Does your husband/significant other clean the house?

Kayliecia - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 99 moms have responded )

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When my husband is at college or even every day i clean..all the time! when im gone he does what i ask, sometimes..or sometimes he'll say i forgot and i have to do it. I ask him to do like the laundry and stuff and i just dont know why he cannot do the same things i do when im home. any suggestions? or going through the same thing?

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Katrina - posted on 02/26/2013

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I am going through that right now. I'm so frustrated because now after 3.5 years of marriage I've come to realize he's a chauvinistic mysoginist. And I'm not name calling here. He told me "after I got married I expected to never have to do housework again." He hates feminists, he believes women have a "place" and he blatantly ignores me when I ask him to do anything. The thing is he has no problem with me working, I just have to perform triple duty. Perfect housewife, perfect mother and work part time. He doesn't understand why it's so hard to keep the house perfectly organized, perfectly clean, supper ready on the table when he gets home. On days I work and he has to be Mr. Mom he does nothing and when I confront his expectations of me against the possibility of him achieving it he says he can't do it because its my job to keep the house. On top of that he says he has a sore back so he can't clean, or he had a hard day at work etc etc. I've told him things have to change or I'm leaving him but he scoffs and says I want a divorce over dishes. In a way it's true but the fact is we have to little girls who see the way he treats me and it scares me to think that they are being taught that this is acceptable.

Vicky - posted on 02/28/2010

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My mother went on strike once. She spent a day putting up signs everywhere stating what needed to be done.

We ignored it of course.

But my mother is evil (or smart... or both). You only need to have your dinner served up on plate of mouldy food once to put your plate in the sink after dinner.

You only have to open your undies draw on the night of big date to be confronted with a drawer full of dirty smelly undies (which made the clean ones smell) to put your dirty undies in the dirty laundry hamper.

And then after she got us trained to do that... other things stopped getting done. Like she'd leave our clothes out on the line if it rained (we didn't have a dryer) and you only have to go to school in the winter with wet clothes on once (it doesn't get below 55f here, she's not that cruel) to notice it raining and dash out to bring *all* the clothes in.

Even smarter, she'd vacuum around her chair, but leave the rest of the room disgusting, so we'd notice the difference.

Any crap we'd leave around, she'd put in our beds (rubbish and all)

Harsh, but it worked.

She called it basic training. I think she was right.

K - posted on 02/22/2010

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Mine does a good job with the big stuff...laundry (because at some point he runs out of underwear), dishes (because otherwise he has no coffee cup), and floors (because he hates walking on junk), but he does not ever seem to notice tops of things getting cluttered, or that there's an inch-think layer of dust or that the shower is getting a second skin of soap scum. But that's okay, because I notice them, and we're in a partnership. Maybe pay attention for awhile and see what he does notice and take care of. If it's horribly imbalanced, talk to him and ask him if you two can come up with a list of daily/weekly chores that each of you are responsible for. Having a choice in it and a predictable job might make it easier for him to remember. And once he starts noticing those things on a regular basis, you might be surprised how it helps him notice other things, too.

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Michelle - posted on 02/24/2010

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I am going through the same thing. My boyfriend does dishes when he feels like it...I could go to work and the sink be full of dishes and when I come home, the same dishes are still there and sometimes they will still be there in the morning the next day. He helps with our daughter more than he used to but I end up doing everything else.....I have had friends tell me to stop doing his laundry until he starts helping around the house more.

RaeJean - posted on 02/23/2010

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I told him that I needed help around the house and said he could pick what chore he wanted to be in charge of, cooking, cleaning or laundry. He picked laundry. It is entirely his responsibility. It helped to give him the choice.

Deb - posted on 02/23/2010

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I think you make a very good point about not complaing about what he does do. Sometimes we try to push a little to much and that just drives them further into not wanting to help. If we do it in little steps then they are more apt to help out.

Brandy - posted on 02/22/2010

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my hubby has had his ups and downs and goods and bads about helping me. he was laid off from his job in january and i can not get him to hardly lift a finger on housework, while i work no less than 50 hours per week. when i say something to him about it, his response is that i dont do anything around the house anymore....i feel like i shouldnt have to come in after working at least a 10 hour day and do housework, especially when he has done nothing else at all than sit on the cell phone and watch tv and roam the roads....i am seriously getting sick of it! i am on total strike at home. i wont even cook anymore. i tell the kids and hubby it is a fix your own nite. i am sick of not getting any kind of help from any of them, but especially my hubby. the kids are at least going to school......

