Does anyone have a baby that fights his/her sleep??

Brittany - posted on 10/28/2009 ( 63 moms have responded )

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My son will be 5 months old next week and he fights his sleep EVERY time we try and put him down for a nap or bed. He gets soo cranky and frustrated. I don't know what to do. He can barely keep his eyes open. Then, if I do get him down, he sometimes shakes his head back and forth or throws his arms up to wake himself up. Any suggestions???

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Clarisse - posted on 11/20/2009

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ooof, the crying it out method would NEVER work for me...i have a 5 month old and i wouldn't want her to stress like that...we co sleep, i nurse her to sleep, and if she wakes up i wait to see if she will put herself back to sleep (which is happening more and more) and if not i cuddle with her and nurse her again if she needs to. i am confident that she will be able to sleep on her own one day, but i'm not going to force it to happen

Carolyn - posted on 10/28/2009

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In my experience most children I have come across who do this. Have a over stimulation of activity going on. When trying to put them down there are a couple of things you can try. First, a room where there is nothing going on; like TV, other siblings trying to get your attention, phone ringing or conversation with some one while trying to put the child down. You need a space with no other distractions of any kind. You may want to hum a soft tune, so the child can focus on just your voice or the sound of a lullaby cd. Prior to starting the down time, you could give your baby a massage. First start with the top of shoulders and work your way down to feet. If they allow tummy time, you may rub their back as well. If tummy in not a option, you can do this massage while they are over your shoulder. Over active brain waves sometimes have to be stimulated to stop. Putting a cloth over the eyes helps, not the face just the eyes so they can not focus on anything but what is right in front of them. It may take a few tries for this to be accomplished. They just do not want to miss anything. You will have to train the brain to have less stimulation when trying to get them to rest.Other suggestions can be requested by e-mailing me. Good Luck Retired Day Care Provider and Owner for 26+ yrs. geauxirish2@gmail.com is where you may reach me.

Cathi - posted on 11/08/2009

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Not all babies will cry themselves to sleep...everyone will tell you to let them cry and cry. I tried and tried for weeks, and it was HORRIBLE!!! I would be at it for hours, he would be covered in sweat, and throwing up because he was so upset. He gets that from me, I get sick when I am upset. He used to fight sleep every time it was time for sleep. I finally learned, SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE, SCHEDULE!!!!! Now it is so easy. He knows when it's time to sleep. I basically cradle him on the way to his room, and he's out! He even rolls out of my arms when I put him down. He gets up at the same time every day, goes down for naps at the same time bed at the same time, and meals...the exact same time every single day. The only thing is, you can NOT vary from it! Even by 20 minutes. If I do, he fights and fights to go to sleep, and doesn't stay sleeping long. And I'm a sucker. I let others talk me into letting him go off schedule, but then I have to deal with it for at least 2 days. Even my husband got me to vary...said it's mean to wake him up in the morning. Then he was frustrated when he stopped sleeping through the night. Well, duh! It took me about one week, probably a little less, to put him on schedule in the first place, but I am SO glad I did it. Life is beautiful and oh so easy. He is happier, which in turn makes me happier. I hope it works for you if you try it. Good Luck mama! =D

Nicole - posted on 02/22/2012

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My youngest son John did the same thing at around 8 months. Every time, nap and nighttime. Eventually, we lay him in his crib when it was "night-night time" and tucked him in with a pacifier. Thank goodness that for his babyshower we got a mobile for his crib, because we would turn it on and he would go right to sleep. Try it, it works!

Tiffany - posted on 11/20/2009

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Please don't "cry it out". It's awful, and doesn't usually work. When it does, it's because babies have given up trusting you to comfort them, and 5 months is too young to understand anything else. My daughter did this too at the same age, and we just put her down for more naps during the day, and it was better the FIRST night. As soon as she got that "glazed" tired look, I took her to her room, and put her down. She mostly just fell asleep on her own since she was so tired already (I couldn't believe it the first time!), and if she cried I picked her up, nursed until she dozed off, then tried again. It took a couple of weeks to really get it down, but eventually she started napping wonderfully (around 7-8 months we were on a regular 2-3 hour afternoon nap), and at 15 months she started sleeping 13 hours straight at night. NO crying it out. It was worth every second, she's so happy and trusting and well-adjusted. Cuddle him while you still can. Good luck!

