does it make me a bad mom to say that sometimes my kids annoy me!

Olivia - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 77 moms have responded )

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dont get me wrong love both my girls more than anything but sometime i just cant get away, im home with them everyday except when i have school, and i never get me time so im so overwhelmed and my 8mos needs me in her face constantly and my 3 year old has an attitude u wouldnt beleive just woundering if anyone els feels this way!

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Mardi - posted on 11/20/2011

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The love, now thats unconditional, the like,....arrghhh not so much. Like any other human being, your child will not be any different, they will do things you like and things you dont like, its all part of learning. A lot of friends were shocked when I told them, no matter how much I love them, I'm not 'liking' them much at the moment.....lol ...an old saying, 'the truth will set you free'.....I always say the ones that gush or say nothing are the ones they really should be worried about. I think its the things you dont like about your children, that makes you the better parent, because you will try and make them the better person

Sandi - posted on 11/18/2009

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all mom's, grand ma's, aunties, cousins, women and men who have the kind of responsibilities that you have need ME time. don't do a guilt thing on yourself--it is ok to need that time; unless you're planning a world tour lasting more than 4 hours! the fact that you are able to voice your need shows that you sound pretty ok to me; it is the parent that says oh, i adore every minute of child rearing that scares me! Relax, endulge yourself in something just for you, and happy holidays! Best, sandi d.

Kiva - posted on 11/16/2009

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LOL!! All moms get annoyed with their children, but most of them will not admit it. We need ME time away from the kids and husbands. Time to re-group and think about why we choosed the hardest job in the world...being a mother.



In my house we have a rule: when I am annoyed. I tell everyone that "I need some personal space time." that means everyone go to their own rooms and enjoy their time alone. It really works, but not more that 30 minutes because my 4yr old is impatient.



Whenever your annoyed put each child in their own room and enjoy some personal space time....make it like a game. Like, who can stay in their personal space the longest or something.



Enjoy : )

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Michelle - posted on 11/17/2009

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of course - it's normal what you're feeling. totally normal. I'd worry if you said that you never had an off day.

Dahlia - posted on 11/17/2009

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If you didn't get annoyed once in a while you wouldn't be human. LOL! Try to have a day once a week or more where you have a few hours of just getting away for a while! Pick up your hobbies and be yourself again!

Sheena - posted on 11/17/2009

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Definately normal. My husband and I have a 7 month old and we adore him. We could not have had a more wonderful son. About three weeks ago my hubby hurt his knee and has been on crutches since then. So I have been tending to both of them in everyway possible. This past weekend I got sick with a nasty cough and feeling really weak. My sister came by and picked him up sunday to let me have some well needed rest and me time. Now I miss him terribly but I feel a lot better with myself with getting some alone time. My suggestion is like a lot of the other mothers, take the kids to a family members house for the night and spend the night doing what you want to do. Wether that means relaxing on the couch with the hubby, going to treat yourself with a mani-pedi, or just lying back reading a book. Once you have had a chance to breathe you will be back in step before you know it.

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No, it does not make you a bad mom to say that sometimes your kids annoy you. I have three teenagers and they really annoy me at times. Even when they were little they did. This is just saying you need a break and have time for yourself. Now my kids do more things on their own it is less, I enjoy them more until they get hyper and in my face which tells me they need to find something to do or we need to do something as a family. Hang in there and try to find more time for yourself.

Ashly - posted on 11/16/2009

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normal as can be I have an 11 month old and a 4 year old and they annoy the crap out of me I love them both dearly but sometimes they drive me nuts

Emma - posted on 11/16/2009

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I have a 15 yo son, and 4 yo son - so imagine the attitude I get from the 15yo and the frustration when the 4yo copies that behaviour. Aargh. Perfectly normal to feel that way, and I think anyone who says its not, is not perhaps being as honest as they could be (or maybe their kids are at boarding school!! haha) And if you need help, make sure you ask your friends and family to help you when you are feeling overwhelmed. And if they arent around to help you when you feel that way, look at both of your kids, remember how much you love them, remember the times they make your heart leap with joy, and you will smile. :)

Martina - posted on 11/16/2009

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god i hope not there are days i tell my kids i'm off can't stick ye anymore, being a mum is so hard anyone who says that at times its not frustrating is not honest

Robyn - posted on 11/15/2009

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Being annoyed with your kids doesn't make you a bad mom, it makes you a real mom. I remember calling my sister crying because I was so sick of my son I wanted to huck him across the room. I told her what a bad mom I felt like, and she said "Honey, it's normal to feel that way, you only become a bad mom if you actually huck him across the room" So there it is. It's okay to be frustrated with them, just don't take it out on them.

