Does BD or BM have custody!?

Megan - posted on 06/22/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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I know there are several people Mama's out here that do and don't have custody wasn't sure which !!! I m going through a cust battle and it sucks! He only cares about child support not children s best interest!

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Christina - posted on 06/22/2011

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I willingly share 50/50 physical and legal custody of my oldest son with his dad and stepmom. It is important for him to see us equally, and we get along great.
I have sole legal and physical custody of my younger three. Their dad is only allowed supervised visitations.
We have my stepson 50/50 but have to pay child support.

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No clue. My ex moved as far away as he could get and still be in the same state (but different island), so joint custody wouldn't work for us (only reason he didn't get it, in fact, is his location).

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I have full physical and full legal custody. That part wasn't much of a battle. The day I went for temporary custody... he didn't come to court and when he asked for full custody... was the court date after he had been almost completely nonexistent in their lives for over a year. That was the day I got full custody. We've had visitation battles since (no more though... I hope), but custody won't be a battle cuz he's too uninvolved..... but still 'wants' custody.

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Constance - posted on 06/28/2011

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I had my whole post done and thena kitten runs across the key board and gone.
Basically what I was saying if you go in without being over the top then in the end you should come out on top. That is what i did with my brother. I have hd custody now on the second time and it was easy because he just ended up showing his ass in the long run. The best part was the increase of child support originally he hd to pay $150 per month an he never help wth anything else. Now I get $3000 a month. Patience is the key to a custody battle. If you ae willing to meet closer to the middle than he is then a judge will look at that because you ae showing you want only what is best for you childen.

Jodi - posted on 06/28/2011

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"sounds like you have it all figured out! good for you! "



Diane, I guess this has been our life for the last 9 years. I have been separated from my ex for almost 12 years, and my husband separated from his for about 11 years, so if we didn't have it figured out by now, we probably need a good smack in the head, because there ARE children involved, and imagine how it would be affecting them after that much time if we didn't figure something out that worked!!!

Ashlee - posted on 06/28/2011

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My DH has primary custody of my 2 y/o stepson, with bio mom having supervised visitation once a week. When they originally split up they shared 50/50 joint custody. But due to many poor decisions on her part, he will be seeking sole legal and physical custody soon. And you are right, custody battles do suck... They are very stressful and expensive. But its worth every bit knowing my stepson is here with us, safe, loved, and well taken care of!

Jodi - posted on 06/22/2011

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BM has primary custody of my step-son - we have visitation every other weekend and half school holidays. They live a couple of hours away, so that's why we don't see him more often. We are actually okay with that arrangement. We don't see the point in battling it out. We pay the child support, as we should.



I have primary custody of my son because his dad really was never interested in more than every other weekend. Now his dad has moved away, and although we have agreed to half school holidays only, and he has to pay for the flights, he has made no effort to make any arrangements for flights for my son to visit, so *shrug*. Not much I can do. He SHOULD pay child support, sometimes he does sometimes he doesn't. He has a huge debt. I don't use it, however, as a means by which to argue the custody issue. To me the money is a separate thing.



Custody of my step-daughter is a non-issue now. She is 19 :) We also don't pay child-support. We just help her out directly, given she is still at University.

Kyleigh - posted on 06/22/2011

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DH has custody BM partying was way more important and finding some guy was more important also. quotes my dh.

Megan - posted on 06/22/2011

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yes it sucks custody battles its stressful on parents but most importantly the children!

Megan - posted on 06/22/2011

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he is never going to be around the kids does that help or not count in court? SM would have to be around them all the time.

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