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Carolyn - posted on 02/09/2010

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Just as an added note. Stimulating colors are: red, bright primary colors. When our children are young someone tells you. Put bright colors so it will stimulate your child's brain. Guess what, in some children too bright too young is too much. Calming colors are: blue dark/light, yellow, green sage/light, the calmer the color the calmer the child. Mobile action is not good for every child. I had a child that had a neurological problem and when we did decorations at day care, he would get over stimulated and one time he went home and beat his rocking horse with a plastic bat. Another time he proceeded to pull his border and baseboards off of his bedroom wall and floors. His mom was beside herself. We had noticed a increased level of anger when he was in the room with mobile activities. We eventually put two and two together. He did need to seek professional help at the early age of 18mo. Was pulled from day care he had aggressive behavior tendencies toward other children and not just ones his own age. Size to him did not make a difference. So some of you may want to reevaluate your child's room environment for over stimulation. This could be a starting point. I do not want to tell anyone what to do. But, there are so many of the same issues wanting answers. We must start with the basics. This was just one of the things we deal with when caring for so many different home situations. We too had to figure them out one at a time. It is my experience that may help some of you. If any specific questions, feel free to ask. If I have encountered something similar, I will be glad to share. Without revealing any names for the protection of my past clients.

Carolyn - posted on 02/09/2010

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If you have tried some of my suggestions in an earlier note. Here are a few more suggestions. Warm bath with floral scents and slow strokes across the forehead and then back of neck, down the back and then each leg. A gentle but, firm hold so the child will be concentrating only on your hand movements. This can be for about a good 15min or as long as your child is feeling comfort with this. 20- 30 min is not too much to calm the nerves of the child. You must be patient when dealing with this. I know that all the frustration is built up over time. You need this relaxing time as much as they do. The child can feed off of your emotions. If you have had a stressful day, for whatever reason the child will feed off of your tenseness. You must take a deep breath and clear whatever worries or stress you may carry, when you go to your child. It has to be about just the child. No one said, it was going to be easy. Children at at very young age feel and get their cue from you. If you are unsettled, they will be also. They can feel your emotions through your touch. How you deal with this makes a huge difference in their reaction to you and what is around them. So deal with whatever you must before taking on the task of doing just for them. They need your full attention. That is all they really are looking for. The time for you to spend with them and just focus on the one thing. Over time you will be able to do multitask, like most of us women are structured for. But, when they are very little, it's how you handle them and take time for them that matters. They eventually learn as they get older, that they can manipulation to their advantage. So what you set as example, of expectations is what they learn. Remember, you are the role of what you teach. Take control of every emotion you show them and teach them how to control their own emotions by example. If you fly off the handle, think just how that interprets to the child. If you need help, like friends, family, extended family do not feel like you are a failure. We all need help from someone at one point in our lives. Depend on those you know have done a good job or that person you inspire to be. Reach out and learn what you could be doing to better the life of your child and your own. It does make a difference in the way you handle yourself and your child. If there is something you need to work on personally. Then please seek to better it for you and your quality of life with your child. The issues that you each may have, may be different. But, from what I am reading you all want the same outcome for your children. Peaceful rest time, it helps the child recharge as well as you. There are different answers to the same question, most of the time. You just need to evaluate your own situation and seek your own answers. I do know this, not doing anything will not solve any of your issues. You must act on them and tackle them one at a time. If you need to ask for professional help then do it. If your pediatrician says, oh they will grow out of it. No, I do not agree. You can change something, one thing at a time till you find what works better for you. Tough love in this case does not apply in my book. And by the way I do not read books on how to handle children. I had to work with it every day hands on. Each child is different, that is why what works for one, does not always work for another. Each home environment is different and should be treated as such. In best interest of children.

Lisa - posted on 11/08/2009

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Do you hold him alot? He could be spoiled to momie. Or have you had him checked for the colic? I am sorry. I know I spoiled my daughters. It is hard not too. That is the only time they are little. I hope things get better for you...

