Does anyone else have an issue with a "too" attached child?

Ashley - posted on 10/21/2009 ( 42 moms have responded )

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My son is 9 months old and he is VERY attached to me. He spends a big part of the day whining and crying for me to pick him up. I only work half a day, so I'm not away from him a lot, and when I'm not at work, I'm with him. Even when we're at home and I walk out of the room to do something he'll start crying and come after me. Sometimes I just have to let him cry so I can get stuff done and I hate it. Does anyone else have this problem? Is this just a "stage" he's going through?

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Alison - posted on 10/26/2009

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My 18 month-old is much more attached to me than her very independant big sister. Your son may not grow out of it for quite a while. My husband is currently working away from home 3 weeks at a time and I work full-time. It is very challenging for me to get anything done. Whenever I can, I try to spend time cuddling with her. I remind myself that there will be a time when she will not want to cuddle anymore and even a time when she will grow up and not be around anymore. So I try to enjoy being close to her as much as I can, knowing that this makes her a more secure baby and hopefully one-day a more secure adult.



I have found that I can put her in a sling while I do my make-up and some other simple tasks. She is quite happy to be with me while I do these things.



Remember that when you are leaving him crying while trying to do important/urgent tasks, this is good for him too. It teaches him that he is not at the centre of the universe.

Sheena - posted on 08/16/2012

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My daughter will be 5 in October so she is in that age bracket where she can go to Kindergarten this year or next if i prefered. My husband wants her to start school asap but i'm worried that she will get expelled like she did from the daycare we have here on post. (Army family). She is very attached to me. she refuses to go to kindergarten because she says i will leave her there. I keep trying to persuade her and reassure her that I'll be there to watch her get on the bus and off and she will come home when her brother (7) does but she refuses. I know i can't just choose not to send her to school forever but I have no clue what to do. she has ADHD severely and she cannot have a normal conversation. She will start off talking to you then by the end she has told you 7 different stories. this is constantly. She can't make any friends bc they say she's annoying bc she talks too much and it makes no sense. sad as it seems, it's embarrassing for me at times. and it also makes me feel sorry for her. She stays up my butt all day long. most kids would rather go outside and play but she would rather be inside with me. we will be watching t.v. on the couch together and as soon as i get up for any reason she jumps right up and follows me. it is quite annoying to me especially when i'm having a bad day. not only is she super attached and friendless she does not listen at all. it's like she can't absorb information or anything. I've read that ADHD children should have a strict schedule to keep the guesswork out of the day but she does not remember anything. i have to remind her every day not to touch the stove bc it will burn you or dont poop on the floor or throw food everywhere. yes she poops and pees on the floor purposely bc she doesnt feel like going to the potty. I think my situation tops everyones right about now lol oh did i mention my husband is deployed presently? I just medically retied from the Army 4 months ago and i am already ready to go back to work just to have alone time from my daughter. no matter how i try to discipline her or teach her she wont soak it up or listen. she wont try to read or write. I often wonder if she is "retarded". I love her so damn much and she is so beautiful but i can't take it anymore. the only way i have time away from my kids is to lock myself in my room. yet every 2 minutes they are knocking on the door for something, making excuses for me to open the door. they even play right in front of my door instead of their rooms. im sick of it! her doctor tried ADHD meds but didnt work and now she wants to do therapy but my child will not talk to no darn strangers and they wouldnt understand her anyway so there's no point to me. anyone that watched her while i was at work they all made excuses not to watch her anymore. daycare and two other women. they say she is "a bad ass kid". i didnt raise my kids to be this way. my mother told me i wasnt nearly this bad. i kept to myself. whats worse is my hubby thinks i baby her and let them do what they want but i really dont! if anything i'm trying to push independence. i know this post is about children being too attached but i was wondering if anyone has a child like this who is abnormal so i wont feel like i gave birth to a spawn of satan. yes i may seem like a crazy mother but i do love and give alot of affection and tell my daughter she is beautiful every single day. my son cant stand her. oh yea and within the last few months she has started to scream alot. if her brother annoys her she starts screaming at the top of her lungs. this is all day long. for anything. im sick of it.thanks for letting me vent!

