Josephine - posted on 01/22/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
I am pregnant (an accident which shocked me at first but now I am looking forward to being a mum, if not a little scared) and the father does not want to know - he is 49 yrs old so should behave more adult but he doesn't. I have given him the opportunity to have a say on whether the pregnancy proceeded - no response, and whether he wants to be involved in the child's life - no response. So I feel I've been responsible but he hasn't. He has a new girlfriend now and rather blinded by her silicon implants (and that is no joke)! The only thing he is bothered about is how much child support he has to pay. He has been brought up with morals (just doesn't display them) and I think the reason he has ignored the situation is that he does not have the backbone to say he doesn't want to know the child as against how he was brought up. He has never been married and has no other children we were together for a year before I got pregnant.
Anyhow, I am due to give birth shortly and I don't know whether to tell him when I do. Part of me does not want to as I don't believe he has the right to know due to his behaviour which absolutely disgusts me. I am also worried he may continue to ignore it and this will anger me - not for my sake but I don't believe the baby deserves such disrespect. But this is not about me it is about the baby and I feel maybe I should tell him so at least when the baby is older I can explain that I did try but he did not. So should I tell him or should I not?