Candice - posted on 11/01/2009

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Hi Brittany my son is 10months old and he still does that...he is now refusing to sleep in his cot and if I put him in there he just stands up and screams...I would love some advice too!

LeAnna - posted on 10/30/2009

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One other thing that I found helped was after about 5 mins of crying to go in and pat tummy or back and talk quietly to my daughter. DONT pick him up though, it just makes it worse in the long run.

Lisa - posted on 10/30/2009

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I know that walking is a good one. Or have someone take you 4 wheeling. I did that and she was to be ready to come in the world. I know it sounds strange. But It worked for me. God BLess !! I wish you a healthy baby and that you do good also. My youngest daughter is going to have her baby in Dec.Or Jan. We are a little nervous, but will also be glad for her to get it get it over. This is her first baby..

Lisa - posted on 10/30/2009

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Hi Brittany,

I watch a 5 month old little boy, and he is teething as well. So, there are days that all he wants is my attention, i think it's reassurance that I am there. I put him in his crib and let him crab, but I also put some soothing music on(the new jewel lullaby CD is great) I also found these teething pacifers, they aren't pacifers, but he may chew on that

for awhile until he falls asleep. At, this age i see my little guy not wanting to fall asleep becasue he thinks he may miss something. So, soft music in his or near crib, I also out him in his bouncy seat that vibrates, and put the beatles on, loves that also. My best friend has something in his crib that has whales and sea life, and has music with soothing water sounds. I would give the doc a call, just to make sure there is nothing else going on. Otherwise you will be on mom burnout. These are the great and fun months of having a baby. When you get him down, does he wake himself up, or is it noise, or something else that is waking him up? If all else fails, if you can car ride to get him to sleep, I have 3 older kids, and that's what I did with my middle son. he was always on the go, loved to fight sleep.Gave him a bottle a full tummy put him in his car seat, and

we went for a 15 minutes car ride ( yes even in my pjs) I hope this helps! Good Luck!

Oh, what about rocking him to sleep either singing or read a book in your lap, while he has a full tummy. Have a good weekend! Try to get some rest!

Lynsey - posted on 10/30/2009

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Also...like the ladies above...white noise is a good idea for a younger baby for sure. My little one had colic and we found that the best way to soothe him was to put him in his swing and leave a hand vacuum running underneath it....IT WORKED! An older friend of my mom's suggested this and I couldn't beleve how quick we were BOTH getting sleep.

Jamie - posted on 10/30/2009

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Crying never felt right to me and I never did that. I always did white noise (fan and music) and rocked them to sleep. If they are fighting it they are usually OVER tired. Try catching him sooner.

Dawn-Marie - posted on 10/30/2009

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Yeah I do with my 20 month old daughter. Shes been that way for a very long time. She naps great during the day but night time is cranky and frustrating on both ends. We tried soft music, quite room, with noise ect. I guess the best advise is seeing what soothes him!

Lynsey - posted on 10/30/2009

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My little guy has a hard time going down for bed too. We stuck with the tough love method. I started letting him take his favorite truck and his bear to bed with him. He cried and cried of course, but sometime you just have to draw the line. On occasion he still has a hard time going down, so I fill his sippy cup with a bit of water and out he goes! Sometimes it all about trial and error--finding what works best for your kiddo.

Leslie - posted on 10/30/2009

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My daughter would do that. She would even roll herself off the couch when she felt herself falling asleep. She would go on sleep strike occasionally. Refusing to sleep at all. I just had to wait it out....she's almost 7 years old now and still she lays in bed and talks to herself and fusses til she falls asleep. Sometimes lavendar can be calming. You could try lavendar baths or spray a bit of lavendar on his blankets. It could help him fall asleep faster. Good luck :)

Joy - posted on 10/30/2009

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My son will be 2 next month, he has always fought sleep. I have always held him/ cuddled with him to get him to go to sleep. He is soooo strong that it takes everything I have sometimes to get him to calm down. As soon as he is motionless, he is asleep. If I don't do this, my child become possessed and is uncontrollable because of lack of sleep. Find something or someway that works for you, stick with it. It is not child abuse to put your child to sleep. Sleep is the most important thing for a child,right along with nutrition. So don't feel bad. And stay cuddling with him till he is sound asleep that will keep him from waking himself up, also tightly swaddling him will keep him snug where he won't want or be able to sling his arms around! Good Luck.

