Doesn't want to go to school

Normie - posted on 08/11/2016 ( 14 moms have responded )

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She doesn't want to go to school any more! What's to go to tafe.What do I do! The school counsellor year co ordinator. Everyone try to help. She is 14 and 8 mths. And going to a good catholic school

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Normie - posted on 08/12/2016

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Thank you for your informative info. I live in Australia I need to see what is available here. I do believe this is the answer for her

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2016

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Dove: Tafe in Australia is where you go if you don't get into University or drop out of school. They usually do the apprenticeship training like hairdressing, electrician, mechanic, etc.
Normie: She isn't allowed to leave school at this age now. She has to stick it out. I would be really wanting to know WHY she doesn't want to go to school. Especially since she wants to go to Tafe, it doesn't make sense. Maybe a change of schools would help.

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Dove - posted on 08/13/2016

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I think Normie was saying she hopes her daughter's attitude towards school changes... and that I can totally relate to. I've been hoping the same thing w/ my son since preschool... lol

Michelle - posted on 08/13/2016

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No, it doesn't have to come from her. YOU are the parent and YOU have to tell her what is happening. She doesn't get to decide at this age, she has to go to school so there's no discussion.

Normie - posted on 08/13/2016

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Thank you so much to everyone who has replied, I don't feel so alone in this ! At this stage I am leaning to wards a local public school. I hope her attitude towards school will change. Yes , I know it has to come from her!

Michelle - posted on 08/13/2016

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Why would she have more disrespectful language if she goes to a public school. News flash......she will hear all of that at a "Good Catholic School" as well. I went to a Catholic high school and there were more drugs there since most of the families have more money.
I think you need to get over your impression of public schools and think about sending her to one.
If you home school her then you are just giving in to her demands and aren't teaching her that sometimes in life we have to do things we really don't want to do. You need to be the parent and not give in to what she wants.
Life sucks sometimes and as a teen it is a hell of a lot easier than as an adult. You aren't doing her any favours by pandering to her.

Jodi - posted on 08/12/2016

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Not all schools are the same. Yes, there are still rules in public schools, of course. There are rules everywhere and she will have to learn to live with that. However, a public school may cater to different styles of learning a little better. I am a teacher in a public school, and we often have students transfer from catholic schools because the catholic school environment doesn't really suit them, but they do quite well in our school environment. It's not that there are fewer rules, but that there is more flexibility. My kids go to catholic schools, and there IS a difference in expectations. But she is still going to have to get up in the mornings and go to school and follow rules. But that's just life. If she won't do it, then have consequences in place for her. I'm sure she has a social life - if she wants to keep it, she needs to do her part.

Normie - posted on 08/12/2016

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I totally agree with everything you said and has all been disscussed with her. Don't the same rules apply in a public school? I prietty sure they do. She thinks by changing, it will make a difference. In what way? More direspectful language ....

Jodi - posted on 08/12/2016

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She can't leave school yet, legally. Period. She can't even qualify for a school based apprenticeship at her age. She is going to have to suck it up until she meets the requirements. I don't know what state you are in, but basically, she's not even legally allowed to have a job yet.

I also agree with Michelle. She doesn't like mornings? Too bad! That's life. So are rules. How on EARTH is she going to hold down a job if she can't get over herself? Who is even going to want to employ her with a crap school record? At her age, she probably hasn't even finished Year 9 yet - who wants to employ a kid that hasn't completed Year 9? I know I wouldn't. Even TAFE/Trade courses generally have minimum entry requirements. She needs to learn a few home truths about the real world, and it starts with school. Be a parent and tell her her JOB is to go to school right now and get an education so she then can HAVE those choices she seems to want so badly.

With regard to the "good catholic school"....maybe it isn't the right school for her. This happens. Not all kids thrive in a catholic school environment. SOmetimes a public school may be the better option. Have you considered this?

Dove - posted on 08/12/2016

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My kids are taught by teachers. It is actually not home school, but a public charter school. 'I' call it home school because they do a lot of work at home on the computer, but they have face to face time w/ their advisory teacher every week, virtual classes twice a week w/ each teacher, and face to face time w/ each teacher when that teacher is in the area (works out to once every 2 weeks or so).

I live in the US though and this school is my state's version of K12 for high schoolers.

Michelle - posted on 08/12/2016

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Unfortunately, life has rules and work has early mornings. Does she not realize that working is a LOT tougher than school? Tafe is just the same as school as well, you have to go to classes on time, do your homework, these are all rules.
She needs a bit of a wake up call if they are her reasons for not wanting to go to school.
She needs to know that life is about doing things we don't really want to do but have to. They really aren't valid excuses for wanting to drop out of school.

Normie - posted on 08/12/2016

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She doesn't like earlier mornings,and rules uniform time etc. Your kids are home schooling? If so who teaches the kids a teacher or parent?

Dove - posted on 08/11/2016

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Why doesn't she want to go? Why does she want to go to the other school and is it feasible to make happen?

My daughters were Freshmen at the local public school last year and they HATED it. This year they are going to more of a home school type thing (technically it's a public charter school, but some days are face to face, some are virtual classes, and some is independent learning time) and even though it's only been not quite two weeks they are thriving and we are all glad to have made the switch.

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