Christina - posted on 06/07/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )
My ex-husband had almost all of his rights taken away by the courts. He is allowed restricted visitation and has seen his kids for a whopping 5hrs in the past 2yrs. I just found out that he and his little 20yr old GF are pregnant, due in Feb. He is 29. He is mad at me because I won't let him tell the kids via phone that they are going to have a baby brother or sister. First of all, he has already promised the kids he is going to try and come see them. That isn't going to happen. Between the $600 he pays monthly in child support and a new baby, he will have no money. I think it is cruel to tell my kids about this baby when they are not going to see it (or see it once, then not again for a few years). Also because of this baby, he can't come see the kids. We live 1400 miles away from him. My 7yr old daughter is already mad at him for doing bad things that made it where we had to leave immediately. If she finds out he is having a baby, she will probably never talk to him again once she discovers that he is taking care of this baby but not her. As much as I hate him, I don't want him to destroy the very fragile relationship he has with his children. And this baby is going to do that. I don't care that he is "moving on" with his life. I got married 5wks ago, and have a wonderful family. I don't agree with him having another baby when he lost his rights to his kids because of his actions and he has done nothing to fix his past mistakes. Am I wrong for not letting him tell my kids about this new little spawn he is having? I know they will find out, but NOW is not the time, especially with the increased risk of miscarriage in the 1st trimester.
*Side, I don't wish ill on this baby at all. While I can't stand the poor things parents and feel sorry for this child, other than that, I have no emotions about it. I really don't care what is fair to this baby though. This baby is not my problem. Only thing I care about is my children.*