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ok well first off NO you are not a BAD mother and those that say you are probaly dont have kids or have other s to help them or dont just give a dA* about it but i have 6 kids and my youngest little girl is 2 and she has a attitude like u would not believe i got a 1 1/2 month old son so he is ok lol so far :) and my teen boys can get under my skin @ tyms my 3 girls dont always get along and wen that happens i just want to go some whr and BREATH but no dont feel bad about this you are normal if u would have said all was well than i would have asked wat MEDS are you taking l.o.l let me try ha ha ha
but hang in thr CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING

Candy - posted on 11/14/2009

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i have a one year old and sometimes he drives me up the wall!! i love him with all my heart but a momma can only take so much screaming and puling on the pants all day!! as far as im concerned, its normal!! lol... cuz mine annoys me too! Good Luck!

Tonia - posted on 11/14/2009

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Quoting Neri:

Your just human, my kids are all grown up now and left home but they can still annoy the hell out of me at times. I remember quite clearly though being stuck at home with 3 little kids that seemed to be constantly demanding something of me and no matter how much you love them you can't help but get annoyed. I remember at times just wanting to scream for space, peace and quite. Don't punish yourself for feeling annoyed but do try to find a way to have time out for you, we all need it even us Grandma's.


HAHA I love this seriously it is hilarious! My mom says that to me when I call and whine to her about how annoying my kids are "OK well don't expect it to ever go away cuz your annoying the hell out of me right, don't expect the job to stop" as she'd say!



I am so glad no women were mean or lying thru their teeth!



Of course its normal!



I have a 2, 4, & 6 year old! I am 26 I feel very overwhelmed, it is crazy! I agree with what she said to a T. I also agree with the mom of eight who said it does get easier as they get older!



For me I feel like after 4 it is easier before that there is not a lot of reasoning. So even though I am enjoying watching my youngest do adorable things I keep saying only one more to get to 4 and than I have finally escaped from the toddler stage! LoL!

Cindy - posted on 11/14/2009

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You're normal. Sometimes we listen too much to our little ones and their little attitudes can really get under your skin. It might help if you can find a way to either ignore it, laugh and ask why she/he is being so silly or maybe separate yourself into another room or just outside but somewhere you can still see the children and take a little breather (this used to help me). My girls are 19 & 20 now and I occasionally still have those same situations with them. They're a little harder to hide from now. Any way you could get 3 or 4 hours of girl time for yourself once a week? :) Best of luck.

LaKendra - posted on 11/14/2009

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As you can see, you are not alone. Kids sometimes annoy us just because they can. As for your me time, you may have to just take it. I find that leaving/sneaking out of the house while hubby is changing his clothes when he gets in from work tends to work out very well. Sometimes I just walk around Target and not buy anything. Just treasuring the alone time. Good Luck!

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HAHA!! NO you arent a bad mother!!! i'm a stay at home mom of 3 kids ages 4, 2, and 10 months. my 4 year old recently spent a month in Iceland with my husbands family. people asked if i missed him and i'd say "i know this sounds horrible but no i don't" i knew he was well taken care of and i thoroughly enjoyed having a lighter load.

Raemeaksha - posted on 11/14/2009

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I believe everyone gets tired of working ever now and then, even those who love their job. This is work. You MUST make time for just you. Try not to let them know that you are annoyed. This will effect their self-esteem, in other words you may be sending a message that you annoy me because you are just behaving like a child.

Taylor - posted on 11/14/2009

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LOL!!! NO it def doesn't make you a bad Mom, just an honest one!!! Try and take some time to get a massage, pedicure o)r something like that.. A glass of wine always helps too ;) Kids are the best, we just need a break sometimes.. It cracks me up because I'll get my Mom to babysit and then when we're out we find ourselves wondering what they are doing, but originally we couldn't wait to get out!!! =

Olivia - posted on 11/14/2009

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Quoting Donna:

It's perfectly normal to feel this way, I think just about every Mom does at one point or another, especially when you are home with them all day long!

Something you may want to try with your 3 year old to help with her attitude, find some special time for just the two of you. She may have developed this attitude because she is jealous of all the time you need to spend with her younger sister.



she has all my time she just screams because she thinks its funny, its a happy scream, we usually have time just the two of us right before bedtime

Olivia - posted on 11/14/2009

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thankyou every one you all had nothing my positive comments, i was crying and laughing so hard you guys are hilarious and encouraging thanks for coming together and easing my guilt, its hard not to get annoyed because my 8 mos old does everything my 3 year old does especially the high pitch scream when they are having fun cute and a headach!!!!lol

Donna - posted on 11/14/2009

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It's perfectly normal to feel this way, I think just about every Mom does at one point or another, especially when you are home with them all day long!



Something you may want to try with your 3 year old to help with her attitude, find some special time for just the two of you. She may have developed this attitude because she is jealous of all the time you need to spend with her younger sister.

Dolly - posted on 11/14/2009

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nope--annoying is one of thier most favorite things to do---wait til they get older!!

