Does hubby's habits annoy you?

Shannintipton - posted on 06/09/2011 ( 166 moms have responded )

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What is the most annoying thing your hubby does? Mine is loud. Walks into the house loud, talks loud, shuts doors loud, walks down the starts loud, burps loud. He does everything loud. What about yours? Thank you in advance.

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Amanda - posted on 06/09/2011

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My is loud, obnoxtious, nags, moans and is just a pain in the arse. Thankfully he's not like that all the time but when he is he annoys the life out of me

Sally - posted on 06/22/2011

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even thogh my husband has his faults i am truly happy that i have him in my life,just 3 years ago i came very close to losing him,so now his faults dont seem that trivial to me anymore

Amanda - posted on 06/17/2011

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Chews loud, makes messes everywhere, leaves his dirty socks on the floor, gets little hairs all over the bathroom sink when he shaves and doesn't clean it, uses so many dishes and never puts them in the sink, never takes the trash out without me having to remind him, and always forgets when I tell him things!! Ohh I could go on and on haha. He drives me crazy but I love him to death :)

Brooklyn - posted on 06/14/2011

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You guys have no idea what your comments have really done for me. I just joined today because I felt very overwhelmed and needed to vent and talk to other moms maybe dealing with the same issues I am dealing with and reading these posts has me crying and laughing at the same time. Thank God I am not the only one dealing with this. I love love love my husband but he's a freaking lazy pig! I am a stay at home mom and I think he believes since he brings home the bacon I have to do all the cleaning and cooking. I literally pick up after him and my two young boys every day. I can clean the kitchen and he will dirty a dish or even a cup and leave it there. His clothes are dropped by the side of our bed all the time. I believe my husband has cleaned the bathroom maybe twice since we moved into our house 3 years ago. I have been asking him to help me clean the garage for two years. Me and my mom ended up cleaning the garage. I have been so pissed off but now I really feel alot better. Thank you ladies. Really thankyou.

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Sally - posted on 08/10/2011

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how about this... bad timing, in oreder to do something i want without anyone ( my husband ) bothering me i have to do it when thereis noone up

ADA - posted on 07/20/2011

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worst of all, he gives me no allowance to use in taking care of myself, yet he calls his mum to complain about everything,

ADA - posted on 07/20/2011

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Amanda speak no more, i get what u are saying....cos i have one like that at home. I thought women are the once supposed to do the nagging, but mine nags, backbite, complains about everything his eyes sees, and yet he does nothing in the house, from computer to work....he reminds me all the time that i am a house wife so therefore i am entitled to doing everything....guess u dont want to hear more...

Kimberly - posted on 07/19/2011

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Overall I am lucky... but he has a MAJOR habit of asking me to do something just as I am walking out the door... or picking something up while I am out. We both work out of the house... but I am the one on the road during the week.
I am planning on getting even but asking him to do something that takes 5 - 10 mins... just before he needs to leave for Golf League... maybe after a couple of weeks he might get the POINT. LOL

Jenny - posted on 07/19/2011

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What is the most annoying thing your hubby does? Mine is so annoying when were eating dinner he chews loud,he says things to annoy me he hogs the remote and doesn't let go of it he acts like he's my dad not my husband he's very sweet but sometimes i just wanna strangle him lol just saying,he also calls me by my real name when i don't like my real name and he knows it annoys me. oh did i mention he pees on the toilet bowl also he nags and complain all the time

Jenny - posted on 07/19/2011

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What is the most annoying thing your hubby does? Mine is so annoying when were eating dinner he chews loud,he says things to annoy me he hogs the remote and doesn't let go of it he acts like he's my dad not my husband he's very sweet but sometimes i just wanna strangle him lol just saying,he also calls me by my real name when i don't like my real name and he knows it annoys me.

User - posted on 07/16/2011

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Yeh!
Can't live with them!
or
Can't live without them!

