Does my bf hate my 6 year old son?

Mommyof3amazingboys - posted on 11/20/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I have 3 children, My 6 1/2 year old is from a previous relationship his father was never in his life my 2 younger children 1 1/2 and 2 1/2 is from him the one who i feel hates my son. He also has an 8 year old daughter from a previous relationship.

He is very controlling emotionally and mentally as was physical a few times and very dominant. It would be a long story but he doesn't treat my 6 year old the same as his 3 children. We walk on eggshells and honestly I live with my mom but there is no room for me there so I stay with him.

I have my 6 year old stay with my mom because I feel more safe for him. So anyhow I realize all the signs and everything and am in the process of getting my own place which isn't easy not having income or a g.e.d but I start a temp job Monday. Any how this is what really ticked me off and I cried like a baby when i discovered the pics .
/ He went on vacation to see his family for 2 weeks. I kind of remodeled the kitchen and bathroom myself for a surprise for him when he returned. I was cleaning out the closet to put the sheets away and i came across pictures with heads ripped off on 8 pictures these are pictures I printed out for him awhile ago of the kids and his daughter together. .
I noticed the heads were of my 6 year old son and a picture of my head ripped off. I see my 2 year old son which is his, in the pic but the person next to him ripped off which is my son. another pic of his daughter in a pic and my 6 year old ripped out of the pic. I know he hates my son i tell him that but he denies it. He had to of ripped the pics up when we broke up at a time i assume. But does he really hate my son? He is so beautiful ans smart and is not a bad boy

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Kelly - posted on 11/20/2014

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You sound like a good mom. You tried your hardest and didn't work. Moving on is an excellent decision. Good luck!

Kelly - posted on 11/20/2014

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That is terrible! I'm really sorry that you're going through this. Did you confront your boyfriend about the pictures with your sons head torn off? I would! Perhaps, his daughter did it and hid them? It seems so weird that a grown man would rip up and then save/hide those photographs.
Also, how does your son feel about him? Is he scared, or does he feel unsafe around him? What about around his step(?) sister?

Wether your boyfriends likes or dislikes your son isn't as important as the fact that your son deserves his respect. He doesn't have to love him but he does need to show compassion even when disciplining. And, in my opinion if your boyfriend loves you, he will try harder to make your blended family work!

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Mommyof3amazingboys - posted on 11/20/2014

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Thank you I feel I am I just need more strength but thank you i really do appreciate it

Mommyof3amazingboys - posted on 11/20/2014

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Hi yes I confronted him when he got back a few weeks ago and he's like do we got to talk about the past I'm like it is one thing to rip my pics up but my sons.
He didn't really say anything. also my son doesn't like him Because he is mean to him. He won't really come over he's 2 apartments down but he won't visit. my bf lives in a 1 bdrm and won't move he always talks n talks but nothing. I have to give up on my bf. My son is my everything. I have given up my self esteem my everything. I hate myself my life and I need to just get going. Thank you for your reply I need as much as I can get and I thank you for that.

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