Does anyone else live in a sexless marriage.

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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if so how do you deal with it. I love my husband and we have been with each other for 12 years and have 2 great kids that keep me super busy, I am also a SAHM.

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Shobha - posted on 12/03/2012

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I recd. this mail a long time ago but was debating whether to write about it or not since I am from India and talking about these things is kind of taboo. I have been married for 21 years now and have two children ( who happened by chance) and those are the only times we have had sex. I have tried to talk to my husband about this but he never takes it seriously. Thank god for my lovely children I have a reason to be in this relationship. Most of it could also be because of his mother. She couldn't let go of her son! When we were newly married she would be with us all the time and if we tried to talk( my husband and I ) she would start chanting loudly. She would just enter our room without knocking. My husband would never say anything to her but I had to be the bad one and tell her that we need some time and she would get angry and tell her relatives that I didn't treat her well. Even to this day the same thing is happening except that I have become stronger and more assertive and have managed to divert my attention to Spirituality and taking care of my children. Getting a divorce in India is really painful and they all point their fingers at the girl/woman and her parents!!

Cathy - posted on 07/03/2009

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It's normal for mom's of young children to lose their desire, don't beat yourself up about it. It won't always be this way...I wouldn't force yourself if you're really not in the mood, it won't be good for either of you, and your husband will feel it for sure. You're not alone.

User - posted on 07/03/2009

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mine would have to be the daily routine of getting up at 6.30 when kids are up. running after them the usual house work.... the last thing on my mind when l go to bed, l that it was just me good to know that it's not that other women feel like that to

Francesca - posted on 07/03/2009

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i felt like that when i had depression and its an awful feeling not making love to your husband. some times i still feel like i cant be arsed but to keep my marriage alive (and also trying for a baby) i have to, not always in the mood for it but we try and do new things to spice it up lol

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2009

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for me its just that I can not even get there in mind and body. I have tried and my husband wants to and I feel so guilty since I can not get there.

Francesca - posted on 07/03/2009

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just wondered is it a choice that you dont make love? and does your husband not want it?

Carolyn - posted on 07/03/2009

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yea, im a SAHM 2 and just the every day running w/ the kids and taking care of the house exhausts me. i go to bed when they do cuz im up when they r. my husband thinks its just cake and i sit around all day (when hes the one staying up til 4am and sleeping til 2pm --- hes laid off) i mow the yard, and he just recently started taking trash out. but if u get any suggestions plz send some my way!!

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