Which of the 2 is for you

Anne - posted on 07/14/2011

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Ugh! I need to see if there is enough space here for this. LOL Out of all the things he does right, he does his fair share of things that irritate the living crap out of me. Let me begin with his grammar! It is ATROCIOUS! He says "ain't" constantly. I mean really...does he even care that he sounds uneducated? He has trouble pronouncing any big words. He MASSACRED our wedding vows! Instead of saying "donuts", he says DONITS. Grrrrrrrrrrrrr. Some of the other things that drive me nuts, he eats on the sofa which I don't like. He sets soda cans on the floor next to the sofa then forgets they are there, trips on them and slips on the drink on the wood floor (this happens EVERY DAY). He picks his teeth! Last but not least, he feels it is okay to wear the same socks two days in a row. My Mom tells me that he is a wonderful person and if these are the ONLY things he does that bother me I should be happy that I have a wonderful, loving and caring husband. However, sometimes he really drives me nuts!

1nitalove - posted on 07/13/2011

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Hi! Im new here but Its funny you ask this question because right before I started this site, I was furious at my hubby's bad habits. The most annoying thing my hubby do is that he chews and smacks his lips when he eats!!! IT drives me totally insane!! It is like he had no home training even though I KNOW his mother taught him manners. We all just look at him at dinner and shake our heads. TOTALLY annoying.

Sally - posted on 06/22/2011

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mine talks to loud on his cell & brings his bad days home with him,doesn't clean the sink after he shaves & is always on our cases about leaving lights on when we leave a room but then does it himself

Mildred - posted on 06/18/2011

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not maintaining the lavatory tidy from toothbrushing and not making sure he leaves the toilet at its cleanest before he used it..

Mrs. - posted on 06/17/2011

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Despite being anally neat, my fiance habitually forgets to flush the toilet after his morning or nightly shit. Sometimes, it will sit there for quite some time and I'll open it hours later to find something that was extremely unpleasant now "cooked" under the lid.

That's a big one.

That and getting sleepy whenever something serious needs talking about.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/17/2011

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I was beginning to think they were going to call off Father's Day. Wow ladies, what we go threw for our man. I tell ya......

Stifler's - posted on 06/16/2011

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Oh Lord yes we have a dishwasher. HE wanted the dishwasher. He still leaves his plates and cups in the sink instead of putting them in there. It's seriously annoying.

Tyisha - posted on 06/16/2011

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SOOOOOOO GLAD I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE !!!!!! lemme tell u about mines....this man/child cooks or reheats what I cook then leaves it out all night instead of think well "well my wife cooked so let me put the food up" but noooooooo he'll let it spoil so then food is unsafe and wasted smh smh urrrrrrrgh like as if gas ain't high enough and as if I"m not tired from working, mothering, driving , working out EVERYTHING !! sometimes I wonder did God take their good sense and gave it to us when he took the rib and made Eve lol !!! I'm laughing but i really wanna cry lol , but when we get mad at them for being messy, lazy and inconsiderate then we are just being nag hags and we should chill out ???? I'M TIRED AND YOU ARE WATCHING SPORTS CENTER AND I HAVE TO COOK < CLEAN UP AFTER YOU AND THE BABY AND STILL GOTTA TRY TO KEEP MYSELF UP WOW ! and we fell in love with these men and said I DO to slavery...go figure

Thea - posted on 06/16/2011

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Quick remedy for biting nails...my son used to do that...then we all collect our nails when we cut it and put it in a little box...On his birthday we presented him with this nicely decorated box filled with nail clippings....he nearly puked....but we insisted that loves nails so much...now he can pick and chew...different sizes...different tastes....what can I say....he stopped there and then...(make sure you put in some nasty and dirty ones)

Christy - posted on 06/16/2011

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I hope not (to the unhappy fathers on Father's Day). I know that even tho my husband's messiness drives me nuts, he is an awesome dad. Even tho he works so much, he is never too tired for our kids - or for me, just too tired to clean up after himself! He is fun and funny, and our kids really like him and love him. We are very blessed.

