Does anyone have an idea for talking my 5-year-old son back into believing in Santa Claus, after hearing that there isn't one in the stupid movie
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Cathie - posted on 02/06/2009
Hey Lile, sometime it really stinks the things we parents have to deal with.....after six kids i found that the less of an issue i make of something the less my kids do..... But please be very careful...my first 5 kids spoiled me and made it easy, they just decided one day when they were older that there was no Santa. I think they pretended to believe longer for me...the little angels. My last little guy (10) though was a different ball of wax...when he finely figured out that there really was no Santa he was in his words "very disappointed with me for lying to him". What he is referring to is the last couple of years he had been asking me if there really was a Santa. I decided when i had children i would never lie to them and up until the Santa issue i never had (by the way if they don't ask it is not lying.....it's just .....uummm story telling...lol). Anway my other kids never asked they just believed until they were ready not to and then they didn't (7-9 is the norm). When Kye was about seven he started to questions and i (trying to hang on to my babies childhood as long as possible keep avoiding the question with things like the "if you don't believe, you don't receive". Finally when he ask me right out last year, i went as close to lying as i was willing to go and said i believed and all the stuff about giving and such (please don't misunderstand, not underplaying the importance, just trying to get to the point). Sorry to everyone who may disagree but i made a mistake, when he ask a direct question it was my duty as a parent to tell him the truth and i failed him. I am lucky enough to have a son who is true to his duty as my son and has forgiven me......on the upside it is a mistake i will never make again. My son taught me that day that you can't have two sets of values and kids really do appreciate honesty from their parent above all else. Really, if they can't count on us to tell them the truth were are they going to get it from.....god forbid.....the school yard YICKS!!!!!!!!!!
Michelle - posted on 02/06/2009
I tell my children the same heartwarming story my parents told me when friends at school first told me their was no real Santa. They said...Santa is real, the men in the red suits you see are not the real Santa - they are his helpers - because unlike God, he can not be everywhere all of the time. He lives in your homeland of Ireland and is now very old, but he continues the work he began to make children around the world happy. He started delivering toys to the poor kids in his local village when he was a young man and his business grew into what we know it today - where he is able to touch the lives of children all around the world. It became a tradition each year for my dad to embellish on this story...and as I am part Dutch-Irish...it hit home for me. But as I got older, I did get curious and of course researched this story my dad told me every year. And to my suprise - the story he told is actually one of the historical projections of where Santa came from - who knew my daddy was so smart.
Sue - posted on 02/06/2009
get him to watch the polar express .... anyone will believe after watching that one. You have some awesome answers already but we also tell our daughter that sometimes Santa is sooooo overwhelmed with all the good girls and boys that he needs help so he gets one or two daddies to help him.
Patricia has our theory though ... he is the spirit of giving .... purely giving and not expecting anything in return.
Jana - posted on 02/06/2009
We have a liitle "elf" doll that comes out in mid-Nov that keeps an eye on things to report back to Santa www.elfontheshelf.com My daughter only 17 months so I don't have to do this yet, but my sister-in-law has the elf make visits throughout the year to keep her children believing and behaving. Most of the time he just brings a note from Santa about something they did, or sometimes he brings a small toy when the kids have been really good. Plus I love the story (not the movie) Polar Express. Although I would read it first before reading it to your son just incase. Good luck and I hope you can having him believing a little longer.
Jade - posted on 02/06/2009
Too bad it's not that season right now to ensure this working.....every year I do little things in order to make believe Santa did them...such as presents wrapped beautifully and super extravagantly, making sure that there is one for me as well, and acting like it's a complete surprise....I track fireplace ash thru the house....i make Santa type noises at night in case he might hear them. I know it seems a little deceitful, but it's also fun. One year Santa left in a big hurry and had woken every one up in the house with all his racket...and when he left he lost his hat, and my son still wears it every year. He is 9 yrs old and still believes. I tell him that all the mall Santa's are helpers, because Santa really can't be everywhere at once, but that he also is a matter of just believing, and that when you stop believing, even though PEOPLE might get you presents, you will always miss out on the spirit of Christmas.
It works for him!
User - posted on 02/06/2009
Easy Santa does exist as he is the spirit of giving and that is the value that you are teaching him. Everyone must learn that giving without expecting to receive is the best thing in the world and that is what Santa is all about.....and that is why some people don`t believe in him as they don`t want to share in the love of giving....take care
Lile - posted on 02/06/2009
Looks like it cut off the rest of my message. I didn't want to let my son watch "Gremlins" because it's kind of scary (which I did remember), but my husband didn't think it would be that big of a deal. I did not remember this horrible part where the girl says she hates Christmas because her dad died by getting stuck in the chimney in a Santa suit and then says, "and that's how I found out there was no Santa Claus!" I'm devastated. He's only 5--way too young in my opinion to not believe in Santa anymore. The only good thing might be that he was so sleepy while watching it that maybe he didn't even pay much attention to it. I hope.
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