Terrie - posted on 08/19/2012

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i cant walk out of the room and i can not get no to watch her and she will not go to her dad neater and i can not let he cry because her dad works 3ed

Dorothy - posted on 10/26/2009

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The original post was about a 9 month old...there is a big difference between a clingy child who is over a year old versus an infant who is extremely impressionable and learning about the world vis his interaction with his parents. Infants don't need to learn about respect at 9 months old, they need to know their parents will respond to them so that they can feel safe to learn about the world on their own. Many studies have shown the opposite to what most people think, that if you respond to kids' needs a lot when they are very young (VERY young being the key), they will end up less clingy and more securely attached as they grow, securely attached not being the same as 'clingy' so we are talking about two different things.
Life may be busier earlier on for mom but it will pay dividends as the child grows older and becomes less and less physically attached to their parents and ends up needing them less and less. I think this is the key that a lot of parents don't realize when they say that their kids will only get worse when they are school age. Of course, you are welcome to disagree with this and I do agree that we should all raise our children how we feel best.

Laurali - posted on 10/22/2009

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My son zacc is now 5 years old and i had the same problem. I called it the tcisas. The Cord Is Still Attatched Sydrom. lol. i had to even quit my job because nobody would watch him cause all he would do was cry the whole time i was gone. but the min. i came in the house he would stop. nobody would watch him not even his dad cause he swore he hated him. everyone said it was just a stage. but it only got worse before it got better. i just had to let him cry to even get laundry done. i hated it but eventually it got better. by the time he was 2 he would throw him self on the floor and cry for hours till i was home with him again. so i started a little something called mommy treat. when i would leave he would start to cry but i would tell him when i got back i would have a suprise for him. i would allow him to call me while i was out and when i got home the treat would be something like just one on one time with him, watching a movie or playing cars. eventually he got the point that i would always come back to him and he actually wanted me to leave so we could have mommy treat. I know it is really hard for you but I promise it will take time. but he will adjust to it. My son started K this year and i thought he was going to freak when i left cause he depends on me so much but to my suprise he was great and did not even shed a tear. now when he gets home from school we have our new thing called Zaccy treat for mommy. cause mommy misses him all day. lol keep your head up it will get better.

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Sarah - posted on 10/31/2009

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YES!!! my daughter was this way until a few weeks ago (Just turned one) and she hasn't been away from us for more than a few minutes her whole life, yet she spent the night with grandma last night!! Hurray, mommy and daddy finally have time for each other. Trust me, it eventually gets better!

Jatska - posted on 10/31/2009

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I really hope it's just a stage. My youngest son has been this way since the day he was born and he is 1 1/2 now. I know exactly what you mean. I worrk a full day, pick him up from the sitter and usually I am rushing home to cook and get them ready for the evening. He chases me around the kitchen and gets in between my legs until he causes me to trip over him which has happened a few times. It is really hard to get things done, but it's heartbreaking when he is crying all the time beggin for my attention. My advise, I guess is to wait it out or adjust some children are more clingy than others.

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Funny how both my step kids want to live with us and not their mother who made them clingy in the 1st place. They learn to be independent and it is a HUGE boost for their self confidence.
Clingy kids tend to cry the moment they don't see their mother and as I said , it is NOT cute.
Having a clingy kid doesn't mean he / she loves you more than a on-clingy kids loves their mother. The non-clingy kid's mother just teaches her child respect for 1st and foremost her and 2ndly , other people.
You are making you own life difficult , because you can't move your arse without the kid tagging along.
Luckily we are created uniquely and thus we may raise our children how we feel is the best. We'll talk again in a few years' time when they go to school , you'll suffer in more ways than one.

