyone else have a BiPolar child that could offer some advice to help me?

Cynthia - posted on 01/24/2009

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THERE IS A NEW MED OUT THERE FRO ADHD AN IT IS CALLED VYVANSE AN IT WORK VERY WELL..MY SON WAS ON CONCERTA AN IT IS NOT A GOOD MED.AT LEAST IT DONT WORK FOR MY SON..YOU SHOULD TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR AN SEE IF HE WILL GIVE IT TO YOU..I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO HAVE A KID WITH ADHD AN IVE BEEN LIVING IT SINCE MY SON WAS 6..

Kathy - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter is 7 and has ADHD. She takes a minimal dose of Ritalin when she gets home from school to help get through homework and the evening. That has been helpful for us. Good luck.

Lyla - posted on 01/24/2009

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my son started on 10ml now is on 40ml that from the 3rd decem nw the dr said he butting him on sumthing for evening as the med he on now only last while at school i would go and see your doctor i,ve tried everything with my son but he is 14yrs old and there say it get hard befor it get any easer i have had trouble with his mood swing since he was little and i got told he,d grow out of it but he never now i know why

Katie - posted on 01/24/2009

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Quoting Lynette:

Does any one have advice on coping with a child with adhd my son has it and every thing is a battle .He is on medication which helps at school but not at home




Hi Lynnette,  I am a special ed teacher and also have family members with ADHD. It depends on how his ADHD affects him. If he is distracted by everything, then making sure the house is not too stimulating for him is important. Another thing to remember is that at home a kid feels comfortable and needs a place where they can fall apart a little. It is pretty hard to follow school rules all day so when he comes home he needs time to unwind and let it out. Having a schedule can be a good thing too and putting it on the fridge or someplace he can see it would be nice. Give him some down time in a quiet room or put a timer on and let him play video games, watch a movie, or whatever is interesting to him. Also some medications only act for a certain amount of time, I believe there are slow release medications which tend to last all day. Maybe talk to your doctor and join a support group to see what other moms are doing that works. Just don't give up, he needs you to be understanding and there for him.

Anneke - posted on 01/24/2009

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What is ADHD sorry for asking. I an afrikaans mabe I know the woord in aftikaans

Alison - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi! My name is Ali, I have a son who is 12 yrs of age that has ADHD/ODD he is also on Ritilin at least 30 mg through out the intire day so that it helps him consentrate on task at hand, he also needs alot of structure at home as well as at school and surrounding areas on the outside anything that is different puts my son into a possition where he is uncomfortable so he has to be told ahead of time what is going to happen so that he feels that he can prepare for things that come to him at that time, I am not sure if this helps you but if you need to know more let me know ok.....I will be glad to help you as much as I can.

Pam - posted on 01/24/2009

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some natural things that we have tried and had some success was- using all natural product in our home such as bath soap and lotions- i found Arbonne International- that helped a bit. I also take my son to cranio sacrum sessions- it's easy and alines the spinal fluid in his body- i wasn't sure about it but one session he was practically jumping off the table and by the end he was asleep in her hands (a 30 min session) also fish oil or omega three supplements seem to help. Arbonne has a natural one with flaxseed oil and omega threes- that what we found to work the best. Chiropractic is another idea. Good Luck! If you'd like more information on any of this feel free to contact me at pamcarolus@butler-bremer.com

User - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi! My son was diagnosed with ADHD several years ago. For a while we did the medication thing and while I guess it worked it killed his appetite. Once I took him off the meds and had really looked at what his needs were I had a much better time. Have you thought about Behavoir Modification? I would also reccommend that you get him involved in something he really enjoys whether it be hockey or karate or whatever. Praise him for "good behavoir" and advocate for his needs in school, do not let the school dictate to you how to care for your son. Look at his IEP and realize that you can have anything written into it that you feel will help him. From a dietary perspective I would eliminate all artificial colors, sweeteners and chemical additives, give him a good multi vitamin and supplement with Omega 3 DHA and a complete B vitamin, Pycnogenol has also been shown to help according to some recent research. Be patient with him, hug him and tell him you are proud of him. Gold star sticker charts at home are also helpful so that he can earn a special reward, and limit video game time..my son is 16 now , looking forward to college - he is even in his second year of Chinese as his foreign language of choice.....