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Before the baby, I worked, and kept the house spotless. Now, it always looks like a wreck. (My husband does help though) But I've decided that as long as he doesn't care, I don't care. I say, "I'm sorry the house is a mess..." and hes says, "I don't care..." then we snuggle and watch a movie with our baby between us. The dishes just stay where they are. Our family is more important than a clean house.

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Yes! My husband is a doll. He never complains that the house is getting messy...he just gets up early and tackles something. No, he never really gets it clean the way I would have done it...but by God he's helping and that's good enough! I NEVER fuss or complain that he didn't do it quite right. If you do, they stop helping altogether. ;)

Arlene - posted on 02/21/2010

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Encourage him to help without belittling him for not participating. What I'm getting at is that men speak another language, not like women do. They want to know how to help not be told what to do. First tell him how you feel about your chores and how helpful it would that he contribute. Speak to him with patience and know that if you explain clearly to him that it takes a whole crew to run a home, not just mommy, he should be wise enough to understand and therefore naturally comply to help with the household chores and daily upkeep. Hope that makes sense and helps. It worked a miracle with my husband and I pretty much don't have to nag him anymore because he chooses to do it out of his own free will and grace. Be well and be patient with him. If you do, he will come around:)

Darcy - posted on 02/21/2010

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My husband is a giant slob! And I really think he has A.D.D.! When he actually does things around the house, they're never totally done - i.e., does a load of laundry-but leaves it sitting in the washer overnight, takes out the trash-but doesn't put another bag in the can, vacuums - but leaves the vacuum cleaner sitting out with the cord trailed all through the house. It drives me insane. I try to thank him when he does things, but it irritates me that I always have to clean up after his cleaning! ;o) Oh well - he's a great guy and I love him anyway - we've been together almost 14 years and have a 18 month old little girl.
HOORAY for the ladies that have guys that are really pitching in and keeping things clean!

Teresa - posted on 02/21/2010

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both my husband and i work full time (2days, 2 nights) 15hr days. We have 4 children the oldest is 12 and the youngest is 2. We made up a compromise together just to keep sanity in our home, cause it is busy and i can't lie we get very tired and nobody wants to do the work. When he works and i am off, I will make the meals do the cleaning, laundry, etc. When i am working and he is off then he will do the same. When we both work we try to help each other. We will make simple meals that we enjoy and the kids eat and help tidy up together. There are times we will say whatever and wait till our days off to clean. This works for us. There is always that communication like "hon i didn't have time to finish the dishes can you do it." And it usually gets done. If it doesn't, i try not to make a big deal out of it, cause life is more than bitching about what you did and didn't do. It will eventually get done.
Also not all men are great at being mulitaskers. They have to do one chore then start the next, while most of us can do the laundry, make dinner, help the kids with homework and vacumm at the same time.
My suggestion to you would be sit down with your husband, tell him what is bothering you the most about the household chores and his lack of helping, ask him if there is a way that he would be willing to participate more to help you out. And design a pattern or something that would work for the both of you. Like every tuesday he will do the laundry and make dinner, something like that. Keep the communication open! He might think you like doing it all on your own. Who knows? Keep talking Good luck!! :)

Munira - posted on 02/21/2010

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my husband dont do dishes, laundry, cleaning, or handling the kids AT ALL. he does however iron his own shirt cos he needs it done a certain way.

however, after a fall i had recently that cause me to lose function of my left arm (temporarily). surprisingly he did the sweeping, laundry, bathed the kids, send them to school, even the pots and pans. i guess they could do it if they didn't have a choice.

Jenny - posted on 02/21/2010

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my husband of thirty years is hopeless, my daughter has a good strategy. she says can you do this in the next few hours/days. this way she can gently point out if the thing is still not done without an argument

Deb - posted on 02/21/2010

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My husband started doing housework while I was working an dhe was laid off. I was working nights 12 hour shifts. He would stay up and do the house work. Now it is reversed and it's hard to get him to stop! Not to mention he is working on his bachelors degree besides working full time. Even if I try to get him to back off some he won't. I think some of it is the way his family home looked and he is determined ours won't look like that. It wasn't dirty by any means but so cluttered there was barely room to wlak and he had 6 brothers and sisters and several nieces adn nephews. At teh time we were married the family would gather at his parents home every Sunday and it was hard to find a place to sit and no place for the little kids to play. If they got in the way they were yelled at. So I guess having space for the family members in our home is important to him, which means things being put in their place.

