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My daughter M is 13 and lives with her grandmother. We lost her father 7 years ago and I met a man who was a very skilled con and thief. He had conned me out of my house and money and then decided to steal a car. I was with him.He ran and having no way to support my kids I went with. We were in a different state when M was taken and I had to face the music. I am glad that part of my life is over but it resulted in M having to live with her grandmother. She is educated well, has many friends, goes to dance classes and tumbles and has many opportunities I could never give her. I am in no position to take care of her and so being with her grandmother is the best thing for her. I spent the last three years being here at her beck and call and waiting every weekend for her schedule to be free for her to see me. I started dating a man...I spend my weekends with him....It is the only time I get away from my older kids and grandkids. M who does not live with me will not even give him the time of day and has banned me from any thing she is in if I bring him. I am feeling like she is wanting me to choose and I don't think I should. I made plans with him this weekend and after plans were already made and expectations set in place because he has to drive a distance, M decides she is coming over...What do I do? My plans are already made. I know if I stay here with my adult children, I will feel resentful because the weekends are my free time and if I go there I will feel guilt....What do I do?