Lyla - posted on 01/24/2009

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hi my son got adha i only found out in december is med helps though school nw but not at home and ther going to but him on more 4 at home my son is 14yrs old and i knw what you mean about it been a battle i found it hard getting him up 4 school

Anne - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have 3 special needs children.  Twins that are 18 and a 16 year old.  One of my twins, my son was diagnosed ADHD when he was 3 years old. He and his sister (his twin) were tested by the school system when we lived in New York, did IEP's and were placed in a school paid for by the school board.



I did the diet, the whole thing that you see everyone talking about today. 
When we were going through this in the early to mid 1990's I was criticized for that. My son still practically climbed the walls, was non stop from 5-6 am in the morning until 12 at night. He could not be reasoned with, did not respond to boundaries, nothing.



Unfortunately,  we didn't get the full diagnoses from that testing.  It wasnt until my twins were 9 and we were living here in Florida, and they both were in a residential facility for 3 months that they had neuropsychologcial exams, etc.. and they were diagnosed:  Autism Spectrum- PDD-NOS, Bipolar/schizoaffective disorder, My son ADHD, my daughter- phonologic disorder-(speech).



I was also an RN for almost 10 years before I became too ill to work 13 years ago.  As an RN, I would suggest requesting that you want a full Neuro-psychological exam this way you can find out exactly what is going on and be directed to the proper care and resources. 



These are all really medical issues, chemical imbalances in the brain, actually genetically hereditary, and some are actually degenerative brain diseases as shown today on MRI scans.  6 different types of ADD/ADHD have been identified on Spect Scans.



There is a computer program called "Play Attention"  www.playattention.com that has been so successful for both children and adults, some have no longer needed meds after a year. The program actually turns off when the child or adult gets distracted and does not pay attention to the game.



The good news is, My twins both graduated last year, on time, with their graduating class.  My son is attending the culinary program at his school since both of my twins have IEP services until they are 22. So there is a light at the end of the tunnel.



Hugs and God Bless,



Anne :)



 

Tammy - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have found that medication combination is KEY!!! My son is on a time release in the morning which helps through school, but I was paying the price in the afternoon as well. The doctor put him on a 5mg Ritalin pill that he is given upon pick-up from school and this has been just enough to get us through the afternoon and early evening hours. I have noticed it starts to wear down around 7pm, but it is much easier to deal with knowing bedtime is approaching. My son is 4.

Louise - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi ya my son is nearly 6 and has ADHD hes a rite handfull n everything with him is a battle, theyve sed hes at the top of the scale which means hes got the worst form of ADHD they sed i would have to wait till hes 7 to medicate him,but because of how bad he is ther on about doing it when he turns 6. Ive tried everything else and nothing works u just have to battle on,i no how u feel though its a massive strain on everything.



Ive applied for support from a place called umbrella and im on the waiting list at the moment they can provide u with 39hours a week of help wer they will take ur child out for u and give u a much needed break,try that if u havnt already.



They also hav meetings wer u can meet up with parents to discuss things.

Ruth - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi There,



I have some very good advise for you about your son, I have recently found a company called Reliv and they are getting amazing results with there products with children with ADHD.

If you would like some more information or to talk with other mothers with children with ADHD to hear there stories and amazing results then please get back in touch.



Regards

Ruth Carter

Wendy - posted on 01/24/2009

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Take a look at this drink. monavie.com It is just a fruit drink, but it is made from many different fruits that are from around the world and most of them are taken from their natural habitats. No farming and then chemically induced to ripen, which have caused many problems now a days. It might be better than trying to get more or different drugs. Let me know if you like what you find and I can help you with it. You can also look at monavieonthemove.com, it has more people with their experience from the juice.