Niki - posted on 02/21/2010

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I so hear what your saying, my partner never does anything unless asked, and even then he may forget, he doesn't like mess, and if I can be bothered in picking up after like I have done alot then the house looks mess, and he gets in grump says he is sick of this mess and started to tidy up, the thing is he use to pick up my stuff and not his grrr, like he put the baby carseat/capsule away when I was going to be using it in 2hrs, he does work 12-14hr days, but then so was i 7 days a week, I have come to the conclussion that unless we win lotto we are only having the one child.
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Danielle - posted on 02/21/2010

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My fiance will do basically anything I ask him to do, sometimes he does the dishes, and his job around here is to empty the garbages but I do everything else. It doesn't really bother me. As my son got older and easier to look after the housework doesn't seem like so much work to me. Anyways, I'm a bit of a control freak and prefer to wash the floors and clean the bathroom to my liking. I think with men you pretty much always have to ask them to do things you want done. Most of the time an untidy house doesn't seem to bother them much.

Vicky - posted on 02/21/2010

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When our son was born, it made far more financial sense for me to go back to work and him stay home than it did the other way around. What I found was that he could either look after our son, or he could clean the house, but unlike me, he couldn't do both. If I nagged, he'd get all sulky and defensive, and the fighting would get our son all upset.

For a while, I tried to be supermum - I tried to work full time, interact with our young son when I was at home, and also have a clean house, ironed clothes, nicely cooked home meals etc etc, but it was killing me (and I ended up exhausted and cranky and it was ruining the relationship with my husband & our son).

In the end, I just had to accept that the man I married is a loving husband, and wonderful dad, but he's a lousy woman. The house permanently looks like a bomb hit it, and I am terrified of people coming over and seeing the mess we live in.

I often wish that it was me who got to stay at home, and it was him that was at work full time, but its never going to be, and I knew that going into the relationship. If I could afford a cleaner / maid, I would, but I can't. So the dishes pile up, the toys are everywhere, nothing gets ironed (yay for permanant press and cotton/polyester blends), and we have take-out 3-4 times per week.

Its unfair, yes, but the men of our generation were never raised to be housewives, and we still carry the indoctrination that the state of the house is a reflection of the character of the woman that lives there, when its not. The only way we can change it is to teach our sons to share that housework (and indeed, how to do it properly, not half-arsed like a typical man does it) and see it as much their responsibility as it is their future partners, just as working and parenting are also equal responsibilities. That, and we need to stop judging other woman about the state of their houses, because as long as we do, we perpetuate the problem.

Jaimie - posted on 02/21/2010

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I only wish i could get my boyfriend to do some of the cleaning. I ask him to clean up the house, or at least straighten it up and do dishes on his days off while I am at school, but most of the time I come home to a mess. It is so stressful to go to school, come home to 3 toddlers and a huge mess. I love the kids, and if you ask them to pick up, they will, but I can't get my boyfriend to do it? Its amazing how much easier it is to train a child to help you clean up the house, but training another adult is close to impossible!

Rebecca - posted on 02/21/2010

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I work at a hospital in Little Rock, Ar,as a CNA. So I work 12 hour shifts,3 days a week.
I have a wonderful Husband who does the laundry,that's a lot of work .You know they say the laundry is never done...! but we both help out with chores.I clean the kitchen ,the bathrooms and the kids clean their rooms and vaccum takes everybody working together to keep a clean house. But lets be honest ,it doesn't stay clean all the time.The laundry builds up again,life happens,we get sick .Things happen. We are not perfect,by any means. But we try ....to help each other out,team work!
My kids are 11 and 13. So if you have little kids ,hang in there. They get older and able to help out more. I know I am blessed to have a husband that helps a lot.
Rebecca Porter

Chrissa - posted on 02/21/2010

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If I ask, I get told "I'll do it" and then he might do it, but on his own schedule. He claims to be germ-o-phobic, but then dirty dishes from dinner get left on the counter. We have a difficult time making a list of chores for each of us to do because I end up doing everything anyway. Once in a while he'll do something I ask. He said to me a few months ago, "If you tell me you need me to do something, I won't consider it nagging and I'll do it"... so then I tell him to do something and I get told, "Stop telling me what to do." It's a double-edge sword, really. And I haven't mastered the art of not saying anything when it's bothering me either, so that's not helping (but I will try my best today). But as I write this response, the dishes and pans from dinner last night are in the sink and on the counter dirty and the dishwasher has not been emptied from 2 days ago... and where is he??? He's in bed since he was up late watching tv, and I am downstairs keeping our 7-month-old entertained.