Samantha - posted on 11/14/2009

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this is totally normal. my daughter is 16 months, im pregnant with my 2nd, i work full time and go to online college fulltime. its hard and at times i want to sit and cry in the corner. my finace helps slim to none and i dont get much sleep. it is ok if they annoy you that is thier job. =]

Jennifer - posted on 11/14/2009

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It's normal to feel that way at times. But try driving 250 kids every day to school and mother hood doesn't seem so bad. Some times I just want to scream as loud as I can. IT makes coming home easier,and makes me thankful I only have two of my own.

Alisa - posted on 11/14/2009

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You are completely normal! And you pretty much said the solution in your question...what you need is some you time, and not just during school. Being a mom is a job, and so is school, you need a "play date" mommy! Do not think, I can't leave them...yes you can, and they and you will be better for it, trust me. Take them to grandmas or someone you know and trust and get out of the house, do not go shopping,, do not run errands, do something that makes you feel like a person,not a mom, do something you enjoy but miss. It doesn't have to be a long period of time, maybe just an hour or two. It doesn't have to be exspensive either, meet a freind for coffee, you'd be how much time will fly by while you catch up. Good luck!

Sarah - posted on 11/14/2009

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yes it's all normal...i have a 6 yr old daughter (whom thinks she 12) a 3yr old daughter (whom thinks she's 12) copy each other...and a 5 month old son....so i know what it's like having no time for anything else and it's easy to say ship them off...but my middle child won't sleep anywhere else other than at home ...so i have a treat night were girls get to stay up bit later as a treat then i get a much more relaxed morning the next day and then they have a early night this is usually sat/sun...so sun is my chill out relax night and i do nothing but pamper myself....also i find it nice to do a coffee/lunch with friends invite them to your house whilst older children are at nursery/school you can have a chat and a cupp with friends for couple of hours feels like you've had a bit of time out and then you can take it in turns to go to friends homes...saves money and at least you get to have a morning/afternoon to just chat and relax ( or ) as my children will only settle in their own beds i get them all settled and asleep then grandparents come to me to babysit so i get an evening out....as long as you make some time to do something for you think it helps to keep you sane....as running round after 3 children certainly takes it's toll on anyone....i make sure that no matter what the day has bought i end the day by sitting with all 3 children and we tell each other 5 things we like/love about each other then say goodnight & I love you's so we all go to bed feeling happy and loved ....x

Michelle - posted on 11/14/2009

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It's totally normal. I have one child right now with another due in a few weeks and my daughter gets on my nerves. I love her to death but there are those days when I just want to get away. I'm sure there isn't one mom who doesnt share your feelings. If there is one, she's lying to herself. Kids are a lot of work.

Denise - posted on 11/14/2009

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MY GIRLS ARE 5 YEARS APART THEY ARGUE FIGHT AND ANNOY EACH OTHER EVERY DAY FROM THE TIME THEY GET UP UNTIL THE TIME THEY GO TO BED. ITS JEALOUSY ITS TOTALLY NORMAL!!! I GO TO WORK TO GET AWAY FROM MINE

Ashley - posted on 11/14/2009

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oh god no....my oldest is driving me nuts right now as i type this and of course daddy is sound asleep in the bedroom!!

Joycelyn - posted on 11/14/2009

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No! I do not see anything wrong with that. I tell my son that he is working my nerves quite often! There is a difference in telling a child that they are annoying you or getting on your nerves rather than telling them that they "make you sick". I have heard some parents say that to their children and that is one of the harshest thing to say. But I know where you are coming from, I have a 2 month old, she gives meno problems at all, but my 3 year old son has become a handful. So, at times you do become overwhlemed and it is perfectly natural to become annoyed.

Heidi - posted on 11/13/2009

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NO, I tell my son his behavoir is annoying not to imply that he himself is. But yes it is okay as long as you did not dwell on it and make it a put down.

Elna - posted on 11/13/2009

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That just means that you are still a sane health person. If you ACTED on those feeling, we'd worry about you, but having them is normal, normal.

Marie - posted on 11/13/2009

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Ha no... whatever mom says their kids have never annoyed them is lying.. I tell my daugther her friends my neices my nephews all the time that they annoy the crap out of me... AND they still think I'm the best thing since slice bread.. LOL I love having kids around even when I dont have my daughter at home I tend to have someone elses kid.. But even for the person who can handle 50 kids at one time.. It just takes having one around to feel annoyed with them..

Samantha - posted on 11/13/2009

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god no!!! i think every mum goes through at one stage!!! biiigg hug!!! i fully understand & have only one daughter...

Carly - posted on 11/13/2009

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LOL. That makes you human. I homeschool my oldest while dealing with my 2 year old and am about to have another one. Thats what babysitters are for.