Shannintipton - posted on 06/16/2011

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It sounds like there are going to be a lot of unhappy fathers out there for father's day. LOL

Christy - posted on 06/16/2011

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Angela, I totally understand. I know that it seems like they do it intentionally! How could it not be? I don't really know how mad you are, but I have been so mad that I scared myself. I mean, how could I possibly be this upset over a mess? But I really thought about it and what I came up with is that I felt like he was disrespectful and thoughtless, like he didn't appreciate my hard work. Everyone who gets paid knows that they are appreciated. But, it felt like to me, that my family took me for granted - they thought that there was a little fairy that came through the house and cleaned it, stocked the groceries, and did their laundry. And if I was too tired and let things go, it was like I was a bad wife and mother. Once I realized why I was so upset (and believe me, I was upset) I talked to my husband and it's amazing, but he had no idea. I knew he loved me, so why was he tormenting me? It turns out that it was not intentional and talking about it has really helped us to understand each other. My husband works a lot of hours, too, and he's just exhausted. He doesn't even think about the mess he makes, he doesn't even notice that I've cleaned anything. But we have come to an agreement. He will try to be more appreciative of what I do to keep our home nice and I will be more understanding and appreciative of how hard he works and how tired he is. I don't know if it helps - I know that sometimes I don't want advice, I just need to vent. So, I'm sorry if you were just venting, I don't mean to make it worse.

Angela - posted on 06/16/2011

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soooo......i spent quite a bit of time cleaning the kitchen last night before bed. hubs works 5pm-5am (i've never claimed he won't work.....as long as he's getting paid for it). woke up this morning to the enticing smells of breakfast wafting down the hallway......and i immediately knew MY day was going to start off with getting up and going directly BACK into the damn kitchen to re-clean his fricking mess!!!! all the dishes and pans in the sink (surprised they made it that far, actually), unrinsed, naturally. stove smeared with grease. empty bags on the crumb strewn counters........I. WAS. PISSED!! and my lovely hubby sat on the couch pretending to sleep through all my grumbling and slamming of dishes......even though he is woken up by my mere thoughts of saying something. and even though he only very rarely and very delicately snores he added a good old loud snorting snore for good measure.
he does this to me all the time. it's like he can't stand for things to be clean. as soon as i get done cleaning something he's dirtying it up somehow. don't even get me started on trying to keep my car clean!! or the bedroom. or bathroom. or carport. but we have a spare room that was a mess of items needing to be taken to storage.......a room no one ever goes in and no one ever sees, so it wasn't pressing. i thought he was going to have a nervous breakdown over getting that room cleaned up. i told him just pile it all up on the carport where everyone would be sure to be able to see it like he does with all the useless crap he drags home. and his tools. and his fishing poles. and so on and so forth.
it's a good thing i love him so much and realize, however miniscule they may be, i surely must have a tiny fault or two myself. :D ;)

Stifler's - posted on 06/16/2011

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My mum got lucky too. My dad is excellent around the house but maybe they have things that we don't see to whinge about too hahaha

Kristian - posted on 06/16/2011

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My husband is crazy competitive. He is on the sideline, yelling at our poor 7 yo daughter while she is playing soccer. Then afterward, he critiques her every move during the game. Lots of fights over this! He didn't seem this way when we were dating, or got married!

Christy - posted on 06/16/2011

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What I don't get is, yes, we all married the same man, but how is it that my mom got so lucky and married the one that isn't the same? My dad (and my brother) always clean up after themselves and do housework. My mom refuses to iron, so my dad has always done it, my dad is very organized and clean and he does it himself! I know that most girls look for a man that reminds them of their father, but I am like my dad, so I guess I looked for one that was the opposite? And, yes, I did know that my husband was different than I was when I married him, I could tell by his apartment and car (what a mess!). But I think that he has gotten worse and also that it bothers me more after 18 years. I didn't really think that I would change him, I honestly didn't really think too much about it. That was stupid, but I love him and even if I would have thought about it, it wouldn't have stopped me from marrying him.

