Does anyone have a pregnant teen daughter with a psyco boyfriend?

Stephanie - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 16 and pregnant. Her boyfriend is totally psyco and just is not getting it. She is grounded from him but is still sneaking around to see him. It is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do? HELP!

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Sharon - posted on 10/06/2009

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Get those texts printed out. There are programs online or you can ask your cell provider to do it. They'll be proof later of his mental instability, because I can promise you its going to come to that. Start letting your answering service take their messages & threats. THAT will be legal evidence because they KNOW they're being recorded. You can buy a machine from radio shack that records stuff off your phone/answering machine/service. Don't leave it on your answering machine either - it can be accidentally erased or purposely by your daughter to "protect" the moron.



DO NOT half ass this. People like him escalate. They don't back down. When they are quiet they are just looking for another way to jerk your chain or a way to worm their way in or they've already found a way and you haven't realised it.

Stephanie - posted on 10/06/2009

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I am not ready to let him have anytime with her yet. He has said to many things to us as parents. He is only 16 himself and his parents are right there to back him up in this whole decision. They are totally ok with him getting my daughter pregnant. When we put him on restricition he sent my husband 192 text msgs in 8 hours. The msgs he sent were just insane about how he was addicted to her voice and her eyes. Blah! Blah! I have friends that are cops and have been for a long time. And they read the msgs and told me that we needed to keep her away. He sounds like cases that they have had and the girls ends up dead. He said in one of the msgs that he has an anger issue and he has never hit her but it is really hard not to. His parents dont get it either.

Linda - posted on 10/01/2009

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Please explain what it is he does or has done to be given the title of psyco, because I too had a daughter who had a boyfriend who really was psyco.

Laura - posted on 10/01/2009

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well i was a 16 year old girl who was pregnant with a boyfriend who my family did not care for.. we were grounded and could not see each other.. that only made us want each other more.. i understand you might not like him but if you keep them apart she will resent you and may leave off with him when she is older. i dont mean to hurt you im just trying to save our relationship with your daughter and grandchild. my mom and i got in to a huge fight over this same thing.. i left. that was the bigest mistake my mom and i ever made. we regret it to this day. i moved in with my grandparents and they would not let me see her or let her see my child. it was very hard. well then i left my grandparents house b/c they would not let my boyfriend see me or the baby. which has left damaging emotional stress between my daughter and him. i resent my grandparents very much b/c of what they did to me and my boyfriend. i moved out and moved in with my boyfriend and his parents. we now have our own home and have been together for 7years now and married for 4years now. we have 4 kids and have proved every body wrong. my mom and i are best friends now i call her everyday. but now my husband will not let our kids see my grandparents b/c of what they did. i dont want to see that for your family, and they may not end up together in the end but if they do you dont want any hard feelings later. i hope this helps. i wish you and you daughter the best of luck.

Brandy - posted on 10/01/2009

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I think the father of the baby needs to be involved especially if he is actually trying to be. Obviously, you are unhappy with the situation, but right now I think you need to be supportive and try to come around to the situation yourself so that they can too. You also need to understand that that boy is going through alot right now and teenage boys aren't very good at finding a good outlet for their confusions. Of course he is going to get angry with you if you are trying to take your daughter, the mother of his child, away from him because now it's not only her, it's his baby you are taking away too. They need eachother right now as much as that bothers you, it's still true. Don't worry, they will figure it out and when they do, you will be happy that you let them do so.

Vicki - posted on 10/01/2009

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I had myson when i was in hgh school and he dad was a ASS but at the time he was the love of my life and no one could tell me that he was not.. six week after my son was born.. Ifound out just what a ass he is and still is He is ten years older then I me e does nohing for branden or the other 2 kids that he has... But it was somting that i had to findot for my self the best that my mom did for me was let find out she told that she was not goin to take care of the babie that it was all on me that was the best thing that she did I went back to school and work and now I have a goo job and two kids so I would say let her find out for her self and she willl and when she comes to and say he wants nothing to do with me dont say I told you so just be there for her

Jeni - posted on 10/01/2009

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I was a young teenage mother. The father of the child was 10yrs. older , he was also very abusive. My family tried everything to get me away from him. It took me about 6 months after having baby to leave him, and I will always credit my mother(she does not remeber) when she told me she'd disown me and baby. Tough love, but it worked for me.

Aliska - posted on 10/01/2009

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Even though the boyfriend is no good, maybe you should back off from banning her from seeing him etc. She needs to work out for herself that he's no good. By banning him he can become more attractive, also she may not want to 'loose face' in front of you cos a lot of teens don't want to admit that sometimes their parents can be right. Make sure she knows she's loved and supported no matter what, set ground rules as to when she can/can't see the boyfriend and bite your tongue when you want to put him down so she has the space to come to her own conclusions about him. Good luck, it can't be easy, she's your baby after all.

Meredith - posted on 10/01/2009

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im a teen mum, (i wasnt disrespectful at home) but i was out doing all this stuff that i know my parents would not have approved of. when i got pregnant i slowly grew up. you have to,your going to take on the responsibility of another being thatll be solely dependent on you. hopefully as the realization hits her she becomes more responsible. just try and be there for her as well as a parent.. sit her down and have a deep long chat about everything.. not getting angry (upset can sometimes work ;) ) lol because i know when i was pregnant mum was my biggest support and i respected her so much more.

good luck, hope things work out for your, hers and the new babys sake.

Sharon - posted on 10/01/2009

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oh as for the daughter - she needed a whoopin a long time ago. You can't fix it now. But taking away a cell phone, transportation, and access to any cash ought to keep her nailed to the house.

Sharon - posted on 10/01/2009

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Woman - statutory rape charges will get him gone.



Criminal trespass charges for him coming to your home.

Susan - posted on 10/01/2009

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We just went through something similiar with my niece and by banning the boyfriend she is proably feeling like you don't understand what she is going through and how she feels. I feel bad for you being stuck in this situation. I was a teen mom and eventually if the boyfriend is a teenager as well he will get sick of the situation and bolt. Have faith that things will work out and remember to breath.

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