Doing their homework

Shannintipton - posted on 05/04/2011 ( 17 moms have responded )

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Do you ever do their homework for your kids because its faster that way? Have you ever thrown out an assignment because YOU didnt understand it and couldnt explain it to him. (I have . . . once) Nothing was ever mention but I felt so bad I would never do it again. {:+)

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Dominique - posted on 05/05/2011

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best thing to do is have him read and and stop a bit and have him tell you whats going on so far in the book and idk how old he is but have him write it down that way it stays fresher long.

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Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Hi Amy,

I wish I had your determination and I didnt start out this way. I feel homework and school are very important. I didnt really go to school and now I am, as are my kids, paying for it. Thank God my husband went to USC and can support me and my kids. Because if I were a single mom I would be in a whole lot of trouble. And by the way, I dont really do it for him. We just skip a story or two once in a while. Thanks for your input {:+)

Amy - posted on 05/05/2011

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My kids don't have homework yet, but when they do, I will not be doing it. What would that teach them? to never do their homework because mommy will. No thanks. Not going that route. I could help out if they have questions here or there, but it's their responsibility to make sure it's done well and on time. Just part of growing up. And if I don't understand it, I'll just flat out let them know I'm just as puzzled as they are.

Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Thanks Dominique,
He is eight so his stories are pretty stupid too. Oh that sounds awful . . . but true. lol {:+)

Dominique - posted on 05/05/2011

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my mom used to do that to my sister and i remember once she sent a letter to the teacher and told her she needed to explain the homework to parents better so that they can help there child.. ever since that day I had to help my lil sister with her homework cuz my mom had no patience

Shannintipton - posted on 05/05/2011

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Oh crap. He has a book report due soon. Thats going to be a lot of sleeping with my eyes open. shoot. :(

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2011

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LOL, Shannin, that's like me pretending I care about my son's rugby game - I HATE rugby and I don't even understand the damn game. If there is one thing I do well, it is nod and look interested when I have no clue.

Shannintipton - posted on 05/04/2011

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Oh Jodi your a better, stronger mother than I am. Good for you. I just spent the last ten minutes pretending I cared about what level of a wii game he was on. Thats ten minutes I will never get back lol {:+)

Jodi - posted on 05/04/2011

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No, I never do homework FOR my kids......ever. I tutor, I mentor, I encourage, I assist in finding resources, I try to ensure they understand, but I refuse to DO it for them.



My son and I are studying Year 8 Algebra together at the moment. Oh what fun :\

Shannintipton - posted on 05/04/2011

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@ Jane
In my defense . . . It was REALLY hard :( But I will never do it again . . I think . . . I hope. {:+)

Shannintipton - posted on 05/04/2011

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@ Jennifer LOL
Mine is only in the second grade. It is still too hard for me. Yeah for me, way to go. Mom of the year over here. lol {:+)

Bonnie - posted on 05/04/2011

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I never have, but I have one who is only in kindergarten and the other is not in school yet. I honestly don't know what I would do if it came down to it.

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2011

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I never have, but one time, my baby was in the hospital, and of course I was with her. That left my husband who usually works 12-14 hours a day with 3 kids. He usually has his mom help when this happens (she's been in there 4 times this winter), but she's in her upper 60's and not in the best health. So, one night he gave my son all the answers to his homework, but then explained how we should never do that. Of course, I can't tell you how many times I've wanted to do it for him. As far as it being to hard, I'm not there yet. My oldest is only in 1st grade.

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Nope. 5 years worth of homework for 2 kids at the same time and I haven't considered it. I have signed off on inaccurate reading logs, but that's cuz my girls read ALL the time.... they just don't always remember to write down the right book and page numbers. ;)

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I took J to taekwondo right after I responded to your post and asked a couple of the other parents there who have older kids if they had ever done their kid's homework for them when time was tight, and you know what?
One mom was actually sitting there doing her son's math!! lol.
Most of the parents who had older kids had done it at some point--life gets full: sports, music, dinner, etc. Saving time by "helping them out" on occasion will not hurt them long term. They are not going to fail math if they don't do all 30 homework problems themselves. The unanimous response was that as long as we (parents) can tell they know the information and how to apply it, they don't need to do tons of work just to practice and prove it.

Shannintipton - posted on 05/04/2011

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@ Kelly,

I didnt think I would do it for him either but I did. I dont do it a lot if anything we stay up until the wee hours of the night. Which I hate but has gotten better as of late. {:+)

P.S. I am sorry I just read my post and it came out really wrong. thanks for your input {:+)

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So far, nope! But my son is only in kindergarten.

There is very little to actually hand in for his homework, we just have to sign to say we did it. It takes about 15 minutes--worksheet, story, calendar activity.

That said, there have been a couple of rare nights that I signed the sheet when we didn't finish. I caught him up the next night by doing two calendar activities. If we missed reading a story, I guess I would try to do it the following weekend because he simply doesn't have the attention span to read two stories in one afternoon...

I have never considered actually doing the work for him...I don't think I would do that.

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