Kerry - posted on 06/16/2011

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I knew who my husband was when I married him ten years ago. But I did the stupid thing and thought his bad habits would change. Now we have three children, I have four. He is a pig. Burps, farts, never says excuse me, lets them watch inapropriate movies (for there age), never cleans up after himself never helps around the house, and is selfish about the family money. AAAAAARRRGGGG!! Thanks for letting me vent. : )

Constance - posted on 06/16/2011

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Hey ladies I think we have all realized one very important thing about us as a group. We may not always agree on different topics but man we all married the same man what are the odds of that. We all feel so alone with a husband that drives crazier than any of kids. We come on this thread and walla we all bond because we realize we are all a little crazy. LOL

Diane - posted on 06/16/2011

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Oh My Gosh, Cory B. I have your husband's TWIN!!
He leaves stuff everywhere (I've also tossed stuff out the door), fills every nook and cranny with junk/stuff, doesn't pick things up, doesn't clean up after himself, lives out of laundry baskets (until I need them and dump them on his side of the bed - which usually stays there until next week), starts multiple tasks and rarely finishes them, makes promises he doesn't keep, snores beyond insanity, and keeps my kids up past their bedtime..........I could go on. Good Luck with your own sanity!

Sonya - posted on 06/16/2011

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He drags his feet across the carpet with his shoes on. The first few steps he takes, he is dragging his feet. Our carpet is light gray. UGH! Doesn't bother me so much when he has on socks.

Krista - posted on 06/16/2011

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Ohh ya i forgot also he has no respect he yells at our older one keep your room clean pick up after yourself bla blah lah yet i dnt even no wat laundry is clean or dirty im not his maid i do laundry fold it and set it on the bed hinting to put it away ohh no it goes to the floor when he goes to bed so morning i pick it up put it back on the bed its a neverending cycle i swear i wash stuff five times when it hadnt even been worn once he makes food leaves crumbs and crap everywhere he will feed the baby take her out of her highchair and not clean it so in the morning i have to scrub dinner off her tray cuz he couldnt take 2 mins to wash it off. They have no respect for us its so pathetic they need a husband bootcamp i swear knock some sense into his damn head fyi the world doesnt revolve around only you he is sooooo loud to especially when friends come over him and his guy friends are always trying to talk over each other like there story is way better i cant stand it

Krista - posted on 06/16/2011

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Omg i had to respond i really thought i was the only one. My husband drives so flippin crazy. Hes a smoker so he coughs allllllllll the time i telll him all the time quit and youll feel better. He farts all the time he is the sweatiest sleeper omg i work graveyard so i can be home with the kids and if im lucky and get to be home early enough to catch some sleep before the kids wake up i get into bet and its just so sweaty and ughh he will try to roll over next to me and cuddle its nasty he is all sweaty and sticky. I absolutly cannot stand when he blows snot rockets especially in the shower its appalling to me. When weekends come along he is always im soo tired i need sleep its like ok waite a minute you can go to bed when you want if you choose to stay up late that is on you i have to go to work at midnight so i try to be in bed by 8 i get home around 7or8am then get my older daughter ready for school and then get her to school come home feed the baby i also nanny a friends daughter during the day so i pick her up around eleven am come baby takes a nap so i try and nap then i get up pick mjy daughter up from schoo, homework, dinner, baths etc not to mention our LO had heart surgery at 8 days old so she has dr appointments frequently school functions it never ends and he says im tired i need to sleep in its like waite what the f i just had the longest week i get one day off work and your tired wow. Then if he lets me sleep a few hours later he will come wake me up "so what time you thinkin of waking up?"really im TIRED wat part of that dnt you get. I also cant stand when i ask him to do someting around the house it cant be done when i ask it has to be on his time which means when i get home from work i have to do it cuz it never got done but if it does get then he helps me so much lol wow he wipes me out its rediculous so thank you i needed to vent i feel so blehhh all the time