Cheryl - posted on 02/21/2010

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Mine does not clean up and it drives me nuts, now that I'm 8 months prego I have been giving him choices, like clean the kitchen or the play area or bath something, please, he will do dishes on his only day off which is Sunday so Sat night I do not do them Sunday I sleep in, I try not to complain because he works more so I don't have too but the housework is never ending and I always feel behind, it would be nice to not have to ask and if they would just see what needs to get done but they ignore it like children do. Good luck try my tip, give choices, toilet or shower is a good one, vaccume or dust, make them the things you hate to do....

Anastasia - posted on 02/20/2010

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LADIES!!! Face it,these men were little boys once,and "MOMMY" cleaned up for them then,and still expect it now.When they move away from"MOMMY", it might be a bit of a shock,the whole moving in together,having kids,and running a household.So I suggest that you ween them into chores slowly,one chore at a time,and let them know that you appreciated the help very much.,Even go as far as leaving a little surprise note! Even though we might feel angry,and burning up inside,"MEN ARE NOT MIND READERS", so if you dont communicate your feelings to your partner ,you'll just fester up a bad atmospher thoughout the whole family, and that doesn't make for a peaceful loving family,and "LADIES,LESS STRESS=LESS WRINKLES"!!!!!

Gillian - posted on 02/20/2010

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I have found that if you leave a space for someone to do something they will realise they can or have to, when we clean up or do things because we can do it better or faster, the other person may need to take longer or learn how for themselves which is the best way. We have been taught by circumstance or parents the right way to do things which worked for them, but times change. We also need to change and let unimportant things go, how the house looks for visitors( just in case they arrive unexpectedly) who's role it is to do things some men enjoy things that have been the woman's domain and some women enjoy the manly things around the house. Move towards you strengths and let go of the unimportant things, remembering to leave the space for others to learn as it filters down to the children. Instructions help those learning.

Deb - posted on 02/20/2010

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My husband has always been good about helping around the house to do whatever I needed him to do, whether it was laundry, dishes or major cleaning he has always lent a hand.

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My husband and i both work full time and both know which jobs the other wont do. For example he wont do dishes or cook but i wont mow the lawn or do any gardening. So we both do the laundry and general cleaning and he does the floors. And we also pay someone to do the bathrooms. We also have older children who are also responsible for their own mess and jobs like feeding pets, doing the dishes etc. It basically takes time and communication and habit for it to work for each individual family/couple. Talk about what your expectations are with regards to housework and ask what his are. Good Luck.

Melissa - posted on 02/20/2010

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You "Betcha"! hehe,

My husband works fulltime as a construction worker-- I work fulltime as a mother and wife. I do all of the cooking, and cleaning, and taking care of the needs of our little girl. But I will say, I AM NOT A MAID. lol. He picks up his own dishes off the table and takes them to the kitchen, he puts his clothing in the proper basket, he picks up his towel after a shower, he helps make the bed in the mornings-- All this because he knows that I deserve that little bit of respect. Good Luck!

Erin - posted on 02/20/2010

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I feel ya girl! When I'm gone, often he'll do laundry or pre rinse the dishes, or even try to pick up after the kids at the end of the day. BUT it's hit and miss. If I ask for something to be done, usually he does it, then and again he "didn't get time" or "forgot" lol. A lot of times I find that I could have done it better myself. But I try to look at it this way....at least he does SOMETHING, KWIM? I could have a guy who thinks that's simply "a woman's work." I suggest that when he does do something for you, go out of your way to thank him, and guys do love it when you spice things up in "other ways" if you know what I mean. That is GREAT motivation for them!

Chantelle - posted on 02/20/2010

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if people are around my man will pick things up and tidy,esp his family. but when its just us, he cooks every night, he does dishes at least once a day, tidy's up the back yard and takes rubbish out. so he does help i suppose, more than most.but if i leave a list he will do it, or even ask he will do it. they dont think about the same things we think bout..lol..cleaning or helping that way, is the last on there mind... i think the list idea is the best :)

Pamela - posted on 02/20/2010

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My husband works everyday and take online classes! so i guess he feels he should'nt have to do anything and he does'nt.I do all the cleaning and take care of his MOTHER.

