Lauren - posted on 09/17/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am the mother to a 6 year old daughter. Her dad and I were never married and upon our break-up we never got court ordered visitation established, partly because he moved to 3 states away and only comes to town 2 times per year if that much. Recently he calls 1 day prior to coming to town and announces that he'll arrive the following day and in addition demanded that I make our child available to spend the weekend with him. I didn't allow this to happen because I on this particular weekend she was being rewarded for things she had been working on and working for. The other reason I didn't let her go is because I want there to be boundaries and I want those boundaries to be respected. I don't want him to feel that he doesn't owe me the courtesy of at least 2 weeks notice when he is going to take out child. I want them to be able to maintain their relationship but, I am torn because I still want him to know that even though I am the custodial parent and thus I have her the majority of the time, this doesn't give him a pass to just breeze in and out of her life as he pleases, and while doing so our world has to literally stop because of it.
After I refused to give in to him over the weekend he began threatening to take me to court for court ordered visitation. This makes me nervous because I am scared of my daughter going to another state without me. I am wondering if anyone knows how court ordered visitation works when it is working between 2 different states?