Colleen - posted on 10/30/2009

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My 1 year old has been like that since the day he has been born. I have learned that for bed time I give him a Johnson and Johnson bed time bath and he passes out within the half hour. I also use the lotion on him.

Sarah - posted on 10/29/2009

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Hate to say it sweety but I don't know one parent who doesn't.......... I have a three year old that has been fighting sleep for two years.

Diane - posted on 10/29/2009

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I had this same problem with my first child. But for my second child I bought Tracy Hogg's book, The Baby Whisperer, and have been following the E.A.S.Y method and it works! I just watch closely for his first yawn and then I put him in his basinette and he goes to sleep. I hope it works for you too!

Diane

Sam - posted on 10/29/2009

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My little lad used to be like this! I found making a routine & trying to stick to it as much as possible helped, so he learnt that bed time is for sleep. Still have odd nights where he's a nightmare, but generally he's very good. & yes, sometimes, just leaving them to cry is the only thing to do, even if you end up crying outside his door (which I did!!). Hang in there, it seems to happen in phases. Good luck x

Melissa - posted on 10/29/2009

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My son also did this. My doctor told me not to let him cry until he was 6 months and those 6 months were the longest of my life. We ended up letting him share our bed (we have a California King) or taking turns holding him in a rocker while he slept. The only advice I have is to hang in there, it will get better! If you aren't against it, try co-sleeping for awhile, but not if one of the parents is against it, it will do more harm than good to your family. Also, try watching for signs that he is tired before he gets over-tired like rubbing his eyes or yawning. As SOON as you see a sign, start getting him ready for bed, dimming the lights or turning them off, walking/humming/singing to him, shushing him, bounching him, whatever works for your child. My son was hard, because what he liked seemed to change every night. Listen to your instincts, they are probably right. Try to set up a routine if you can, with him eating/playing/if possible sleeping/napping at the same time every day. This was the final thing that helped with our son. We had to set out a week where we did everything the same every day, very tedious but it worked!

Tennielle - posted on 10/28/2009

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Go to sleeplady.com there is tons of excellent advice concerning children and sleep that works.

Angie - posted on 10/28/2009

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I have three boys and they are all bad sleepers. However, my baby has bee the worst thus far. I found that if I swaddled him it would help some. I would swaddle him very, very tight. I had to go to the fabric store and by a long piece of thin cotten fabric. It works ok.

But he still fights sleep even when swaddled. It seems like more then just a spoiled thing, he really has a hard time falling asleep. I talked to his Dr about it and she suggested Melatonia - it is something that your body supplies naturally, so it is very safe to give to them. I have been doing it for about a week now and it has been working really great. He still wakes at about 3:30-4 and has a hard time falling back to sleep but it works great for naps and bed time. I gave it to him at naps for about 3 days and now he doesnt even need it. We just give it to him at night and it seems to really help.

Kerri - posted on 10/28/2009

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I know exactly what you mean, I thought my daughter fought it but then I met her friend Calista from daycare who is now like 8 months old and WOW. What works for us is rocking them and they usually give up. The motion puts them to sleep. Experiment, try different things, I give my daughter a bottle until she falls asleep and then I take it away (to prevent tooth decay, etc). Some like to have a blanket close by their head, depends how much you trust something by their face with the risk of SIDs etc. Good luck!!

