Does your school age child have temper tantrums?

Lori - posted on 06/22/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )




If your child is between the ages of 5-10 and has frequent emotional outbursts/ tantrums .... I want to know if you also used the cry it out method to "sleep train" your child. There is growing evidence that infants allowed to cry it out suffer from impaired emotional development.


Sarah - posted on 06/22/2014




You can't take one instance and make a general conclusion. I have 3 kids and I did cry it out with all of them. All are emotionally well adjusted and have done well with no issues and no tantrums past the age of 3 yrs old. My oldest is 16 and is looked highly upon by friends and teachers. I also do daycare and in all honesty I actually see more issues with those that don't allow the child to learn how to self soothe then those that use cry it out. I am not for one or the other as it depends on the child as to which way is best. I think a balance between the two is actually better and allows the child to develop properly. As a parent our job is to love, nurture, and prepare our children for life. Without nurture you have issues and without allowing a child to figure things out on their own you have issues. Each child is going to be different and have different issues developmentally that may delay or advance them. Even as adults we have this....that is what makes us individuals.


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Dove - posted on 06/22/2014




My son never did CIO as I am 100% against it. At 6 he has a wicked temper (he's always had it) and has pretty extreme outbursts. He also has a diagnosis of depression and anxiety... which is genetic... I was also never left to CIO either and I was very similar to my son as a child.

Lori - posted on 06/22/2014




This is for personal interest. I have a family member who let her child cry it out from infancy and I firmly believe this method is cruel and a of neglect. In my own personal research I have learned that an infants rapidly developing brain will not form the right connections necessary for emotional regulation when under the stress if being left alone to cry in their cribs. Now this child is 8 years old, has severe temper tantrums, aggressiveness, and other social/behavioral issues. There may be other factors involved in his home life that I not aware if, but I am curious if there is a connection between the cry it out method and children with behavior/emotional problems.

Jodi - posted on 06/22/2014




If this is for research, this probably isn't the best way to gather your research because there is no validity in it.

However, if it is just for personal interest, I never sleep trained my kids, and they sleep well and have very few emotional outbursts. We tend to be a family that "discusses" issues and allows "space" when someone is feeling emotional.

I have also done some training in trauma children, and am part of a welfare team, as a teacher, and I think to blame sleep training alone for temper tantrums in children ages 5-10 is not taking all considerations into account. Yes, it can be a contributor to the way the brain works neurologically, but it isn't the only factor. To suggest it would be due to sleep training is an over simplification.

But then, I am pre-empting the motive of your post. So my apologies in advance.

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