Enjoy,

Wendy

Mandy - posted on 01/23/2009

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I understand your frustration, my step-son is 11 years old and was diagnosed with ADHD. His mother does not want to medicate him so we have looked into numerous alternatives. We found a book called the 'ADHD Diet', it is basically eliminating all sugars and foods with additives and food colorings. The other thing we found was a homeopathic pill called 'Attend', in studies it was found to work as well as Ritalin and is some cases better then prescription drugs. We have tried the diet during our long vacations with my step-son and have noticed that it has helped but have yet to try the Attend as his mother doesn't really think he has any problems and doesn't like the idea of ANY medications. I hope these suggestions are helpful, good luck. Please let me know if any of these help.

Rebekah - posted on 01/23/2009

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Check that he is not suffering from food allergies. My nephew has a sensitivity to wheat that makes him bounce off the walls! There is a super easy blood test that you can use that does 96 foods with a simple finger prick or heel stick test through US BioTek Labs.



Also watch for preservatives/food dyes. There have been studies of entire schools that have experienced positive behavioral changes by simply eating healthier diets too! So look at how much processed food he is getting. Home made, whole foods will be better for the whole family. Check out a google search for Natural Ovens and behavioral change! (Or rent Supersize Me! There is a segment on it, I believe!)



Another option is Pycnogenol. It has been shown to be as effective as Ritalin, but works in a different way. It is a super antioxidant and cleans the body. Check it out on http://www.pubmed.gov



Medication and cognitive therapy are best done as a pair. Check your insurance policy to see what you have access too. Medication without any modification of habits or thinking patterns result in no change over time, but a reliance on the medication to perform. The goal of medication should always be to allow for re-learning of responses and formation of positive habits. That said, Rome will NOT be built in a day so give yourself and your child room to breath.



Parenting support abounds. Check out Love and Logic's resources for parents of kids with disabilities. A great author and speaker is Richard Lavoie. Check out his book or DVD: It's So Much Work to Be Your Friend: Helping the Child with Learning Disabilities Find Social Success. One of the best books I have ever read for kids with ADHD (and other learning disorders). Join a group devoted to parenting ADHD kids. The best known one is http://www.chadd.org/ and they have branches in most areas!



And keep your head up. Science has shown that while the ADHD brain takes, on average 3 extra years to mature, they do mature to the same level as a child who is not affected!

Candice - posted on 01/23/2009

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Follow a strict schedule, every day, for homework, play time, chores, etc., so that your son knows what to expect. Let him play outside when he gets home for a few minutes to get some energy out, and then have him sit down in an area with minimal distractions to complete his homework. Give him small breaks throughout (five minutes between tasks or subjects). When giving him directions, only give him one or two at a time. For example, change into your PJ's and brush your teeth. Because of his attentional problems, he won't be able to remember more than that. Set up a behavior chart with his chores and rules on it, and reward him when he does what is expected. Focus on positive behavior, and always be consistent. I am not the parent of a child with ADHD, but I am a school psychologist who works with children with this condition on a daily basis. Good luck...

Kate - posted on 01/23/2009

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We use Daytarnna (patch) as well as a Catapris patch.  The catapris patch eves the day and evening out and allows for calm family time.

Patty - posted on 01/23/2009

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Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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oh, just a quick question are you having problems with bedtime routines and wake sleep cycles???  If you are discuss this with the doc. lack of sleep can contribute to bad days.  My son takes vistril 25 mg. and 6 mg. melatonin at bedtime or he can not function during the day.  He has meltdowns, beyond tantrums, whines, cries, the quote "I can't do it" comes out of his mouth all day, I don't think he can stand himself when he doesn't get enough sleep. 



Just some food for thought.

