Jes - posted on 02/24/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
My partner recently had a baby. We had been together for a month after she found out, she had gotten pregnant by her ex-boyfriend. I am head over heels for her, which I know has nothing to do with this but is why I chose to stick around. I have been supportive from the very beginning. I've helped financially, I've helped with moral support and even encouraged a relationship between her and the father. The baby's father, however, has done nothing financially and only caused a lot of stress during the pregnancy. He has threatened to take her to court several times but hasn't yet. So after the baby was born, my partner agreed to let him see the baby even though he failed to attend the OBGYN appointments or do anything but argue with her. At the hospital, he was very apologetic and begged her not to file for child support. They agreed on times he could see the baby and an amount he could pay. He agreed to all these things at first and then did a 180. He decided that the days he could see her wasn't enough and that he had agreed to help pay too much. Now he refuses to give her information to finish child support papers. I know that the papers can be submitted and they will track him down - but one of the things they consider on his part in court is if he fails to pay child support. Thus far he has paid nothing. He has threatened my partner and myself many times and has said very hurtful things to us both. Is there anything we can do? We think this will go to court so we are trying to prepare but at the point my partner does not want to see him at all. We have arranged to meet him in a local place every Sunday until things are sorted out. Is that enough or do we need to bend over backwards so the court knows we tried? Even though we've done everything we can up until now?
In desperate need of some help but if you're against same-sex couples, please do not fill this up with hate messages. That isn't what this is about.