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I have a 6 year old who is really clingy and has been since she was a year old. I have tried everything each one of you suggests over the last 5 years but I can tell you nothing is working. The only way to cure a child from being clingy according to my daughters pediatritian is for the child to be sat down and oyou tell them don't get up mommy/daddy will be right back. Let me tell you that BS doesn't work. My daughter can see straight throuhg it. I can not eat, shower, us the restroom, or heaven forbid go to the mailbox without her attached to my hip. I am sooo tired of her being right under me. Everytime i turn around I am either bumping into her or knocking her over. Each child is diffrent on the comfort levels, but I wish mine would just get independant and say "mommy I dont need to be around you anymore". Now tell me how do you cure that. Simple YOU DON'T!!! If anyone has ever found ANYTHING that makes a kid stop being so clingy PLEASE let me know.

Ashley - posted on 10/23/2009

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I absolute do not push him away, I'll carry him in the living room where his toys are, try playing with him for a few minutes and talking to him & see if he'll sit there & play by himself for a few while I try to finish doing whatever I was doing. I would like to make a correction, I did not mean "too" attatched, I know a child cannot be "too" attached and it's normal...just really inconvenient sometimes. Maybe EXTREMELY attached is better...

Ronnie - posted on 10/23/2009

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He's only 9 months-its normal! Don't push him away - closeness, touch(hugs and kisses) is part of a healthy development. It's how they develop an "inner working model" of socializing, love and affection.Plus developing a "secure attachment" with you will help him to have a secure base(confidence that you'll be there for him) for exploring and learning later on.

Marylou Hurt's suggestion is effective too, and it will give you some time out for yourself.
But still your baby will most likely prefer you over other people so go with the flow - he'll soon grow out of it (too fast if you ask me - i have a 9,8,6 and 2yo)...it's a bit inconvenient but it wont last forever.

Marylou - posted on 10/23/2009

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He needs to be left for short periods with someone he knows. Maybe 20-30 minutes the first time & then work up to longer periods. He needs to able to relate with someone else in an emergency. Once he knows you will always come back, he will be OK. There may be lots of crying iniatially.

Alicia - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have a 1 year old that is like that but I know for him it is developmental. My 5 year old refuses to be by himself. He will only play at the park if there are other kids there, he won't be upstairs if I am downstairs, he wants to sleep with me, he will not play in his room by himself, etc. He will play by himself only if I am in the room or very close by. It is exhausting. The funny thing is he is super independent. He has no problem when I leave as long as he can watch me drive off. He is fine at school and had no issues. He has done day camp and a sleep over at a friend's. I am sure his dad being deployed twice in the past year (gone right now) and a new brother does not help. I try to have as much one on one time as possible but it doesn't seem to help. I am hoping like most everything else he will grow out of this phase too.

Ashleigh - posted on 10/22/2009

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I have a 16 month old boy and yes i have the same problem. I haven't worked since i was pregnant so i have been home with him 24/7. I don't think for my son it's too much of an anxiety problem because he loves to spend time with his grandma, but that's only lately. When my son was your sons age he didn't want anyone but me. I'd say this is an age for him but i do stress to you, stop picking him up if he's crying at you. If he's just chasing after you and not crying then i would give him attention. If you pick him up while he's crying he will learn to get bad attention and that crying will get him what he wants. Try a play pen put somewhere he can see you but can't hang off you. I'm speaking from experience as i learnt the hard way! My son still drives me crazy with hanging off my leg everytime i'm in the kitchen or he can see i'm busy. I still haven't learnt just to leave him when he cries and that's why he's still so bad, he's even started hitting me with objects. i copped a coathanger over the head yesterday cos he wanted attention and he gets angry if i tell him not to do something. He's at the right age to start putting him in his room for a minute everytime i say no and he doesn't listen to me because even saying no to him is still attention so he will do bad things even more. I'm glad to say that it's a progress with his naughty behaviour. I don't doubt that your son will get over his anxiety and will go to his grandma once he gets a bit older so don't stress too much. My son usually doesn't want her to leave once she's spent time with him. So it's not just him being clingy to me anymore, he's like that with everyone he's close too. Hope this helped!