Mel - posted on 10/28/2009

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I have a little boy of exactly the same age who does the same thing. What I do with my son is hold him very firmly with his dummy in his mouth and walk around with him, sometimes patting him on the back in a rhythmic manner until he is asleep. I only put him down when he is asleep in my arms and when I put him down I hold his hand after for a minute so that he knows I am still there and can go back to sleep. After I do this he is fine and will sleep for up to 4 hours. It does however take a while, sometimes even half an hour. Hope this has been helpful, good luck

Michelle - posted on 10/28/2009

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i would ride it out my oldest is 16yrs old and still from time to time does it so does my 6yr old i got really upset leavin them to cry as babies but after a day or 2 they slept sound

Susie - posted on 10/28/2009

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It's ok. This too shall pass. My oldest (now in her 30's) fought the hardest of all my kids. It must be a sign of extreme intelligience as she has a masters and excels at all she does. Hang in there. They will sleep eventually. And, to my knownledge, they will eventually have to fall asleep. After they get older they can sometimes get talked into the old, 'I'll wake you up if something exciting is about to happen....line" but don't bank on it.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2009

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The best suggestion I can come up with is having a solid routine. I know some days you have to go out and about it can muck things up, but trying as hard as possible to stick to a routie. My son is 3mths old and breast fed. I was having trouble getting him to bed, and I didn't want a baby I had to nurse to sleep everytime. I found that if you learn their signals for when the first start getting tired (yawning, rubbing eyes and my son tells said stories) and put them down straight away before they get over tired. I started off putting him in his bassinet and just rocking him and giving him his dummy, letting him cry for a while and continued rocking til he went to sleep - then gradually stopping the rocking earlier each time. And at night time he has a bath with Johnson bedtime bath (is excellent), a feed and goes straight to bed. I can now just put him in his cot and walk away and he puts himself to sleep with no fuss...

Dangelys - posted on 10/28/2009

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My mom said to let him cry. as long as hes cleaned and fed and gas free let him cry he will wear himself out and sleep. eventually he will learn when hes laid down its time for bed and crying and having fits wont help.

Raina - posted on 10/28/2009

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OMG! My 3 month old daughter does EXACTLY the same thing with the shaking of the head and the crazy arms! She will cry to fight sleep and it won't take long before she is out, but then she gets all twitchy like that. She can be completely conked right out in your arms and the second you put her down her hands go all over her face and sometimes she starts shaking her head back and forth. Is it too early for tough love? What age can you let them cry it out??

Heather - posted on 10/28/2009

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That is really hard. My son slept in the bed with us until he was about 8 months old, so it tore me apart when we put him in his own room and had to listen to him cry. This really is the best option. Just don't go back into his room while he is crying. If you know he has a clean diaper, isn't hungry, and is tired, just lay him in his bed and leave the room, NO MATTER WHAT. He will, eventually, get to the point that he will just fall asleep, and it will all be worth it.

Ana - posted on 10/28/2009

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We had to do different things as he got older. We kept him wrapped like a newborn with the thin blanket the doctors give you until he was strong enough to pull his arms out. Then he started rubbing his face with his hands to keep himself awake. We used a bigger blanket that my boyfriends grandma made for him and started wrapping him like a newborn again. At one point we even had to rock him in our arms, because he would just cry and cry for hours, and then lie him in his bed. When he started rolling around we would lie him down and put our hand on him, just so he still feels someone is there and doesn't need to get up. We NEVER let him sleep in our bed. If he is sick we rock him and lie him in his bed. Now we just turn off the lights say night night and lie him down. He likes to stand up once I lie him down and cry so I just pretend to be asleep. He usually cries, but I bought a night light and now he never does unless he's sick. I laughed when I found out that his reason for crying now was because he was afraid of the dark. For nap time, We would put him in his bouncer or swing until he passes out. Now that he's too big for those we just sit him in front of the tv and rock him or lie him down on his stomache and lightly squeeze his arms, back, legs and feet. He loves the massage and it relaxes him enough to sleep.

Mikel - posted on 10/28/2009

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Oh fun and memories. You do have to let them cry and fuss until they fall asleep, sometimes, but you may also try "white noise." For instance, a small fan in the room blocks other noises, and will gives him a "soothing" or neutral sound to focus on. I have used this on my own son, and nephew, and my mother had to do this for me as an infant. I still use a fan to this day. Just point it in the opposite direction, so as to not cool off the room too much. It beats driving your child around until he passes out. Absolute silence is not always helpful. He may fall asleep eventually, but usually any little noise will wake them up. Plus, honestly, that's when us mothers need to clean, and get stuff done (or nap LOL), so it's not really the best thing to have the whole environment quiet. Try the fan or soothing noises (nature DVD's, etc) Good luck!

