Does anyone have 2 kids, work and a husband that is home at night?

Tara - posted on 07/30/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )




I have 2 kids, a 4 year old and an 11 month old. I work (almost back fulltime) and my husband is home nights and weekends. I find it very hard to try to juggle everything. Work is stressful, home life is stressful, my husband is in school. I don't have any ME time. If it's not one kid needing me, it's the other. and then my husband needs me too. if the kids don't need anything, he is wanting my attention. i am sooo stressed. not sure if i am going to make it sometimes!!! does anyone ever feel like this???


Kathy - posted on 07/31/2010




Two kids, full time-high stress job. My husband is currently laid off. It is hard. Hard when he is working, hard when he isn't. Hard when I was, hard when I wasn't. We have an understanding. If we are needing some alone time-we can go to our bedroom and chill. The other keeps the household from coming apart. We also bowl in the fall and winter on seperate nights. That gives us time out of the house and time to bond with a group from our sex. You need to express your need for some down-time and then take it. It isn't a selfish thing to do. A healthy happy Mom, makes for a healthy happy family.

Erin - posted on 07/31/2010




I don't feel stressed necessessarily just tired! Which I of course knew was part of being a mom but I had no idea my boyfriend would be fighting for some of time too lol. But for us its been getting better. Right after I had out second son which was almost a year ago it got really bad. Elias got up almost every hour, had colic, and my boyfriend and I weren't completely together. We were going through a rough are we going to break up or aren't we stage and one day I just broke down in tears and said I couldn't be there for everyone all the time. I explained to him that the only way I was going to be able to give him any attention at all was if he helped me with the kids. And I mean he still gets more 'me' time than I do but now we how an understanding, any time I need some time for me all I have to do is ask and he always takes them for me. And honestly I don't need as much time as him, I love being with my kids but sometimes its nice to have alittle break. So I would just talk to him and explain how you feel, maybe join a yoga class or something that way you can get away and de-stress for alittle bit!

Deborah - posted on 07/31/2010




I only have 1 kid, I work from home and threw my husband out nearly 2 years ago... and I still feel like that sometimes!!! Theres just not enough hours in the day. Make sure you make some ME time, even if (as already suggested) its just a long hot bath, where if the kids cry your husband will take care of it.

You need some time to unwind.. a spring can only be tightened so far....

Julia - posted on 07/31/2010




That's motherhood, it's all about juggling your time. I am not back to work full time yet but will be in September. I have an almost 5 year old and a 10 month old. My husband and I both will be working full time as well. I know it will be tough but we will make it work. Stay at home moms are just as busy though because we have to remember while our kids are at daycare during the day a stay at home mom is making meals, cleaning up after kids, doing activities with kids. All moms are busy and juggling there time weather they are working out of the home or in the home. You can always get some me time by leaving the kiddies with daddy or getting a sitter and having couple time.

Louise - posted on 07/31/2010




Welcome to motherhood! All mums go through this weather they work or not. It is hard to be all things to every one all day every day. It feels like the family will fall apart if you didn't do everything. It sounds to me like you have got yourself stressed out. You need to make ME time. When the kids are in bed run a deep bath and take a book, just relax. ME time is important or you will send yourself nuts. Try if you can to go out once a week with your husband as adults as you tend to forget what life is like without being mummy. This is a phase and it will pass but the most important thing is to remember that you need time for yourself and that you are not wonder woman.


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Beth - posted on 03/18/2013




YESSSSS! I have a 2 1/2 year old son and a 4 month old daughter. My husbands work call for him to be gone for 4 weeks and then he gets 2 weeks off. I get soo stressed sometimes because working full time and then having to hurry up and pick up the kids from daycare to get home and scramble to make supper gets super overwhelming at times. I'm dealing with post partum depression but I refuse to go to the doctor because I don't want to be medicated. I'm trying to work out more since I feel so much better after I work out, but it's just finding the time to workout. I've even try to wake up earlier to get myself ready and then the 2 year old and last the 4 month old ready. I do talk to my husband every night and wonder if I'm making good choices on whether or not my kids will think I was good Mom. It just seems to get overwhelming alot but what works for me is taking my lunch breaks at work and going shopping or just walking around window shopping. Anything to break the monotony of the day to day routine. :)

Mellisa - posted on 08/25/2012




wow you had it better then me at least he wants your attention. I only had one child i work 3 jobs at times all he did was school and xbox. he would kind of watch my daughter when i was gone. but when i was home it was 100% my job i never had time of and he lost all interest in our love life so i never had alone time or attention i was sooo lonly.

All i can say is if you want your marrage to last you BETTER SPEAK UP NOW before its too late and your too tired to care anymore.

Angie - posted on 07/31/2010




I've stayed home and I've been out in the workforce. To be honest, I found I get more "me" time when I work. I make good use of my lunch break to take a walk or read a book in a quiet place. When I was at home, I was with my children 24-7. My husband was amazing about playing with the children but it just wasn't the same. Do what I do, use your lunch break to walk and get rid of the work and home stress. We all get overwhelmed but you'll make it - we all do...

Tara - posted on 07/31/2010




thank you both. it helps to know I am not the only one!! I had a major breakdown this week and really thought I was losing it. My mom had a mental breakdown after having my sister (her 2nd child) and ended up on meds and my dad got custody of us. So anytime I am really stressed and have a breakdown (which isn't very often that I breakdown like that!), he thinks I am turning out like my mom. he was saying that I needed to go get help. but knowing that other moms feel stress too really helps. thank you!!!

Amy - posted on 07/31/2010




Almost everyday but I usually have my breakdown when I hit traffic on my already hour long commute! I'm back to work full time, add at least another 13 hours to that of sitting in the car getting too and from work! Right now of course there are all these summer road construction projects, the i
other night I sat stopped for 45 min in it! The other thing is my husband works nights so we don't get to see each other unless one of us takes a day off so that we can have family time. This has been a really hard tranistion for me. I miss being home with the kids! The only me time I get is if my mother comes to visit, she lives 4 hours away because she'll help get the housework caught up my son loves her more than us, lol. I have to work staying home is not an option for me, I do have a two year plan to pay off some bills so I can take a paycut and get a Monday through Friday job. I don't have Amy advice but I just wanted to say you are not alone!

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