Ashley - posted on 10/22/2009

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Things will get better! Believe it or not my daughter started this with me when she was 2 months old. They say at that age babies just see any adult as care takers, not mine! She would not even be soothed by grandma.. or DADDY!!! It was so hard, she did the same things she would scream the whole time if i was not there and would scream if I walked out of the room, I had to do the same thing by just letting her cry a lot, and it killed me!

I would leave her with grandma for a few hours trying to get her used to being away from me. I thought maybe because she was only breast fed she was unusally attached to me, I did not know what to do. But as she got older she got better, and better, and better. She is 17 months old now.... and I leave her with out a worry, she has even stayed the night at her grandmas house a couple of times with absloutly NO problems!! She still amazes me every day with how much better she is getting. I would say for a lot of kids it is just a stage, and for some (like my daughter) its just her personality. She still has to warm up to a room full of people but give her 15 mins to get comfortable and she will be the life of the party!!!



Just keep up what you are doing he will get through it!!!

Pat - posted on 10/22/2009

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Ashley, yes, this is a stage he is going through and you have to understand that it is ok for him to cry. If he is clean, fed, and you have taken care of other necessity needs, it will not harm him to cry. He knows that you will come a running when he does, so now he is in control...not you. You will never get anything completed if you continue this habit with him. You love your child dearly...but you are in control and the adult, not him.

Susan - posted on 10/22/2009

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That Michelle girl is wrong, so just cold heart , as i pick my children up all the time to clam them down , but i do agree with that angela girl , you just pick them up long enough to clam them down , then go on to do what you have to do. it does not hurt to leave them cry for 5 to 10 minutes but them you should pick them up to clam them down . this way they will alway believe you love and care for them . so this way they will alway love and respect you . the other way you would just be cold hearted , and then the child as they get older will go looking for the love some where else how i know this as i had a exdaughter-in-law who has a daughter . who would come and ask me or my daughter and even my best friend if she could come and live with us . As for the part you children would avoid them is bull . as i pick my children up all the time and my children were very poplar . my my exdaughter-in-law who was like this Michelle her daughter is not so poplar.

Susan - posted on 10/22/2009

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yes it is a stage . it because he spend more time with you than others , As he get older he will start to do things on his own . As my children were like that. and now my grandchildren . not just with there parents but me as there grandmother . i even have a friend daughters who are just attach to me .
it just mean he love you alot , i know as upsetting as it can be you have to cheerish it. my children are all grown up with babies of there own , my oldest son and my baby daughter live on there own . my youngest son lives with me along with his daughter.
but the up side to if you can stay close like that with your children you know there is no greater love with your children . there nothing my children will not do for me . and no one will come between us . believe me some have tryed but have fail big time .
Believe me alot of people will be jellious cause your children will be so close to you as i go through it . and my baby is 26 with 3 children of her own . lives on her own we are still very close .
it is just a stage they will move on then that is when you will have to really work to keep your children close to you. but believe me it is well worst all the work .

Angela - posted on 10/22/2009

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aaah, know how you feel, I didnt go out on my own until my son was at least 2, try putting him down a little longer each time & try changing the subject, it works sometimes, but dont worry they all go through it, some worse than others, my son is 4 1/2 & is only just getting better & I have worked full time since he was 12weeks old so its not that I am home all the time, it gets better, promise. I always say to people, enjoy it & dont listen to negative advise you get, always go with you own instinks (sorry about the spelling).

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Sorry to say this , but he only cries because he knows you're going to pick him up. Rather leave him on the floor / couch / bed and play with him.
Clingy kids are NOT cute. People tend to avoid them , and it's usually not their fault , but the mothers'.
Hope it helps ?

