Does anyone have a child who has oppositional defiant disorder?

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Just wondering if there is anyone that has a child with odd and how do you deal with the angry outbursts and them not listening to what you have asked them to do

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Michelle - posted on 02/23/2011

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My son was diagnosed with it when he was 4, it can be very difficult but there are different methods of dealing with it. Like Christines son mine also has a hard time with change we stick to a rigid schedule which allows him to know exactly what is going to happen each day, if we have to deviate from his schedule we discuss it as soon as we can so that he is not blind sided by a change. Because of many other issues in our household and the fact that he has to go back and forth between our house and his dads we chose to medicate and that has worked miracles for us. My son is now 10 and takes things in stride we still have some issues with homework but for the most part he is no different then any other 10 year old these days.biggest thing to remember with these children is there can be no gray area if you want them to do something tell them to do it don't ask as asking gives them a choice.

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Christine - posted on 02/23/2011

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More... a reward system played a major role. My son loves the computer and computer games, every tiime he has a success he was giving a coin which could be traded in for snacks or computer time, the school offered the same rewards. Contsant praise when there is good behavior is a must to. I found two books helpful in understanding my child and most importantly my role 1. Your Defiant Child: Eight Steps to Better Behavior and
2. 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 (Advice on Parenting) these books kept me on track and helped me understand.

Christine - posted on 02/23/2011

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My son is 5 and was diagnosed 2 years ago. It is rough because it is so misunderstood. My son has difficulty with transitions, crowds and lots of noise. His behavior can range from obstinate to full blown out temper tantrums, from which has has sever difficulty regaining composure. We have been working with a wonderful school system to prepare him for kindergarten for 2 years now. He has adapted to riding a bus and entering the school on his own but this was no small feat. His tantrums were horrible at the beginning, we slowly eased him into each situation with strict but manageable guidelines (he could have a fit but had to be placed into a room away from friends) sometimes it would take nearly an hour for him to calm down, but he has finally managed to express his frustration with words. He yells a lot but he isnt kicking spitting and throwing things. The transition to kindergarten for next year is going to be a 7 month process stemming from visits to the school, pictures, orientation and discussions. It is hard and your not alone, hange in there, its a lot of repetitive behavioral and structure but it will work out over time, if my son slow progression shows anything you just have to be diligent.

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Hes not completely out of control he has his good and bad days have found alot of information on net by looking it up

Carly - posted on 07/22/2010

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How old is your child?? Dont most little kids say "no" and have outbursts because they cannot express themselves with words like they would like to ?
I have a 4yrold daughter who is an absolute horror at the moment, every small request she is given ie please put on your socks or close the door or hop into your carseat is met with a huge breakdown , tears and even her telling me I must hate her because I refuse to do these things for her .
How do you get diagnosed with a condition like this when most kids I know behave this way ?? Your child must be completly out of control and if this is the case I feel for you deeply . I have not intended any of these to come across as mean or rude I am just curious .....

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