Ashley - posted on 02/20/2010

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My husband and I both work full-time jobs. My husband cooks and cleans more then I do. And sometimes I have to admit he cleans alot better then me

Megan - posted on 02/20/2010

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My boyfriend hardly do anything. Once in a blue moon he might pick up some toys or do a dish. That is about it. To tell you the truth, I am sick of it. I have come to realization that it should be partnership and if he doesn't see it that way we are done. Its hard enough to teach your child responsiblities when a grown adult in the home doesn't act that way.

Fawnia - posted on 02/20/2010

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Everyone has different living standards on how to clean and take care of a home. It's nice to communicate and compromise. Some people are super clean others are super messy, and others some where in between. I think as long as I have a child my place will never be super clean, so I learn to live comfortably with a little mess. However, I just cannot live with someone that is super messy.

Marissa - posted on 02/20/2010

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My hubby is really good! I do a lot of the housework (daily chores) because he works and I stay home right now. But he always takes out the garbage and he does dishes without me asking and will tidy the house if it needs it. If anything else needs to be done and I ask him he'll do it. I wouldn't trade him for anything. ♥

Lara - posted on 02/20/2010

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Okay, I've got it REALLY lucky! *grin* When my hubby was at home with the kids for 5 months while looking for a job (I worked full-time), he was Mr. Mom to the utmost. I'd come home and find my floors mopped, laundry washed, house vaccummed, shelves dusted, the whole nine-yards! Granted, the kids may or may not be dressed but my house was immaculate! (All I had to do was fold/put away laundry.) I was spoiled!



Now that I'm the one home and he's working full-time, it's up to me to keep the house clean (that's our deal), but he still does help out on weekends. However, there are times when he'll nag about the state of cleanliness in the house. Trying to explain that I can clean the bathroom and 5 minutes later it's trashed due to kids doesn't seem to work. So I started keeping a list of "accomplishments" on our fridge. Not only does he get to see what all I managed to get done during the course of the day, but on those days when I feel like nothing got done, I can see that yes, I did actually do alot. Since then, we haven't had any issues!



I suggest sitting down and discussing a division of household chores. What expectations do each of you have when it comes to cleanliness of the house; what needs to be done daily/weekly/monthly; division of labor... that kind of stuff. That way you are both on the same page. And seriously, think of keeping an "accomplishment" log, not to lord over him but to remind yourself that you did get lots of good stuff done during the day!



Good luck!

Tabitha - posted on 02/20/2010

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right now im actually a stay at home mom so i do most of it, but on days that my significant other is of he does hlp out around the house. i do have children old enough to help out also, teach your children young and they will grow up helping you out.

Lynn - posted on 02/20/2010

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I think an honest conversation and a little bit of rebellion worked best for me. I asked my husband to help me with specific...when it didn't happen, I would leave the mess wait until he got sick of looking at it, he would get motivated to help me. It took a lot of patience on my part to live with the mess for a few days, but now he is all about helping when I ask.

Crystal - posted on 02/19/2010

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Men need lists, their brains are not wired like ours. The only thing they remember to do around the house is scratch themselves. I have been married for 11 years. My husband used to help out alot, but as time went on, and we three kids later he takes the garbage out (he tries to get my daughter to do that). He also helps with the dishes at times. BUT THAT IS ALL! I even think i mowed the lawn more than him over the summer because he just wasn't doing it.

Tracy - posted on 02/19/2010

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Shrink all his clothes. Worked for my mom. My husband always does laundry. He hates how I fold.

Marie - posted on 02/18/2010

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ladies whose husbands do housework, please let them know they how much you appreciate it! =)
my husband does not do housework unless i ask him to do it and the only things i expect him to do are take out the trash, bring the cans to the road, move heavy objects, and deal with the really disgusting/scary stuff (like the sump pump in our basement, empty the dehumidifier, etc). any other "domestic" type things, i do myself. maybe he doesn't do it because i don't ask for help... lol i don't want him to though bc he washed dishes for me ONCE and i hurt his feelings by washing them again.... lol my house isn't spotlessly clean or always dusted, but it is clean as in we're not filthy slobs, everything has it's place in our house. we have a 4yr old and a 1yr old and after going through a year long deployment where the 1st half i was pregnant with our now 1yr old and the 2nd half i had a newborn and a toddler i learned that things don't have to be perfect as long as we're in a clean/safe environment. i will say this though... if i DID ask him do help me, he would bc he knows if i'm asking for help i truly need it. he leaves the house at 5am for work and doesn't get home until 5pm or later most nights so, to me, the least i can do is take care of our home and our children. i don't wait on him hand and foot by any means and we are equals in our home... no one person has more say so than the other. just because he's the "bread winner" doesn't make his opinion any more important than mine. he knows first hand how difficult it is to maintain a household while i work... we've done that before (he worked nights and stayed up all day with the kids while i worked during the day at one point in our marriage) so i don't feel like he takes the things i do around the house for granted. this is just the way things work for us though. no 2 relationships are alike and you two will have to find a common ground and figure out what works best for you.