Tammy - posted on 10/21/2009

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My two sons (now 13 and 18) were both so clingy to me. Even Gramma wouldn't do! And 9 months is THE age that separation anxiety is at it's peak. Your son is just beginning to realize that you are leaving, and that he doesn't like that! Before this time when you left, he didn't really remember, he was just happy to see you when you came back! Realistically, we just had to get through it. It does get better!! You'll probably be one of his favorites until he's about 13! Then you'll get him back when he's about 15! Just a few years when they leave you emotionally :-)

Keep up the good work - your son loves you, clearly!!

Tracy - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter is now just about 3. She went threw this phase also. I hate saying this but tough love is the best. I just had to leave her to cry. (It hurt me more than her) but she lived. Now I miss that stage because she is soooo independant that I have to run after her for a kiss goodbye. Ladies it does get better..

Trudy - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter who is now 6 was so attached to her immediate family members it wasn't funny. If a stranger was to approach her she would hide behind our legs or even try to get in under them. I put her into day care at the age of 4 to try to get her out of it. Whilst at day care she refused to speak with the adults and wouldn't make a sound inside, but once they got her outside with the other kids she would run and play normally. If they asked her a question or if she wanted something she had a little friend that would answer or ask for her. It wasn't until the end of the year when we were putting her through her orientation for Preparatory School that she started coming out of her shell. It happened so fast too. She is now an outgoing, happy child. Because we don't go out by ourselves we don't require a sitter, so getting her to go with someone else can be a issue. We just stick with what we want and she will eventually come around, or if we can, we get a relative to watch her. I would just give your child time, he will come around on his own. Some take longer than others. Good luck I know how frustrating it can be.

Jessica - posted on 10/21/2009

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My son was like that when he was a baby. I pushed him away because I didn't want him to turn out to be a wimpy mama's boy. But now he is a teenager, and I regret the whole thing. Children are insecure and need supportive parents. I wish I had spend more time enjoying him and being here for him when he was younger. I hope this helps.

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Dear Ashley,
Get the book by Dr. Sears on attachment parenting. it is awesome, and SO helpful. Your boy is completely normal. You cannot be with him "too much" for the first 3 years! He NEEDS you. You are mommy, you are LIFE itself. Give him YOU now, and watch him flourish into a confident, well adjusted happy, happy boy. I raised two this way, one is 13 now, the other is 8, and they are amazing confident, loving and compassionate people.
Good luck!

Katherine in Boston

Carrie - posted on 10/21/2009

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Wow! I thought I was the only one with a baby like that! My son is nearly 20 months now, and we REALLY struggled with that. He was not entertained by ANYTHING else but Mommy. I wore him in a sling most of the day because I had to in order to cook, do laundry or anything! He was entertained by very few things: Baby Einstein videos, and being outdoors. Otherwise, I had to carry him most of the time. I believe it's just a stage. My son is SO well-adjusted now, and so secure in himself. I can run out to get something from the car or do something in the yard and he doesn't scream because he KNOWS I am there for him...I believe its because I always reassured him and maintained that closeness instead of trying to get him used to me being away. Even though it was sometimes frustrating, I felt it was important to let him know I would not leave him. Everyone told me I was crazy and to let him cry; that he was going to be really spoiled...and I feel now I did the right thing. He is very happy, very secure & we are SO close. So, be patient with him, he loves you! BTW, I stayed home with him the entire first year and I loved it!

Julie - posted on 10/21/2009

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Hello,

I have three children the youngest of whom is 1 year and they have all been this way! My one-year-old is actually better than the older girls were but if I'm in the room with him, he wants me to pick him up and if I walk out of the room he cries and follows. From my perspective this is completely normal and they do grow out of it. I know it's tough for a while as you feel you can't get anything accomplished and feel guilty leaving them but as fast as they grow, this stage will be a distant memory soon! I hope that helps!

