Don't know what to do.

Katie - posted on 05/24/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a 2o month old and I am 31 weeks pregnant. Lately I have been very sad/ depressed feeling. I feel like iI do not do anything through out the day. I am a stay at home mom and I have no idea what to do with my toddler. Has anyone else felt like this before? Any ideas that might help me get out of this funk and any ideas to help with the toddler and things to do?

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Katie - posted on 05/24/2013

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I don't know where to find any play groups and all my old friends don't really talk to me. Me and my boyfriend are doing good. Sometimes we argue but its mostly because I over react. I'm not the person I was when I first met him.

Elizabeth - posted on 05/24/2013

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Hi Katie, nice to meet you!

Do you think you were feeling depressed before you got pregnant? It could just be hormones and feeling ready to have the baby out, I gave birth at 35 weeks so I can't imagine a full term pregnancy. Do you have a happy relationship with your spouse? The way your husband makes you feel could sometimes really affect your level of happiness or depression. I feel like this all the time now that my fiance and I have bought a house and my daughter is 21 months old, it's very hard to handle everything and sometimes I'm so depressed I can't even do simple tasks like get laundry done.

I find that spending time with girl friends is the most positive thing you can do for yourself. Bring your 20 month old with you, kids love seeing your adult friends as much as you do, they get tons of attention that way! I take my daughter to dinner with my girl friends once a week and she loves feeling like a little lady with all the grown ups, it's fun. I know this is an unconventional suggestion, but I think it is just what you need to get out of the house and have some social time before the new baby comes.

Janet - posted on 05/24/2013

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I understand. It is so hard to completely change your life and dedicate it to the lives of others. In the meantime, you are expected to completely disregard your own needs...and that is not right.

Here is what I did:
1. I found some cool parent groups in my local area. I started to attend as many as I could throughout the week. I noticed hat as soon as I got out of the house, with my baby, we had a mission, a rain d'etre. This relieved the bordem, got me moving with purpose, and I even ended up making friends...which helped lot!

2. I insisted on spending 1 day per month, doing something that I liked to do. I would pay a babysitter to watch my daughter, and I would go to a gym, or shopping, oe=r just walking around and sitting at coffee shops.

Because you do matter!

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