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

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Calls docs. office and let them know that you are having evening and homework problems.  They will probably prescribe reg. ritalin short acting about 4 hrs. is all you get out of it by 4 pm so that it wears off by bedtime for sleeping patterns.  This worked wonders with my daughter when she was having horrible evenings and homework problems.  After a few years we were able to drop this dose.  A couple of years later and good paterns set in place and she is no longer on ADHD meds and is in 5th grade and on the honor roll!!!  Get in a very strict pattern after school of going thru backpacks together, snack, potty, homework together at the table (I sit there and work on my weekly menu, or checkbook and bills, something, even writing a letter to a friend)  I do NOT leave the table I stay there and help when needed but try not to interfear or do their homework for them.  After it's done we pack it all up for the morning putting snack in there for school the next day and hang it up to forget about it until the next day.  Home work which used to take a couple of hrs. now takes us up to a half hr. for my kids elem. age.  My highschooler obviously has more work but she is independent now and continues when we leave the room on her own, but is usually right behind us within the hour.  Just to let you know I'm not working with just ADHD here I'm also working with and Epileptic child who has memory problems, and a child with Autism and CP.  So there is all the reason in the world to set standards and goals and make a strict homework enviroment.  My kids all 3 are on the honor roll.  I hope this helps.  Oh by the way this change will not come over night it will take a couple of weeks and the homework whinies will get worse before they get better.  I've also discovered a magna doodle works great for spelling test quizes, they would much rather use that than a peice of paper!   Something I thought they had outgrown is now my spelling homework best friend. 

Berny - posted on 01/23/2009

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Hello, my son is 18 and has ADD and has been on meds. since 1st grade. For him, things were easier if we stuck to a strict routine.....same time for dinner, tv, getting ready for bed. I even made a poster one time when he had trouble getting ready for school in the mornings. I listed in order "Things to Do Before School". It helped him gain better control of things. Even now, visual reminders are a must. He carries a planner with him everywhere. I hope these little hints helped. Take care.

Karen - posted on 01/23/2009

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I have a son with adhd. And I've found that being consistent and on a schedule helps alot. I think thats why they do so good at school. Their day is scheduled almost down to the minute and if they do something wrong they know what the consequence is. I know its easier said than done. (being consistent is my downfall)

Cheryl - posted on 01/23/2009

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hi hun,where do i start on this, i raised my son who is adhd virtually on my own as my hubby was a lorry driver away 6 days a week. that son is now almost 20 and you can come through this, and that i promise you. firstly you will need the patience of of a saint and a cast iron will but i guess you already know that. what worked for me was clear unwavering bounderies, very short sentances when talking to him and just 1 request at a time, ie get your socks once that is done socks on please once done get your shoes etc, its tiring and draining and sounds abrupt but in my experience it works. find yourself a good adhd support group thats a must for your sanity, and at times he needs to run off steam take him out to a park, field and let him run wild...... make sure you wrap up warm these kids have a lot of steam to run off you could be there a while lol. on a plus side these kids tend to be generous and caring, my son did his work experience in a special needs school and does summer scheme with autistic children hang on to that thought babe because it will work out, it may seem a long way off but the time will fly and 1 day youll look backand wonder what you were worried about......iI PROMISE. if i can be of ay further help please mail back sometimes just an ear to bend helps. take care and look after YOURSELF cheryl

Vicki - posted on 01/23/2009

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AST LONGER THEN OTHERS. HELLO. I HAVE AN 11 YEAR OLD, WHO HAS THE ADD, AND ADHD. SO I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. WE'VE TRIED SEVERAL THINGS, AND YES HE IS ALSO ON MEDICATION. SOME FOODS DO WORK, BUT IN THE LONG RUN, THEY DON'T LAST. WE HAD TO FINALLY MEET WITH HIS DR. AND DETERMINED THAT HE NEEDED THAT LITTLE HELP IN THE AFTERNOON WHEN HE CAME HOME FROM SCHOOL. SOME MEDICATION DOES LAST LONGER THEN OTHERS. YOU MAY WANT TO SPEAK WITH THE DR. I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT WELL FOR YOU.

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