Don't grandparents have rights, even when CPS is involved in California?

Deanna - posted on 11/24/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )




My grandson was taken away from his parents the end of August 2012. I found out a month later when they had to come live with me for a couple of months.

I went to CPS and asked for visits with my grandson. They arranged every other week visits for an hour.

The first two times my son (my grandsons uncle) went on the visits with me. My grandson acted different. He wasn't the happy little boy he usually was. He really didn't want anything to do with me. I figured it was the unfamilar surroundings. We had supervised vists at the CPS office. He warmed up to his uncle and we all played. The next visit he seemed even more distant. He barely spoke a word. This was very bothersome to me.

The next visit they set up was a month out from my last visit and in the morning and his uncle was unable to come on the visit as he was in school.

My grandson was not my grandson. I felt like a total stranger to him. The supervisors instructed me to hold him to read a book to him. I was reading to him, but let him stand next to me. I picked him up and put him in my lap and he just clung to me and started crying. The supervisor instructed me to get him to stop crying. I tried for a two or three minutes with no avail he continued crying. The supervisor then proceeded to tell me that I was traumatizing him and she grabbed him out of my arms. She left the room with him. I am really bothered by the way she acted and took my grandson from me.

The head case worker came in and informed me that I was the only one he acted this way towards and after every visit he was traumatized. I told her he was in an unfamiliar place and didn't understand. I also stated he is wondering where his mom and dad are, and he was expecting them to come. That's how it was when I had him off and on throughout the summer. They would always show up to pick him up after a few days. The kids have not seen their son since he was taken in August. This is really upsetting to me.

The head case worker told me that was going to be my last visit with him. I'm crushed my heart is broken. I thought we grandparents had rights

He is staying with his other set of grandparents. His grandma Shonna is a very jealous woman as I have found out these past three years. She would get upset at the kids when he would stay the night with me, and she wouldn't talk to them a weeks at a time because of it. I feel that she has been conditioning my grandson against me. She has rised her own three girls not to have anything to do with their grandma and a couple of their aunts. To this day my daughter in-law hides when she see's any of these women. She was conditioned not to like them.

The CPS case worker is friends with the other set of grandparents and also worked with the grandpa here at Chico Police Dept. prior to her becoming a CPS. Isn't this unethical practices?

Any input would be appreciated, thank you


Denikka - posted on 11/24/2012




Call the higher ups in the office and request a change in workers. Keep going as high as you need to and don't take no for an answer. This could absolutely be a conflict of interests here.

Beyond that, you could go to the court system for visitation. CPS is not the end all. Talk to a lawyer about what your options are. See if there's a way for you to get guardianship (different than custody) and visitation. At the very least visitation. Express that you have reason to believe that the environment he's in is detrimental to his relationship with you. Document everything you can about your grandson, his behavior, the situation, etc.

Why have your son and daughter-in-law not seen their child since he was taken? If they're being denied any visitation with him, that makes it seem pretty serious. If they're choosing not to go, that doesn't look good for their case.

Whatever the case, look into your legal options. Grandparents may have rights, just like fathers, but to get them adhered to, you're probably going to have to go the court system. Look for a grandparents rights group in your area. They'll have information, support, and resources for you to use :)

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