Michelle - posted on 04/05/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )
Lately (and over the years) the fact that my husband doesn't really try to build relationships with our kids has really affected my feelings for him. I'm constantly wishing that he would spend more time with them for their sakes and his. He just doesn't seem to see the importance of spending quality time with them. Having to witness the relationship he has with our daughter breaks my heart. It seems like almost any time he says something to her it's negative or said in an angry tone. He rarely has a normal conversation with her (she's 13). And then there's our 5 year old son...healthy, active, needs lots of attention and teaching. Why does it seem to be mostly up to me to make sure that he's physically and mentally stimulated through playtime and learning? I've been really busy lately (finishing up a teacher prep program) domi haven't been able to spend time with the fam that I'd like to. I just don't understand how he can not want to pick up the slack and spend time with the kids instead of either watching tv or sitting at the laptop watching anime. We've talked about it, but attitudes always get defensive. I try to understand how he can be so proud of the fact that he's home all the time (were a military family), but he seems to take the time the time for granted. I'm at the point of wanting to go to counseling. We need the love back in our marriage. How can I fix this?