Lindsay - posted on 10/21/2009

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I most definitely have this problem. My daughter is 13 months and I am the only one she wants all the time. She does the same thing with the crying and whining and it's hard to get things done. She is fine when I am sitting and playing with her but as soon as I get up she goes crazy. If I'm around she will not let anyone else hold her either. I have no idea how to stop it or what to do about it so I could use some advice as well. I'm just glad she's not the only one that does it.

Coszetta - posted on 10/21/2009

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You will B fine........When she gets older she will 4 get-it......And go on her own she is just a Baby rite now........Let Love them Y we can rite now................

Coszetta - posted on 10/21/2009

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Quoting Ashley:

Does anyone else have an issue with a "too" attached child?

My son is 9 months old and he is VERY attached to me. He spends a big part of the day whining and crying for me to pick him up. I only work half a day, so I'm not away from him a lot, and when I'm not at work, I'm with him. Even when we're at home and I walk out of the room to do something he'll start crying and come after me. Sometimes I just have to let him cry so I can get stuff done and I hate it. Does anyone else have this problem? Is this just a "stage" he's going through?



Hey Ashley, Have U tried 2,put him in a High-Chair and talk 2 him or play with him.....I have 3 kids and I did that with them,and my Grandson.........It work 4 them,I still do that now with other people kids and they love it....Please try it and let me no how it work-out..........Coszetta T.........

Lizz - posted on 10/21/2009

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OMG!!! My little Allison is CONSTANTLY with me...she has been this way since birth. It's been really rough since she is 2 1/2 now and this has been going on for so long. I have tried many things and have also had to just let her cry just to get stuff done. We are now making an attempt at therapy to see why she is so attached...it's a bonding and attachment (i know, she's already attached) class called "Theraplay" The other thing is, is that when im gone, everyone says she is good, she plays well with her sister or herself and doesn't cry. But when i am around, she has to be glued to me, follow me to bathroom, kitchen, laundry room, and if i dont carry her around constantly she throws tantrums. I work now, but i used to be a stay at home mom. I love my little Gator (Allison) and since she is my baby, i indulge her, but i can't stand to see her sad. Hang in there...one day we will wish they wanted us so much..I should know, I also have a 15 year old daughter :)

Deborah - posted on 10/21/2009

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Dear Ashley, As a mother of 3, grandmother of 4 and an RN and MOPS motivational speaker for new Mom's most of all I would love to share some wisdom on your concern. When you are at home are you on the phone, pc, distracted? Second question is how do you begin your day with the littly one, your first moments together? After answering your questions to yourself this was my experience with my son who by the way has grown into a wonderful young man. He was similar and looking back to those days I could have done some things better sooner. After some struggle and similar concerns I began each day getting up a half hour earlier and picking my son up out of his bed hugging him close to me with no one and nothing there but us and when he fully woke I would gvie him facetime. Yes, that is right, facetime for a baby, go figure. As he grew into a toddler we would read a book together after our intial bonding and sometimes a Mickey or Donald video, Sesame Street, you get the picture but always sitting together as close as we could be. This set the tone for our day. Then when I got home I took the time to greet him much like you or I would desire our husbands to do with us though it does not always happen that way. The little guy will sense your closeness to him and over time he will feel so secure that he will cling less out of need and more out of simple unabashed love for your time together. The worst thing we can do is try and make them something they are not and deny their needs whether we understand them or not. At 9 mos. and up until first grade children go in and out of phases which are normal and we are the ones who have to adapt as we are better equipped with the skills to do so. What I would strongly recommend to ease your mind is to study the stages of development via a good book or online and then you will be prepared ahead of time. By the way at age 12 is the last battle for your undivided attention in most sons and just go with it. He will be fine and you will too. Trust me they grow up so fast and once they cut the apron strings you will in some part look back longingly on these days. God bless you Ashley and I pray He has helped you through this advice to deal with your very real and very personal concern. Much happiness...Deborah

Denise - posted on 10/21/2009

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It's called separation anxiety and is totally normal. It generally hits around your child's age and can go through part of the first year. It's when the child starts to learn that people come/go and he is independent of you. Generally the child chooses one person to attach to (MOM!) and is more sensitive when that person leaves. Everntually they start to learn that you go and will come back. Playing games like peek-a-boo and talking about leaving and returning (peek out from behind a wall or door, say I'm going to the kitchen and I'll be right back" and do it!) Trust is key!