Christie - posted on 11/13/2009

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You are just a normal mom! If you can, find another mom to trade babysitting with for a couple hours a week, so both of you can have some time to yourselves. (I always thought the "terrible twos" were NOTHING compared to the "tyrannical threes.")

Denise L. - posted on 11/13/2009

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Dear Olivia: You are not a 'bad' mom for being annoyed at your children...you are only a HUMAN MOM!! Remember, though, that if you can take 'time out', other than when you have responsibilities at school, do so. Not only will that time away give you rest to re-group for the 'next round of action', but you will also be enabling your children the strength and ability to be independent thinkers with trust in others who stay with them. It is a recommendation from any point in life that if you first do not care for yourself, you will not have the strength to take care of anyone else. As long as you are providing all the basic needs [which as a parent, you already know is your responsibility] for your children in addition to a safe, healthy environment, you can feel free to be annoyed [just try not to allow it to get to the overwhelming state]. Realizing that everyone gets annoyed with others from time to time should help you feel a bit more at ease. Seek professional assistance of a pastor or trusted counsel or counselor if you get to the overwhelming state, but try to relax...you are HUMAN....with many jobs: Wife, mother, mother [cuz you have two children], student, home-maker, etc, etc...Congradulate yourself at all the accomplishments you are making...in addition to being a role model for behaviour that your children will replicate in their future. All the best with raising those two little girls! The time passes so quickly, in a blink of an eye they will be all grown up and you will be annoyed that they don't 'have time' for you. They are truly beauties, as I can see within your soul, you are, as well.
Kindest regards, Denise L. Clair [experienced mother and grandmother].

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If you didn't feel that way, I think, we would all think you were taking one too many tranquilizers.

Ashlii - posted on 11/13/2009

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LOL! my two boys drive me up the wall sometimes, i love em to death & wouldn't trade em 4 the world, but annoy is not the word

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I only have 1 18month old Son and he's well behaved compared to other kids his age. Still there are times I would just love to run out the door for a week when his Dad gets home. LOL Congratulations you're normal :)

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Annoy You??? I can remember when I wanted to sell them or return them to the hospital in lieu of payment!!! A hot bath worked wonders, for them and me. I took time to bath them and then had a good soak myself, sometimes a good cry with it. Believe it or not, you'll miss these times when they are 13 and think you have three heads and don't want your friends to even SEE you with them, much less MEET you. The diagnosis for what you have is "normal parenthood"

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I honestly think if you didnt feel that way sometimes, then that wouldnt be normal. I have a 14 month old and a 3 month old, and well a lot of days they drive me nuts! I love them more than life itself but being with them 24/7 can sometimes be overwhelming. At first I felt horrible for being annoyed with my children, but I have come to find its all a part of motherhood.

Cheryl - posted on 11/13/2009

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It is SO normal to feel the way you do! I have a blended family and all our kids are grown and they STILL annoy the heck out of us.You need to try to find "special" time just for you. I know it's hard with 2 little ones but maybe you could trade off with a neighbor , take hers for a few hours and she does the same for you, or gramma time.

Kayla - posted on 11/13/2009

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Totally normal. The thing my daughter does that drives me crazy is twisting and turning while I'm trying to change her diaper... If she would just hold still UGH, ya know what I mean?

Marie - posted on 11/13/2009

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Not only is it totally normal, I think children are masters at pushing all of our buttons... at once! Lots to learn from them, deep breathing and figuring out what it is that sets you off. I've found that it's easier for me to just say to my older son (4) or even my daughter (2) that I can't deal with them right now as their behavior is very upsetting/annoying or whatever it is. I admire women that can stay home 24/7 and not loose it. I can't wait to get back to regular part-time work just for mental sanity! and just like you I love them more than anything in the world and cannot imagine a life without them... I guess husbands are just a good step for us to be able to manage kids ;-) hang in there!

Angie - posted on 11/13/2009

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I agree with the other moms, you are not a bad mom. I always love my kids but sometimes their behavior drives me INSANE!

Lesley - posted on 11/13/2009

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I don't think it makes you a bad mom. I have four Children teenagers to little ones. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed, that I get a Headache and Nauseous just from the sound of their voices. I think as moms, we spend so much time taking care of EVERYONE else, that we forget about ourselves. Sometimes, we need to just take a moment for ourselves. A little break will make a big difference. Try it. Pamper yourself and let someone else worry about the kids for a moment. Always remember, without you the house can't function so take care of yourself and relax some to relieve the stress.

Joleene - posted on 11/13/2009

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lol no it isn't being a bad mom I think that we all can drive each other crazy from time to time

Sharalyn - posted on 11/13/2009

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LOL. No. I bet your a terrific mom. You daughters are your own and lets all face it, kids ARE annoying. Even if they are ours! Don't worry about it, if someone says any different, put your three year old with the attitude on them, that'll make'em shut up. =D

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