Lori Marie - posted on 07/21/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
So my husband and I have had our issues in the past. He has another child with someone else, who I absolutely cannot stand. When we first got together she would not stop calling and he would talk to her on the phone ALL DAY (not an exaggeration). She kept him from his son for two years and when we first got together is when she suddenly wanted him in his sons life. Anyway, he doesn't do that anymore (it's been two years). She has finally realized that he doesn't want her back or anything like that. Well he had me look for something on his old facebook and I came across these messages between him and her. Let's just say my heart was ripped out of my chest. I was shaking and so upset when I saw them that I didn't even want to look at him. They were messages like about how he loves her more than anything, and she is all he thinks about and also about how she is the best one in bed. Pretty much I was just a place for him to stay back in the day and someone to have sex with. We barely talked about it. I told him I knew about them and that it really hurt my feelings and he hurried and said "I made a mistake" and then went on to say how much he loved me yada yada. I don't even want to know what they would talk about on the phone (he would be in a separate room and never let me in). Anyway I need to talk to him more about it because I feel that I need to get more off of my mind, because what he was doing was pretty much cheating. They don't have this kind of relationship anymore because when she found out that we were getting married she flipped out and flipped even more when she found out I was pregnant. Now she LOVES to cause problems. Also, my husband told me that he "though he loved her" but realized that he only wanted to get back with her so he can be with his son all the time (still upsets me regardless). How should I talk to him more about this? I don't want to be and feel like the nagging wife.