April - posted on 10/21/2009

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My son is going to be 3 in dec. He is very attached to me, I cant get the mail,take a shower go to the bathroom,store or anything by myself. My son was good until he turned 1 thats when it started. I cant even let him spend the night somewhere because he will cry for hours. I upsets me so much. I also watch a 1 year old and he is the same as your son will cry his eyes out until he is picked up. I think we need to really work with them so they understand we are not going to leave them and its ok to be alone for a moment, hopefully this will help them. I think the earlier you start the better it will be.

Wendy - posted on 10/21/2009

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yep, it's a stage...my kids got through it (now 25,23,19 &11) (3 girls and a boy). Try having him where he can see you, give him some toys that he hasn't seen in awhile and let him know verbally that you love him and sound enthusiastic about what you are doing. Talk all the time to let him know that you are paying attention to him even though you can't pick him up at the momment.

Dorothy - posted on 10/21/2009

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Unfortunately society has a lot of misconceptions about child attachment...at that age, I don't know if there is such thing as 'too' attached. I think its normal that kids (esp young ones) are really attached to theirs moms. It can be frustrating I agree...there are days when my little girl wants mom and ONLY mom. Its a lot of work! Just remember that kids who are very 'attached' as kids grow up to actually be quite independent and well-adjusted as they will feel safe that a parent was always there to respond to their needs...contrary to what people might say!

Tricia - posted on 10/21/2009

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I have a 2yr old daughter and she has always been a mommy's girl. I cant even go to the restroom without her. She cries when she goes with her daddy. But then when she falls asleeep in the car and wakes up. She fine. But it still brokes my heart everytime. Im praying that its something that she will grow out of soon.

Hannah - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter is doing the same thing, its sad actually. She pushes her father away and cries if he tries to hold her when I am around. I hate that, it hurts his feelings. She wines and cries unless I hold her. I just let her cry at this point. I talk to her calmly but I dont pick her up when I am busy with something. She seems to be getting better.

Holly - posted on 10/21/2009

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Both of my daughters are very attached to me. With my oldest, I was in school and working when she was a baby, but she cried all the time in daycare, and she was very clingy when I was around her. She wanted nothing to do with anyone else. My youngest, who just turned a year, is also very very clingy. She Doesn't want anyone but me. She doesn't even like my husband to hold her or care for her a lot of the times. It is very frustrating...As for this being a stage, it is...let him cry a little. It is hard, but he will need to build his independence. The older he gets, the more independent he will become. I know it is hard right now, but when he is older and not so attached to you, you will miss this stage. Hang in there :)

Brandy - posted on 10/21/2009

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i am going through the same thing with my three month old. she cries if anyone besides me holds her. even her daddy.

the way she cries would make you think i dont go anything else but sit around and hold her, but having a two year old and nine year old with homework.....i dont. she swings and plays in her playpen.....if i put her there. if my husband puts her there she screams ubtik she is in my arms.

now if she is in one or the other and daddy picks her uo sge is fine, but if he gets her out of my arms she screams until she gets back in my arms.

i love her alot, but i hope she grows out of that. soon!







my 2 and 9 year old didnt act like this!

Jade - posted on 10/21/2009

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My daughter is two and a half and has always been more attached to me than her father. She wont even let him pick her up anymore. Im not sure its always a phase they grow out of

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My daughter has started to do this recently - I remember watching a child development program that said that this kind of attachement was a phase in their socialising skills or something. Apparently it lasts longer in girls (generally) so I am waiting to see how it all goes :P

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