Does my 3 year old have OCD/Autism, strange behaviours

Mrs - posted on 06/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My 3 year old daughter has us totally shattered and now truly concerned as her behaviour, it seems, is not just a phase. I'll apologise in advance for a long post.
During a family holiday to Disneyland, my LO become unwell on the flight (fever, cold etc) and during most of the holiday was very particular, whining, grumpy, things were just not right. it was 90 degrees and she wanted to wear long socks a cardigan, with a hood up and a blanket wrapped completely around her, i put it down to feeling unwell and maybe cold. But since we got home it has been happening a lot. strange behaviours are worse of a night, going to bed is 20 min routine, her pyjamas are not right!, they have to be flat and touching her ankles, and even when we achieve this, she moves so we have to start over, her shoulders are not covered!, we have to literally mumify her in her duvet and that happens over and over, then she'll say her juice is not full, even though it is brimming, then it's leaking, when its not, then just when you think she might be settled, she says she needs the toilet, we take her and she does nothing, then the ritual starts again!. at first we thought it was diversion to avoid going to bed although she had always been a good sleeper, but when we thought about it, these behaviours are not confined to the evening, if she's watching tv, she has to be covered, her dressing gown has to be fastened a certain way, certain shoes are taken off as 'they are not right' and socks are a nightmare

We also have a 9 month old and an eleven year old, you may be tempted to say, its beacuse of the upheaval of a newborn, but this has only really happened in the last 3-4 months, we are at the end of our tether with her. I have noticed that common sense does help with her, if we take the time to explain how we are not getting 'it right' so is it better if we do something else?, but this doesn't help at bed time. Also she now wakes up almost every hour through the night, to repeat the same routine, which is physically and mentally exhausting for both of us, especially when its disrupts everyone else, Thank you for taking the time to read this, i hope someone can help x
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Mrs - posted on 06/17/2012

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Thank you Louise, i forgot to mention, the methods we have tried to resolve this,
1. reward chart for being good going to bed/ staying threre
2. talking calm, eye contact, reasoning
3. ignoring
4. give no attention, clear concise direction e.g Bed!
5. promising treats
6. threatening and carrying them out e.g No juice, then taking it off her
7. Slap to the leg, ( which upsets me more than her, she doesn't even flinch)
8. Grandparents trying to persuade her.

None of these work, i would say i am a firm Mum, it's Dad who's the softie, and i if i decide a method to try, i do follow it through.................... last night i slept in her room, and she slept through, not excactly a smart move, but it stopped all the repetative stuff at least!

Louise - posted on 06/16/2012

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Have you tried being really firm with her rather than doing what she is moaning about. Get down to her level and get eye contact and tell her there is nothing wrong with your pyjamas so stop being silly. Where your pyjamas with one leg up and one down to prove to her that nothing bad is going to happen. I know this means unsettling her but given the option of unsettling her or taking her to a councellor at three it seems worth a shot. You really do not want to reward this behaviour with your time and attention because she will be encouraged to do it even more and it becomes habit forming.

Seek professional advice if you cant get through to her, you need this stopped its unhealthy.

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