Constance - posted on 06/15/2011

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Laundry I have always just looked at my husband like he is an idiot. He will get on the kids about them not putting the clothes in the basket. Then I will go to do a quick clean up before I head off to bed. His coat will be laying on the floor in front of the door, his damn steel toed boots in the middle of the floor. I have no idea how many times I have brok my flippin toes kicking the damn thing. Shirt on the kitchen chair, socks half way down the hall, and last but not least his pants on the bathroom floor only inches from the laundry basket.
I just look at him and shake my head. He always responds with "What? " I think I cured him of his boots in the middle of the floor. The last time I broke one of my toes I threwboth of his boots at his head. I didn't miss. He looked at me and I told him you don't have to wear the things to work you damn well better by dress shoes or I am filing for divorce. The best part were the kids. They all at the same time " Yeah Christopher get different shoes!!!"
My feet haven't felt this good in 8 years now that he works in another state.

Christy - posted on 06/15/2011

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I am glad that it seems like everyone has the same issues, so I am not alone! I have really grown up, I just realized that he isn't doing it on purpose, I know how he was raised (his mother waits on everyone constantly, he never had to do a thing for himself) and I was raised by parents that did everything together and for each other. We all were asked to contribute and especially take care of ourselves. But, because of how we were each raised, we had really different expectations. So now we just communicate our expectations and requests. It has helped a lot to realize that we are not doing what we do intentionally to annoy each other, we are doing it out of love, and so we just try to treat each other the way that we would treat people we don't know. I had realized that I was much nicer to people at the grocery store than to my own family and that really bothered me. It's like I expected them to take it because they love me, when really I should be giving them more consideration because I love them. It is really hard for me, tho, to change. My first reaction is anger, but instead of yelling "Who did this?" or "Didn't anyone notice that the cat threw up?" (when I know darn well they not only heard the cat throwing up, they made sure not to step in it!) I now just ask the closest person to help me out. And when they say "It wasn't me!" I say, "I know, but will you help me out" or I just answer that it doesn't matter who did it, but would you please help me? My kids are teenagers, so they can help, and if they give me an argument, I just remind them of all of the things that we all do to help each other out. It seems to be going pretty well. Much better than me being a martyr, feeling sorry for myself for having to do everything. Or being angry all the time. My kids are older so there is more that they can do, but I wish I would have started this when they were young. Everyone can help. And, I am resisting the urge to redo anything that they do, that is another issue that I have from years of doing everything myself. I have a system and it is the right way (LOL). I let them do it however they want as long as it gets done. And now they will be able to move out and take care of themselves. I was kind of getting concerned that I was raising them the same way my mother-in-law raised her kids. I want my kids to be able to take care of themselves. I don't know if this advice will help anyone, but it is working pretty well for our family.

Yvette - posted on 06/15/2011

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my hubby generally knows how to push my buttons, when im trying to explain something he always insits im wrong.... hes right all the time.... another thing is sleep!!!! he certainly gets more than me :(

Crystal - posted on 06/14/2011

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My Husband is a mechanic and we bought a new van because mine sat broke down for five months, and all that needed to be fixed was a oil seal. He is Always right and then I research to find the truth and when I tell him how it is he changes his story and says that thats what he was saying and therfore he was right. And he coughs all the time, almost everynight he coughs till he pukes, I get annoyed because it keeps me awake. He tells me that he cant help it because he has Sarcoidoses and Asthma, I tell him that he needs to quit smoking and use his inhalers, but he says the inhalers make it worse. He cant work because of the Sarcoidoses, yet I am not allowed to work because it would look bad if he was at home.

