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Liz - posted on 03/18/2013

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You said: "If we don't agree then please just leave the commenting for someone who has a like situation."

Unfortunately this is a mistake that many new users of this site make. Any public post here is going to invite comment and some of those comments will be from mothers who disagree either with the original poster or with each other. Respectful debate requires good variety and not necessarily a consensus. Debate may engender new perspectives or deliver new insight and is not a bad thing. As long as everyone who replies to you is respectful and does not violate the site NO THUMPS policy, then they're welcome to post on your thread or any other thread that is open and recent. That's something that you need to take into consideration.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2013

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You know what? You are absolutely right. This is a place for women to come, ask questions, give and receive support, but mind you when we disagree with a thought or a post, we speak up. Maybe I was just trying to get you to see it is not your job to follow your husband blindly. But if that is how you want to live your life, that is not my choice.

That being said, I do think the best way to deal with the situation is to sit down as a family unit and discuss it. Have a session where the kids can ask what they would like, and both parents answer. If you honestly don't like how your husband is dealing with the holidays, please speak up. You have every right to celebrate how you would like to also, especially with your kids.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2013

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"he does and it's my job to follow him "

Quite honestly THIS statement is what struck a nerve with me.

Dove - posted on 03/18/2013

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I am a Christian... and we 'do' Easter. If your husband is taking the fun out of Easter for your kids then let him explain why. Personally.... I like my children learning about and remembering how Jesus died on the cross to save us from our sins and rose again. Yeah... technically it wasn't on Easter, but He wasn't really born on Christmas either. Easter IS very much a Christian holiday. ;)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2013

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Ummm....ok then. I agree with the other ladies. But frankly, no one dictates what I believe. I educate myself on issues and form my own opinions, especially regarding faith. if you have no say in your home with how you celebrate, then have your controlling husband tell the kids why you do not celebrate. After all, he is the final word..right?

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We actually celebrate Jesus's birth at Christmas time. And yes, I do study myself and so do my children. We all do. I don't know if maybe I put off that my husband is harsh, but I am in no way saying that. My question was asking if anyone had any ideas for me to help my children understand. In other words did anyone else go through the same situation. I didn't realize I would be striking a nerve with anyone and I'm sorry if I did. I thought this was a place where people could ask questions and get stories/advice from like situations and all though things can be taken out of context I don't think I was taking the comment about how controlling my husband is wrong. He is not controlling, we are trying to make this FUN...that was my question. Not can you help me tell my husband why he is wrong. You have your views and we have ours, if we don't agree then please just leave the commenting for someone who has a like situation. Thank you for your comments.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/18/2013

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The reason Christians observe Easter, is to celebrate the resurrection of Jesus Christ. You don't need to celebrate with eggs, or chocolates, or any other presents. It is just simply a gesture. But then you should not be giving presents on Christmas either since it is so commercialized.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 03/18/2013

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well hopefully you're not celebrating any secular holiday, including giving gifts at christmas. Your husband, since he is the dictator in your house, should be fully explaining, patiently, and as many times as are needed to convey to the children that you are only following the "true religious" meaning of holidays.

However, I encourage you to study as well. You cannot continue to blatantly accept your husband's word on everything, without educating yourself.

Liz - posted on 03/18/2013

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Is he also going to cancel Christmas then? That's also an originally pagan festival that was rebranded by Christians.

It's great that he's leading you in development in your faith, but I'd be concerned that he's going to drive a wedge between himself and his kids and, potentially, between them and your faith. Can you guys not follow the holiday the way the kids want to and use it as a talking point so that they understand which bits are the faith parts and which aren't?

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Yes, we are Christians. We always used to celebrate also with eggs and all. The deeper we get into our studies my husband is learning it actually is a holiday that has been "Christianized" so to speak and we are not able to celebrate due to his knowledge of it. Not saying that Christians are bad for celebrating, just that's theirs and this is ours. I know I can put little cross chocolates and such in a basket and such, we just don't do the bunny and the egg thing. My kids see their friends and stuff doing it and remember that we used to so they don't exactly understand why we don't now.

Lakota - posted on 03/18/2013

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If you don't mind, can I ask you what your faith is? It is a Christian holiday, but, I know people who aren't Christian who still have fun with their kids hiding eggs and stuff.

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