if it's really an issue with the two of you, i would definitely have a serious heart to heart with him. you don't want it to cause problems in the long run. i have found that when we do have issues that need to be addressed, it's better for us to have it out until it's over and done with and the situation is resolved and we've come to an agreement. we're both very stubborn so we'll stick it out to the end of the argument. lol

Tanya - posted on 02/18/2010

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My husband is very good at helping with house work, but I have learned over 20 years it that he sees things different than I do. When I wash the dishes, I also clean the counters and stove. When he cleans the dishes it means loading the dishwasher and running it. Sometimes washing some of the pots and pans, too. But almost never does it mean clean counters. The same with the laundry. He will wash clothes but almost never folds the clean clothes. I have figured that it take both of us to clean. We both work full time outside the house. I have learned that the things he misses, I can pick up the slack. Also it really helps to say thanks!!

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2010

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There is this old movie and in it this girl is complaining about her husband to her mother. Her mother gives her a book called how to train your dog. It's a very funny movie, but really great advise. Men need lots of praise for doing it and disappointment for not. For example, the dog had an upset stomach in the house last night. I didn't want to clean it up. I didn't say I wasn't going to do it. I just complained loudly how gross it was. He cleaned it up and I made this huge deal about how appreciative I was and even posted something on Facebook how awsome he was. He feels like a hero and I never have to clean up gross stuff. Now my sister has her husband trained to do all kinds of things around the house, but he expects a lot more from her than mine expects from me so I figure it's a pretty even trade off.

Kathleen - posted on 02/18/2010

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my man is also a mama's boy it used to annoy me when his mom would fix his dinner plate (at 35) I finally put my foot down and told him she wasnt his servant and wouldnt let her do that any more. his mom is a peach I love her to death, but she only made him into a softy. We also have an agreement to disagree. we lived together for 15 years then i started to travel for my job, it took him missing me to ask me to marry him i didnt give him a chance to chicken out we got married last year 1 week before our 15th anniversary. he also tries to do good the only aggrivating thing he does is claim that it the womans job to do the cooking, so my retailiation is it is a mans job to take out the trash........

Kathleen - posted on 02/18/2010

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he certainly does, he is manic about it, i work on the road so it is his thing, I never leave anything where it doesnt belong he tends to get a little bent out of shape. but he doesnt cook

Cindy - posted on 02/18/2010

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I am a blessed woman! My husband cleans, does laundry and everything else but cook!

Aimee - posted on 02/18/2010

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This may sound awful but sometimes men are like children. They want a reward or to be praised for doing a good thing. If he does do what is needed, praise him A LOT or cook him his favorite meal or something like that. Or if you don't think he will do it without incentive tell him "Look, if you will do _____ (fill in the blank) I will give you____ (fill in the blank). See what is worth it to you for him to help out... even if it means doing something you might not wanna do because let's face it... he doesn't wanna do chores either! LOL Hope this helps!

Toni - posted on 02/18/2010

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mine is the same way.. he works all week. i clean. i work on the weekend. I clean.. LOL.

Brittany - posted on 02/18/2010

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sometimes i swear its like talking to a wall when i ask him for help! other times he looks like a conffused dog when i even mention the word clean. and forget about changing our daughters diaper or giving her a shower ... aint gonna happen. sometimes i really think men need to be smacked int he head sometimes. its like we have to grab them by the hand and lead them to what needs to be done like a little child. so why waste the time .. i just do it myself instead of asking him and then starting a fight .. just a waste of my breath honestly....

Zarah - posted on 02/18/2010

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he doesnt even know the meaning!
pretty good at ironing and pot washing so hes forgiven..

Sylvia - posted on 02/18/2010

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Don't clean all day! Enjoy time with your child/ren, life is too short. Maybe your husband could help you after teatime with washing dishes,etc. and you could give your house a thorough clean once a week, maybe at weekends. My neighbour used to keep my daughter for an hour every Friday to let me do this, I used to keep her daughter for an hour every Thursday when she did her housework. Compromise! Happy houses are not toy free and tidy!

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