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Yes. My son cries himself to sleep even when he wants to go to sleep. It's a coping mechanism some adults still use,ie. rocking, Stuffed toys, even sounds(radio shows,t.v. or nature sounds)......

Cheryl - posted on 10/28/2009

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I've heard that cocooning or wrapping is helpful for little ones that throw their arms or legs. Usually they outgrow that by 5 months but I recently heard that they are now making snuggly blankets for older children too. Its like a big hug and helps them feel secure. My children are 18,15, and 11 and my oldest was like that. She would fall asleep in my arms but as soon as we put her down ... bam she start all over. Finally we laid her on her tummy (we used to be able to do that) tuck in her blanket and rub her back, then walk away. The first time she cried for 20 min, then 10 then 5 by the end of the week she and I were both fine.

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My son has done the same thing. He has always fought sleep and yes shook his head back and forth so his eyes wouldn't close. I nursed him to sleep, sung songs to him, and read him stories. I was given a light that projected moving stars and planets on the ceiling, that helped. I also got some black out shades to make the room dark. I tried letting him cry a couple of times, but it is just not my parenting style. He is five now and still rarely admits he is tired, but with no nap anymore by the end of the day he is tired and loves to hear stories and or books in bed. A nightime routing is very helpful even at your little guys age. Warm bath. I would definately develop a routine and stick with it, that will give your little one comfort. And remember, leaving you and this world for to go to sleep can be scarry. Compassion and love is my recommendation.

Iysha - posted on 10/28/2009

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My daughter did that with naps. I got her in a good swaddle, put the tv on static (shhh sounds) and put a soothie in her mouth. Worked every time. she'd knock out in less than a minute. To put her down, Id hold her soothie in place with my thumb and keep my hand on the side of her face for a little while and carefully take it off.

Chin - posted on 10/28/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

Does anyone have a baby that fights his/her sleep??

My son will be 5 months old next week and he fights his sleep EVERY time we try and put him down for a nap or bed. He gets soo cranky and frustrated. I don't know what to do. He can barely keep his eyes open. Then, if I do get him down, he sometimes shakes his head back and forth or throws his arms up to wake himself up. Any suggestions???


 

Erin - posted on 10/28/2009

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my daughters 15 months and does it sometimes she just fights it. if u know its there nap or bed time just go put them in the crib they may cry for a lil bit but my doctor said dont let them cry no longer than 15 minutes, my daughter will cry herself to sleep within 5 minutes sometimes then sleeps forever...lol. try it and see how it goes

Bernadette - posted on 10/28/2009

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This is a though one. I should have listened to advice. my son is now 7 and has a hard time going to sleep because "i couldn't listen to him cry" now i have a 7 year old who dosn't sleep well and trying to break the habit at 7 is much harder than at 5 months, in hind sight i should have had tougher love. hope this helps you get through this time and know in the long run you'll be further ahead for it.

Kiley - posted on 10/28/2009

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my son will fight sleep during the day.. and when he does boy is he cranky! and when he does finally go to sleep he only takes cat naps!!! but at night when he starts to fight sleep i just sing to him.. he doesnt like to be cradled so i just lay himdown and he eventually falls asleep... and he sleeps all night long!!

Kristie - posted on 10/28/2009

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why would a baby want to sleep when theres soooo much more fascinating things going on outside of their crib? my daughter did the same thing and i just had to let her cry it out...now she goes down with little to no fuss...they learn if you pick them back up when they cry that all they have to do is keep crying and eventually mommy will get them



its really hard at first, especially because as moms we want to fix whatevers wrong but this is one thing he has to work out on his own! :)

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OMG! My son is the exact same age as yours and is doing the exact same thing. I am so sick of people telling me to j/let him "cry it out". That does nothing but stress him and me out. I do NOT believe in the "cry it out" method. What i have been doing is rocking him till he barely falls asleep..I lay him down in his crib and i hold his arms down at his sides (very lightly). he fights me a lil bit but eventually gives in and 90% of the time will fall back asleep. the other 10% of the time there is usually a cause for why he is fighting his sleep...ie:gas, sour belly, growing pains...ect...

