Does anyone have 2kids within a year apart from eachother?

Krista - posted on 12/04/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 8months old and my son is due feb 22nd. only hes already trying to make his escape! but what are the hard things i will have to deal with from them being so close in age? also what will be nice about it? thanks

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Olesya - posted on 12/04/2010

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Our first 2 children are 18 month apart. Our son is 4 now and daughter is going to be 3 in Feb and five month old twins, so I hope I got it down enough to help.
Nice: They love to play together, my son loves to teach her new things, and no matter where you go they have their best friend with them always, they love helping with their twin sisters.
Transition from 1 to 2 will not be easy, so here is my advice. Make sure to include the older child in as much as you can. When I was breastfeed my daughter I would let my son sit by me and cuddle with him, or he will sit next to me and watch cartoons, or I will turn music on and feed the baby and let him dance and cheer him on, when I would change my daughter I would let her big brother take the diaper to the garbage and praise him for the job well done, if I gave her a bottle I would let him help me hold it, or get a clean diaper, or pacifier, or rock her in her bouncy chair.
Make sure to put them down for the afternoon nap at the same time and get some rest if needed or clean/ cook. At night time put the baby down first, they spend some time with your little girl so she knows that she is still special even so mommy still spend a lot of time with the baby. Good luck and enjoy every moment.

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Sherri - posted on 12/05/2010

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Krista it really is going to be the same as having twins. You will have to get on a routine line them up for feedings, for diaper changes, work on getting them on the same nap schedule. You can't explain to your first baby or even prepare her she is just too young. she will just learn everything once baby arrives.

Charity - posted on 12/05/2010

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it is going to be hard to get her use to the baby because she is goin to see it as this thing is taking my mommy away from me and i must do something it is natural to act out so she might try to bite or hit the baby just keep close eye on the new one my three yr old would always say he doesnt like the new baby and that the baby hates him lol but when my first two were younger the oldest tried to hit him and then he just ignored him mostly

Charity - posted on 12/05/2010

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i have two boys that are 10months apart and they are awsome you will have to change them both and feed them both on different schedules until you can sync them to each others and sleep deprivation is hard on you when you have to take care of another baby close in age it is worse now then it was before you had a 2nd one the kewl thing is that they will have some one around there age to play with and to teach them to explore the world and there able to understand each other

Lissa - posted on 12/05/2010

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My youngest are 15 months apart and are now 5 and 6. One great thing they are so young they just accept there's a baby and it lives here. for us we found there was never any jealousy at all. Just include the older one as much as you can with helping, just simple passing wipes and cuddling together while you feed the baby. Many of my friends brought new big sister gifts for my daughter and made a big fuss over her.My two share easily. socialise well, birthday parties are never an issue because they have the same friends. They are so close and look out for each other, when kids are that close they learn to compromise really easily.
Trying to teach a little one about gentle kisses and touch isn't easy but reminding them and showing them helps.As others have said never leave them in a room alone together the older one just doesn't yet understand what may hurt the baby. You may find that your youngest will talk later simply because the older sibling does it for them, long before my son could talk his big sister always seemed to know what he wanted. You have to be very organised and no it's not always easy trying to deal with two that are both still babies when they need changing and feeding. Many days I carted a high chair up the stairs and had one in the chair, one in the baby seat in the bathroom while I showered. The hard part is over in a few months though :)

Olesya - posted on 12/04/2010

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When the new baby comes make sure you do not leave the baby in the room alone with your older girl. At this age they don’t really understand that you need to be gentle and that babies have feelings and could feel pain. She might know she has a baby sister, but she might want to play with her as she was her doll (to a 10 month old everything is a toy). My son once almost walked on his little sister good thing I was right there to catch him as he picked up his little foot. You will have to talk to her a lot and probably rapid the same thing over and over until she learns. Good luck.

Krista - posted on 12/04/2010

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thank you ladies. also, how do i get a baby use to a newborn? she will be anywhere from 8-10months when he's born, so she wont really understand it much will she?

Jane - posted on 12/04/2010

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may daughters are 13 months apart, it is good having them close together they play with each other and watch out for one another. the only down fall is it is hard right after you have the Baby trying to spend as much time with both as you can letting your daughter know she is important to. my oldest daughter wanted to help me with the baby and i would have her with me when ever i changed carly and when i would feed her it's hard at first but it gets easier and when they are toddlers together it's fun to watch them learn from each other.

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