With that being said he does cook, clean(except dishes), do laundry, he play with the kids, and he puts up with me and my annoying behaviours

Kimberly - posted on 06/14/2011

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After reading some of these posts mine does not seem so bad :-) He keeps the garage clean and the yard in order. He will even put laundry in the washing machine once or twice a week.
I am a clean freak, I got it from my mother. It just bothers me when I go into the kitchen after he makes toast or coco and there is bread crumbs and coco powder on the counter. And I can not cook or do anything in the kitchen when the counters are dirty. So I have to clean the counters off before I make myself breakfast.
Or when he gets home from work and wants to get on the computer when he should maybe spend the next hour playing with his kids. They will be in bed in an hour and he can spend as much time as he wants on the computer.

Kimberly - posted on 06/14/2011

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He's messy. Maybe it is a guy thing. But mine makes a mess on the kitchen counter and doesn't clean it up. Leaves his dirty shoes around the house. It's like he doesn't notice when he tracks in dirt onto the floor. It's like having an extra kid around the house.

Jenni - posted on 06/14/2011

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Oh I got another one. It drives me absolutely bonkers when he asks me where something is before even attempting to look for it himself!

Fine, if that happened once in awhile but every day: "Honey, have you seen my keys?" You just put them down 40 mins ago, shouldn't you have a better idea of where they are than I would?

"Honey, where's the parmesian cheese?" As he is staring into the fridge and I am on the other side of the house. How should I know, do you think I keep a mental blueprint of the contents of the fridge??

Brooklyn - posted on 06/14/2011

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You guys have no idea what your comments have really done for me. I just joined today because I felt very overwhelmed and needed to vent and talk to other moms maybe dealing with the same issues I am dealing with and reading these posts has me crying and laughing at the same time. Thank God I am not the only one dealing with this. I love love love my husband but he's a freaking lazy pig! I am a stay at home mom and I think he believes since he brings home the bacon I have to do all the cleaning and cooking. I literally pick up after him and my two young boys every day. I can clean the kitchen and he will dirty a dish or even a cup and leave it there. His clothes are dropped by the side of our bed all the time. I believe my husband has cleaned the bathroom maybe twice since we moved into our house 3 years ago. I have been asking him to help me clean the garage for two years. Me and my mom ended up cleaning the garage. I have been so pissed off but now I really feel alot better. Thank you ladies. Really thankyou.

Anuli - posted on 06/14/2011

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mine is an alcoholic.once he gets high,he curses me,turns violence sometimes.needs a break,lousy.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/14/2011

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Mine can just lazy around and would only do things when he is in the mood to. Also he just goes on and on on any given matter and it gets frustrating sometimes.

Krista - posted on 06/14/2011

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Husband the same....leaves his clothes everywhere - must be waiting for the laundry troll to come around.....Then it is impossible for him to COMPLETLY shut his dresser drawers??? Don't under stand that one lol

Krista - posted on 06/14/2011

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My husband won't pick up something that is oviously right in front of him - he will just go around it and then state he never saw it when I ask him why he couldn't just pick it up. So I leave things purposly to see how long it will stay with out being moved other than by me.....

Christy - posted on 06/13/2011

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I guess I think that communication is the key to everything. I used to do things like let everything in the house sit to see how long it would take before someone else cleaned up anything. It turns out that my tolerance for mess is a lot lower than my husbands (and my kids). And throwing his stuff away - I did that, too. But then I realized that I was being childish and silly. And I wouldn't like it if he threw my stuff out. So I just told him how much it bothers me and that I hate to nag. So now I just ask him once and tell him how much I appreciate it when he does it. I used to think that he should just take the responsiblity to do things on his own, but the mess really doesn't bother him. But I think that he used to intentionally not do things that I asked because it annoyed him that I was always nagging him about it. Really, talking about it made a huge difference. I explained to him that the mess really stresses me out and that it makes life easier to just pick up after yourself. And if you put stuff away where it belongs, you always know where it is. Once he understood why I was so concerned about it, he really tries to help out more. I will always end up doing most of the housework, but it evens out. I don't ever have to fix anything if I don't want to.

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