I still have the days when i get extreemly frustrated with him but i j/pick up the phone and call a friend to calm down..once i calm down he does too and is usually out cold and able to be put down w/o a fuss. I really hope this helps..good luck!

Shayna - posted on 10/28/2009

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My daughter is about three and a half months, and does this as well. She falls asleep places where she can't stay alone, like on the couch or in her swing, and wakes when I try to move her to her crib. I've learned though, that the headshaking and arm throwing is a prelude to waking, and if you can stop them at that stage all should be well. Give your son a soother, or if he doesn't take them, wash your hands thoroughly and let him chew on your finger. Chances are he will latch on, fall asleep, and within a couple of minutes you can extract said soother if he hasn't already dropped it. I know that works about 80% of the time with my daughter. Also having a routine- my daughter has a bath at 9.00, cuddles till about 9.30 in her towel, then pyjamas on and I nurse her from about 9.45-10.30 at which time she usually passes out. Then a quick burp, and into bed, and if she fusses I use the finger trick- Emma being adamantly against soothers. But whatever you do, good luck.

Rita - posted on 10/28/2009

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My son is 4 1/2 months old and he's practically the same way though not all the time. I wish i could get him to sleep more comfortably, so i'm just patient at this time.

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2009

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Hiya, I have a son just a little younger, sounds very similar... !



I haven't completely won the sleep fight yet but i do find swaddling him helps him sleep longer, i suppose he feels content like in the womb they say but also he cant thrash his arms as that often wakes him too. And his crib slightly raised (with a blanket tucked under the mattress) helps too, (sorry i should say my health visitor suggested this and it makesa big difference ) worth a try? xxx



I've just read the replies about crying it out and deep down wish i could do it, but have never been able to, I have a 2 1/2 year old little girl and was never able to leave her crying but she did sleep a bit better... boys eh :)

Jessica - posted on 10/28/2009

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try to move the nap/bedtimes a little sooner, have you ever been so tired that it actually hurts... the idea being that you are fighting when he is already tired, maybe if you try when he is more calm, you will have a better chance.

Nicole - posted on 10/28/2009

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You are taking a page right out of my book. My three month old cries EVERYTIME I put him down for his nap even though he is dog tired. I am at my wits end, and have been letting him cry it out, but it is driving me crazy because I feel like the most awful mother in the world. I could sooth my two girls, and get them to go to sleep but he is completely different. The crying it out takes less time the more I do it but, having him cry for twenty minutes for a half hour nap seems really mean! It is slowly getting better, but not fast enough for me. Unfortunately the ONLY thing that works for him is crying it out. Sorry.

Lauren - posted on 10/28/2009

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Yes every night...and she's 3 months. I have tried the whole gambit and pediatriacian just said let her cry it out and self soothe..we've been doing that and she's crying for an hour and then conking out.

Jenny - posted on 10/28/2009

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YES! My son has always had a problem with sleeping since birth! He is almost a year old, and it has been a struggle to get him to take naps or sleep through the night. He has always been very active, and when he would start to fall asleep, he always would have some part of his body moving weather it was a foot bouncing or arms waving. There are time when he was exhausted but kept fighting sleep, that I would have to hold his arms and legs still, then he would fall asleep. I did have to start letting him cry when it was nap time. I have 2 daughters that never were like this. They were very predictable and were easily on a schedual at a very young age. Things are better now, but he still fights sleep. His dad and I have always thought that he just didn't want to sleep because maybe he thought he would miss out on something...that and the fact that he is just a very active boy. I think every child is different, some kids just need less sleep than others. I agree with the other mothers that letting him cry a bit does help. Just check in on him every 15 or 20 minutes, let him know your still there but your not going to rescue him...he will get tired and eventually fall asleep. Also have you tried playing calming music when its nap time? Music helped my daughters sleep when they were little. Hope this helps!

Jenny - posted on 10/28/2009

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Ya I do have a son that is now 18 months and he has done just the exact same thing as your son since birth Idk why he does it I have three other kids all girls and none of them ever faught sleep like he does I chalked it up to the fact that he was a boy.

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